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tyno3
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   Posted 2/19/2009 8:25 AM (GMT -6)   
I know I have beat this drum before, but since my Alz. Victimized Dad has been found to have a brain tumour the size of a golf ball pressing on his brain, things have become more urgent. the neurologist said he is not a candidate for brain surgery, but if they have no other choice (after they see the MRI, which I had to fight for), the neurologist said they may have no choice. Were this to be the case, he would have a 20% chance of survival. Two years ago, the PCP ordered a MRI but back then my Dad was seeped in negativity and firmly refused to go. We tried everything but he remained in bed with his head under the blankets and wouldn't get up. So, the test didn't get done. Two years later, we're in this pickle. So, due to the fact my Dad cannot string a sentence together, I have asked for an extension on my lease, twenty miles from Dad's LTC facility, in order for Family members to come at their leisure. In the meantime I have been gathering all important belongings and stashing them with friends and neighbors, as I will have to leave here in May, and I don't want to deal with thirty-five years of accumulated stuff. Therefore, the various family members can choose what they want. In addition to that, as the LTC takes all Dad and his wife's pensions, no mortgage payments have been made and the bank will foreclose. So, I found a buyer. We will net enough to pay off the mortgage and a few other outstanding bills around town. That's it.
 
Well, the emails I have gotten from my sibs are devastating. I thought it was bad when they just remained aloof from it all. Now they are calling me a thief and a liar. I am not particularly well myself, I have been doing this eldercare here for 28 months  without help, except from my neighbors and a retired minister. I rented on the water, with lots of land b/c I thought Dad would be happy here. I am stuck here alone, in this big house because Dad became unmanageable, he is a big strong man and he started mixing me up with his wife who gambled all his money away ergo: the Mortgage. He insisted the mortgage was paid out several years ago. The local constabulary advised me to place him. The tumour must be on his happy place in his head, b/c he seems quite happy there.  
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   Posted 2/19/2009 10:26 AM (GMT -6)   
You know what they say....you can't choose your family but you can ignore them. I think it is horrible what your siblings are doing to you. I don't know all sides of the story but it seems to me that they are very selfish individuals and are using you as the scapegoat.

I'm sorry to hear about your fathers tumor. Do you suppose this was the reason for his violent outbursts?
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tyno3
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   Posted 2/19/2009 6:49 PM (GMT -6)   
My dad apparently had a melonoma on his nose. He and his wife, my stepmom, kept insisting it was just a blood vessel which was swollen due to a little dog bite twenty years ago. Anyway, when I arrived on the scene we got it removed, but according to my doc, b/c it was on his nose it could easily spread through the sinus into the brain. Yes, I definitely think it contributed to his aggressive behavior. We have a lot of BiPolar Illness in our family. Some of us go for treatment, some don't. The ones that don't are the hardest to deal with. I also think it's a way of staying disconnected but avoiding feeling guilt. If I am "the bad guy," it's a convenient excuse to stay away. Thank-you for helping me sort through that.

SnowyLynne
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   Posted 2/21/2009 2:33 PM (GMT -6)   
Tell the family to go suck a raw egg,lol.........
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tyno3
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   Posted 2/21/2009 4:12 PM (GMT -6)   
h Thanks: I pretty much have. i have a neighbor, his wife and a minister, informed of every move I make regarding the parents. The stepmom seems to be going down hill fast. I wrote her son and told him about it. He's the only civil one in the bunch. He has major health problems of his own. i told him I'd get him here by whatever means possible to see her if he wants. The others remain hostile so they don't have to deal with it all.
Hypothyroidism, Fibromyalgia, Facet Joint Syndrome, High Blood Pressure, menopause, Migraines, Chest Pain, Anxiety and Depression/BiPolar II
Synthyroid .075mg., estradiol.5 mgs., Amyltriptilene, 100mgs, bedtime, Tylenol 3 PRN (six-eight, daily), Valium 7.5mgs. daily prn. Flexeril, prn (not so helpful), Zoloft,150mgs., Zomig approx. 12 per month, prn., Meds for High Blood Pressure, vary.


Howlyncat
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   Posted 2/27/2009 6:10 PM (GMT -6)   
AS you know I was the BAD guy too with Mom and Dad but when push comes to shove the family was never there to help with anything EVER

Dad did have brain cancer and with the AD he was a man I did not know .........happy in his world and I went there at times to be with him

I know he is not in pain and I know I DID right by him and Mom
HOLD your head HIGH..........

Take care my friend
God Bless
LYN
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