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tyno3
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   Posted 1/20/2009 12:07 PM (GMT -6)   
It is all I can do to move. I hurt all over from my Fibromyalgia, and hurt worse due to wanting to go over to that hospital where my Dad is being held, and get him home. He's in the hospital due to aggressive behavior and the incidents were becoming more severe and more defiant.  I couldn't get him to back off when he was in one of his bad moods, and sometimes that would go , like that for days. I had a lock put on my door but sometimes forgot to lock it. The wandering at night increased. He would open my bedroom doorin the middle of the night and scare me half to deat. When he attempted to assault my son, his granson, I got between them and asked him to back off. He would not. So I called the mounties. How awful this DD is. I don't know the vacant eyed man whom people call my Dad. All I know is, he scared me almost to death with his violent and verbally aggressive behavior for two looooooooong years. Thank-you, I had to get that off my chest. 
Hypothyroidism, Fibromyalgia, Facet Joint Syndrome, High Blood Pressure, menopause, Migraines, Chest Pain, Anxiety and Depression/BiPolar II
Synthyroid .075mg., estradiol.5 mgs., Amyltriptilene, 100mgs, bedtime, Tylenol 3 PRN (six-eight, daily), Valium 7.5mgs. daily prn. Flexeril, prn (not so helpful), Zoloft,150mgs., Zomig approx. 12 per month, prn., Meds for High Blood Pressure, vary.


Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/22/2009 12:31 PM (GMT -6)   
TYNO
Come here anytime and vent you do need to do that
I know I did so many times

I also have fibro and just fell the other day and due to prednisone I am on (I believe it makes our bones more brittle) I now am in a foot or walking cast.........

I know the pain of fibro and hun you have to try and get some rest and try to get some relief
ARE you on any meds to help with the pain
You have to be in shape to have your dad and looking after him

I so am proud of you and your continual suport of your dad no matter what he does
Take care and email me if you want k

U and him are in my heart thoughts and prayers

Luvs
LYN
 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

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                            Keep The Fight Going..Or YOu Will Lose
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
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tyno3
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   Posted 1/22/2009 2:11 PM (GMT -6)   

Thank-you Lyn for your kind words. We (my son and I) moved my Dad, yesterday, to a nursing home, 15 miles away. I feel a bit better today, but am completely out of strength by 2 PM. I generally get up fairly early, I have some pain meds but they always run out a couple days early, before the next refill. I know better but sometimes after I take the recommended dose, and still hurt after 2 hours, I'll take a third pill. I told my doc and he didn't seem to be too concerned because it's a mild  narcotic, and I try to make up by skipping my nighttime dose, but it becomes a vicious cycle, then I wake up in even more pain. Soooo, take meds as directed. There is a rationale for why they are prescribed as they are. Sometimes we think we're smarter, but we aren't. No med is going to take away 100% of the pain. It just takes the sharp edges off.

My Dad is settling into the new place. I may go this evening or tomorrow for sure. I am back to bed now till I stop hurting.

 


Hypothyroidism, Fibromyalgia, Facet Joint Syndrome, High Blood Pressure, menopause, Migraines, Chest Pain, Anxiety and Depression/BiPolar II
Synthyroid .075mg., estradiol.5 mgs., Amyltriptilene, 100mgs, bedtime, Tylenol 3 PRN (six-eight, daily), Valium 7.5mgs. daily prn. Flexeril, prn (not so helpful), Zoloft,150mgs., Zomig approx. 12 per month, prn., Meds for High Blood Pressure, vary.


Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/22/2009 2:43 PM (GMT -6)   
I am glad you got him closer and that you are going for a rest my friend
YOU need it with all that you have been dealt IMHO

I also tell my doc if I take an extra Pain med and he will add a PRN to my RX for me
I dont do it often but sometimes the pain is too much to handle as you are well aware

Luvs and take care you

LYN
 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

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                               Moderator@Alzheimer's..
              CO Moderator @ Anxiety and Panic........Co Moderator   @ Crohns                    
                            Keep The Fight Going..Or YOu Will Lose
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
                                     LYN


tyno3
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   Posted 1/22/2009 5:24 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank-goodness it's not just me. I used be on a much more potent pain med, Lortab 10, and then my Doc here,  wanted me to try to get by with a compound only about 1/2 as strong. I do my best, but it's not enough sometimes. I find here (in Canada) they are much stricter and are hesitant to give you anything. I had a triple extraction hugh molar, it split in three pieces and all kinds of gum was excised, I had to beg for medication. She gave me enough for two days, i didn;t get to see Dad today, I konked out once my head hit the pillow. Tomorrow.
Hypothyroidism, Fibromyalgia, Facet Joint Syndrome, High Blood Pressure, menopause, Migraines, Chest Pain, Anxiety and Depression/BiPolar II
Synthyroid .075mg., estradiol.5 mgs., Amyltriptilene, 100mgs, bedtime, Tylenol 3 PRN (six-eight, daily), Valium 7.5mgs. daily prn. Flexeril, prn (not so helpful), Zoloft,150mgs., Zomig approx. 12 per month, prn., Meds for High Blood Pressure, vary.


Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/24/2009 5:43 PM (GMT -6)   
AS you know I am in Ontario I am so blessed to have a doc that will not let me be in pain
'
I am on Oxycontin 40 mgs 3 times a day and percocets for B/T pain

I was on 60 mgs of morphine 4 times daily with a 10 mg Instant release.........but they had to recall the morphine and I tried the new ones they had and was so sick I could not get out of bed ........did nothing for the pain

Could you not talk to doc again and explain this is not helping you at all ......
Keep me posted plz
Luvs
LYN
 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

Donate at  www.healingwell.com
 
                               Moderator@Alzheimer's..
              CO Moderator @ Anxiety and Panic........Co Moderator   @ Crohns                    
                            Keep The Fight Going..Or YOu Will Lose
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
                                     LYN


tyno3
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   Posted 1/24/2009 8:14 PM (GMT -6)   

I musta said a bad word or sometjing. Howlyncat, I just wrote a too wordy reply to your suggestion of getting my Doc to wake up re. stronger meds. Anyway, you're absolutely right, but here for whatever reason, they only give the really effective stuff to cancer patients. That leaves us "Trying to function despite constant, debilitating pain"with watered down Percocet, a pat on the back and a "don't let the door hit you on the way out. I am going to inquire about a patch. I think constant release methods takes the guess work out of how to stay ahead of the pain. Once it sets in, it takes extra medicine over a longer time frame to get an effective management going. We digress,

I went to the nursing home to see Dad tonight. He seemed quite happy. He loves chatting people up, but can get a little irritating to some as he can seem overbearing. He definitely seemed to be having a good time. They had his bracelet on him that buzzes in nursing station if he gets near an open door. Otherwise he has free range, and he ranges freely. The nurses can't keep up. When they call to ask if there's anything in particular he likes to do, because he's such a livewire, I will tell them, give him a spade and send him out to the fenced in recreation area, he'll have the soil all turned for a garden, come spring. So, I feel more comfortable now that I see he is adjusting well. I'm going to hang back on the visits for a bit b/c he seems to be adjusting just fine, but being as he's my Dad, when he sees me he thinks "responsibility". Like he's got to figure out how to take care of me. I guess you never stop being a parent, if you are a parent. I have my youngest son here right now. He was in the city, working really hard, and developed a hernia. I don't think he took enough time off from work and his boss was driving him. He quit. He has been very helpful re.: driving mearound, running errands and such. It's a family effort. 


Hypothyroidism, Fibromyalgia, Facet Joint Syndrome, High Blood Pressure, menopause, Migraines, Chest Pain, Anxiety and Depression/BiPolar II
Synthyroid .075mg., estradiol.5 mgs., Amyltriptilene, 100mgs, bedtime, Tylenol 3 PRN (six-eight, daily), Valium 7.5mgs. daily prn. Flexeril, prn (not so helpful), Zoloft,150mgs., Zomig approx. 12 per month, prn., Meds for High Blood Pressure, vary.


lynnie771
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   Posted 1/27/2009 3:27 PM (GMT -6)   
hi....just hoping you are having a peaceful day.......

tyno3
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   Posted 1/27/2009 8:56 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey, Tyno here. It wasn't exactly peaceful, I'm still settling my Dad's estate issues, we have to sell the farm. That's the business I'm in presently. Sorting, separating stuff, selling some, hoarding some, the place is run down, damp, cold and nasty, but they were packrats and I don't know what to do with a lot of it. However, I'll just keep chipping away at it. the gentleman who is interested in buying the farm, says I can continue picking away at it for an additional few months. It's odd. Anyway, tomorrow, i drive my son to the closest town to visit some friends. I'll be alone here with just the dogs. I will be fine. Thank-you
Hypothyroidism, Fibromyalgia, Facet Joint Syndrome, High Blood Pressure, menopause, Migraines, Chest Pain, Anxiety and Depression/BiPolar II
Synthyroid .075mg., estradiol.5 mgs., Amyltriptilene, 100mgs, bedtime, Tylenol 3 PRN (six-eight, daily), Valium 7.5mgs. daily prn. Flexeril, prn (not so helpful), Zoloft,150mgs., Zomig approx. 12 per month, prn., Meds for High Blood Pressure, vary.


lynnie771
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Date Joined Oct 2008
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   Posted 1/28/2009 4:57 PM (GMT -6)   
tyno,
if not peace, perhaps you'll find balance....thinking of you
lynnie

Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/29/2009 4:44 PM (GMT -6)   
I have been depressed over having to go and get all the stuff out of mom and dad's house this wknd
I am glad your dad is happy but he will be a bit overbearing at first

