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missmyhusband
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Date Joined Dec 2009
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   Posted 12/11/2009 8:46 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi my name is Gerry, 15 years ago at age 57 my husband managed a chemical plant and was injured on the job.  He was inspecting a room with a vat of nitrogen which has no ssmell,  His co-worker was overcome and so was my husband.  He dragged the other worker to safety and then passed out himself.  Rushed to ER and released.  Within 1 week could no longer remember how to do his job..Chemical Engineer,  Shuffled around from 1 job to another.  Numerous shrinks.  Diagnosed with ptsd.  Told to retire or get laid off.  Tested for 6 hours by social security, could not pass simplest tests.  .stayed stable for 10 years, but the last five years have been downhill.  Obveous brain damage,  now diagnosed as alz.  In daycare 3 days a week.  Know no-one but me.  Started with incontinence during  the night 1 month ago.  Walks slowly and has lost muscle mass.  Talks jibberish.  Has a blank look.  Neurologist seems to think in final stage, and so does family.  I can't seem to see it.  Am I in denial?  ON namenda, razydine, and prozac.  My heart is broken, and misery does like company.  I'm not ready to say goodbye.  Thanks in advance.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/11/2009 9:13 PM (GMT -6)   
I aM SO SORRY that you are having to see your love go downhill...i am sure it is also scary for you to see him behave in this way,,,,just try to remember THE GOOD TIMES please,,reach out and we will take your hand ,,,,,keep posting when you can and no you are showing ppl what a great love you s have and how dedicateD you are to him no matter what...its hard i know but we can ease some of your stress level just by being here to yak too. and know he is in there somewhere but not to others...i was robbed of both my parents from this dd and it was so hard mom went first and dad went downhill very quickly...i think he missed mom n was so lost without her but tHat just my opinion,,,it takes a special man woman daughter son to look after the loved ones that are afflicted with this imho and you sure do sound special to me...you hv come to a great place to get out your pain anger hurt and sadness,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,KNOW we are here for you always you need not go thru this alone ,,,,we will help you thru this....Blessings...lyn


                          
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/12/2009 11:32 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi again..i am hoping you post and let us know how you are doing and how your hubby is doing.....Bless you....lyn
                          
                                Co Mod for Crohns, Anxiety/Panic, Alzheimers
   Crohns..Pyoderma gangrenosum,..Anxiety / panic..Fibromyalgia,,Neuropathy...Deaf...Seizures
 
                        I DONT COMPLAIN...OTHERS ARE WORSE OFF THAN I AM                                   
                                                     .....LYN.......
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missmyhusband
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Date Joined Dec 2009
Total Posts : 2
   Posted 12/14/2009 11:12 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you both for responding. I am still hanging in there. More incontinence, drooling and having a hard time eating. Still kisses me goodnight and tells me he loves me. I guess tht says it all. Gerry

SnowyLynne
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Date Joined Apr 2004
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   Posted 12/15/2009 3:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Wow,I'm so sorry to hear about your husband.Too bad you can't sue the company for neglect,not supplying safety gear.........
I have vascular dementia,also was a registered CNA here in Texas.I cared for many people  with different dementias....It's a heartbreaker but you have to keep going regardless,yet take care of your health too.....Caregiver stress is not fun........  Lynne
SnowyLynne


Howlyncat
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Date Joined Jan 2005
Total Posts : 24909
   Posted 12/27/2009 4:43 PM (GMT -6)   
Seeing my mom look at others with a blank look and then to me with the aha look of knowing it was me filled my heart constantly...i guess it was because i was always living in same town did everything for parents ect plus when she was still able she was the director of nursing in the retirement home i owned with my brother..snowy is spot on with the care givers stress here i see it in my daughter cait as she is soley looking after me since a life changing hospitalization in june...i hv difficulty with some memories still but working on it.....my life was spent looking after seniors with dementias of all types and other geriatrics it has come full circle for me i really am able to truly empathize n get it when ppl are talking about their loved ones...blessings ..keep posting n getting support..lyn
                          
                                Co Mod for Crohns, Anxiety/Panic, Alzheimers
   Crohns..Pyoderma gangrenosum,..Anxiety / panic..Fibromyalgia,,Neuropathy...Deaf...Seizures
 
                        I DONT COMPLAIN...OTHERS ARE WORSE OFF THAN I AM                                   
                                                     .....LYN.......
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