I think it's a sad reflection on society that anyone should stare at people with a disability like Alzheimer's. Can't say I know anything about the drugs you mention, but what I do know from my experience was that I stopped all medication, with the exception of liquid pain killer my wife after I took her home. It's just my view, that a lot of medication is prescribed for aspects of the illness, rather than treating the underlying causes the victims experience. I do know that, had I been treated as many patients were, I would in turn be frustrated, angry and depressed. Imagine what it must be like to be so confused and unable to express yourself?
Holding on to the door may indicate the early signs that your Mom is beginning to lose her sense of spacial awareness. This I learned through bitter experience was a time my wife started to have falls. Her final fall resulted in her breaking her arm and ending up in hospital. That was the beginning of the end.
It's a sad fact, that each function she lost I failed to spot the early signs. Suddenly she was unable to walk down stairs, moments later she walked down without effort. Her loss of speech was the same.
Right up to weeks before she died I took her out shopping and I had these trips recorded. There was no way that I was about to hide her away from the outside world. Too bad if people didn't like me taking her to the bank, shops and any place we wanted. As far as I'm concerned disabled means; being unable to cope in one way or another. That means we are all disabled in some way, only in most cases the disability is not visible.
Many loved ones fail to complete the journey to a final stage my wife did, where they become exactly like an adorable baby, in a loving environment.
Lyn, I was sorry to learn you have been so very ill. I'll always remember you for your tireless efforts on behalf of so many people. I wish you well.
May your God go with you.