Tale care of you
I will be on tomorrow morning
Luvs
LYN


 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

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                               Moderator@Alzheimer's..
              CO Moderator @ Anxiety and Panic........Co Moderator   @ Crohns                    
                            Keep The Fight Going..Or YOu Will Lose
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
                                     LYN

Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 2/5/2009 10:41:45 AM (GMT-7)


tyno3
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   Posted 1/29/2009 7:12 PM (GMT -6)   
Dear Lyn: you're not going to believe this, but I am doing exactly the same thing, have been for two weeks, probably have
another two weeks ahead. I can only do about one hour at a time, I have to wear a mask cause of the mould and deteriorating fibreglass. Then i have to market the stuff to make money to bridge the time owing for Dad's care at the nursing home. Because he was an emergency placement. I hope they're patient with me because he was left with hugh bills accrued by my stepmom, and now I'm left with hugh bills for both he and his wife. I don't enjoy bartering. I do have a buyer, for the house and property, I just have to wait till he's back from vacation. It really is a most depressing task.
Hypothyroidism, Fibromyalgia, Facet Joint Syndrome, High Blood Pressure, menopause, Migraines, Chest Pain, Anxiety and Depression/BiPolar II
Synthyroid .075mg., estradiol.5 mgs., Amyltriptilene, 100mgs, bedtime, Tylenol 3 PRN (six-eight, daily), Valium 7.5mgs. daily prn. Flexeril, prn (not so helpful), Zoloft,150mgs., Zomig approx. 12 per month, prn., Meds for High Blood Pressure, vary.


Howlyncat
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   Posted 2/5/2009 12:43 PM (GMT -6)   
I cn believe the things you are going thru
IT literally ripped my heart out
The house has been sold
IT is like all of Mom and Dad is gone from the Earth............

BUT I do have great memories...........

Take care of you plz
 DX: Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,
Fibro & Other DD

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                               Moderator@Alzheimer's..
              CO Moderator @ Anxiety and Panic........Co Moderator   @ Crohns                    
                            Keep The Fight Going..Or YOu Will Lose
               Look For The GOOD, Even At Your Lowest
  We Have Anxiety and Panic...................Anxiety and Panic DO NOT Have us         
   
                                     LYN


Erin01
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Date Joined Dec 2008
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   Posted 2/5/2009 3:22 PM (GMT -6)   
I've been clearing out my Mum's house as well, it is a depressing thing to do. It's hard enough when someone has died but doubly hard when you feel you are intruding and shouldn't really be doing it, and you're frightened to throw things out that 'she might want'. My house is gradually filling up with things from my childhood, photographs, pictures and ornaments etc. And that's before I decide what to do with the furniture. I can't sell the house as the market has collapsed, and it's in poor condition so I'm not sure I can rent it out in its current state. And I can't spend Mum's money on it because that is 'willful deprivation of assets' and not allowed. I can't spend my money on it because if we have to sell it I won't get anything back and all the money could go on care. I can't decide what to do but in the meantime the house needs emptied so every day I go and spend a couple of hours there moving stuff around and salvaging lots of memories.
 
Erin

tyno3
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   Posted 2/5/2009 5:01 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank-you, Howlyncat. The going into the house and selling stuff is temporarily in the hands of my very kind and competent neighbor who lives three houses up. I was trying to get ahead of day before yesterday's predicted snowstorm for the afternoon, and thought I could light a fire, feed the cats, and look for some missing pieces. Like a box of Dominoes with one tile missing. Not good, As I was shortcutting through a dirt road that shaves about 15 KMs. Off the drive, just as I was cresting a hill, there was this hugh, loaded down logging truck coming straight at me. I swerved to avoid him and found myself in an eight ft. ditch. So I threw in the towel called a tow truck and got the car pulled out, but then it began making this high pitched squealing noise. I headed straight home. Parked in driveway, went out yesterday to clear snow off car cause I had errands, and found the car would turn over quite nicely, but wouldn't move. Something was seriously wrong. Called my new best friend, the tow truck fellow, bless you Paul, and he towed car to mechanic. After waiting around all day, except for running down the road a kilo for milk, I got The Call. Yikes. No longer an All Wheel Drive, the entire back end fell off. Now they can get it running for time being as front wheel drive, only. Gonna stay off those back roads for the remainder of winter. Going to buy a van conversion and move to Tofina. Let those other two slackers field the calls, Dad needs such and such, Stepmom needs to be driven 200 miles for an xray. Sorry this line is no longer in service, no forwarding address.

Hypothyroidism, Fibromyalgia, Facet Joint Syndrome, High Blood Pressure, menopause, Migraines, Chest Pain, Anxiety and Depression/BiPolar II
Synthyroid .075mg., estradiol.5 mgs., Amyltriptilene, 100mgs, bedtime, Tylenol 3 PRN (six-eight, daily), Valium 7.5mgs. daily prn. Flexeril, prn (not so helpful), Zoloft,150mgs., Zomig approx. 12 per month, prn., Meds for High Blood Pressure, vary.

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