Help with losing a pet

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Bebie
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   Posted 5/12/2009 11:33 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi, i'm new to the site. My mother has Alzheimer's and my Dad is her caretaker.
I make sure I go over every week to help give my dad help with my mom.
the reason i am here is to see what we can do mom, she has a dog (Dolly)that is 14 years old. Sunday Dolly was not looking to well,at 8:00 pm mom wanted to take Dolly to the Vet. This is tuesday ans dolly's doctor said there is nothing else can be done, Dolly needs to be put to sleep. Mom doesnt want to go live without dolly. Dad is about to go crazy. What can we do to make her stop talking about dying?

SnowyLynne
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   Posted 5/12/2009 11:48 AM (GMT -6)   
Bring another dog home & see how she does..........Or a kitten..........
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Chartreux
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   Posted 5/12/2009 8:18 PM (GMT -6)   
I saw your post and hope you don't mind me posting my views..
Do you have pictures of Dolly? if not then take a few of her now..
second, losing a pet can be as hard as losing a person so just understand that whatever happens
it's going to be hard. I lost Maximillion my cat of 17 years last January and it was so hard to have him put down.
Talk to your mom and tell her every chance you can that Dolly's time here is limited and
that she's not well or happy anymore and should be put to sleep to ease her pain. that'll
be the hard part is explain it to your mom simply by letting her know that Dolly is in great amount of pain
and that the humane thing is to put her to sleep, and that you've had 14 good years with Dolly and that you
have pictures to look at and maybe frame some pictures..
Good Luck to you as this will be a hard time for you
you have my sympathies in the up and coming loss of your pet...
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   Posted 5/13/2009 5:31 AM (GMT -6)   
I'm not sure how gone your mother is with her Az but I like the idea of getting her another dog, maybe one that looks like Dolly. You can always say, if you find a dog like Dolly, that it was a mistake and you brought Dolly home. Sometimes we have to do these little tricks to keep them happy.

We all know that losing a beloved pet is horrible and they're irreplacable but people with Az have a different way of looking at things. They tend to stick with the same emotional and physical patterns. So when something happens and it puts a wrench into that patterns, it can aggravate, aggitate, or make them beligerant or depressed.
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Bebie
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   Posted 5/13/2009 10:38 AM (GMT -6)   

Thank  you all for your support and views.

we had to take mom in to the see her doctor so she can handle losing Dolly. They made her talk to 3 shrinks because she told the doctor about not wanting to live. they also gave her something to make her calmer.

After the doctors we went to see Dolly at the vet, Dad took lots of picture of them together and mom was ok with letting them put Dolly to sleep. ( Rest-N-Peace Dolly)

Next week mom as apointment to see the shrink.

 

thanks again,

 

 


Chartreux
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   Posted 5/15/2009 6:23 PM (GMT -6)   
Post back when you can, and I hope your mother is still doing well and I'm glaad
you had photo made...and when your sure she might be up to it maybe think about
getting another pet as pets can be the best of therapy (hint if your not allergic
to cats a cat can be a good pet and they usually live longer than dogs, but it depends
on the breed, pure breeds have shorter lives it seems..........
Anyways I wish you well in what you decide to do...
well wishes to you........
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Martha's Vineyard
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   Posted 7/1/2009 8:09 AM (GMT -6)   
When I was sick the thing that made me feel the best were dogs. I loved them. And they were easy friends for me. The did not know I was sick and they always loved me.
I ended up with a total of 5 dogs. When I lost my favorite dog in dec. I thought I was going to die. I even had him with me during my treatment for my alztheimiers at enivta.
I would come go to pet smart or a shelter and tell them that you are looking for a older dog....not a puppy right now, too much work. And see if you can find a nice old dog that someone lost or did not want. The older dog will be most grateful.
Be sure to get a nice dog. No pit bulls mix's or anything.
Then bring it home to your mom. If she has a big heart and I am sure she does....tell her something like....you wer driving down the road and look what you found.
And what should you do with the dog. Then let it feel like it is her idea to be saving the dog. Instead of it being put on her.
Sounds sort of silly. But it will give her a great sense of worth to save another.
She will still get very depressed when she loses' her main dog.
If her main dog is a male, then be sure to get another dog of the same gender. I tend to like male dogs better.
My baby bull dog then became my "baby" after losing my favorite toto.
Song birds are nice too. Like a male canary who sings their heart out everytime I enter a room. These little things give so much joy and sort of a distraction, if you will, to our own self.
2004 in Martha's Vineyard me and my two daughters then 11 mos and 6 all got Lyme Disease. This was only known to us because we found the tiny ticks on us and we got very ill. My dog also got lyme and he went lame.
We have fought it for 4 years to no avail.
We all got it again this summer is Texas.
I am now in treatment in Scottsdale Arizona at Envita.

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Martha's Vineyard
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   Posted 7/1/2009 8:11 AM (GMT -6)   
Oh..also buy her a pretty plant....or more. I like Orchids because you cannot kill them. And the blooms last for 3 mos.
You can get them at Home depot. And that can be something beautiful that she can look at and enjoy and she can care of it easily. It will make her happy. What women does not like flowers?
2004 in Martha's Vineyard me and my two daughters then 11 mos and 6 all got Lyme Disease. This was only known to us because we found the tiny ticks on us and we got very ill. My dog also got lyme and he went lame.
We have fought it for 4 years to no avail.
We all got it again this summer is Texas.
I am now in treatment in Scottsdale Arizona at Envita.

"The eyes cannot see for for what the mind does not know."

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