Do these things sound like early symptoms of the disease? We feel they probably are, but she will not see a doctor for a check up, so it is hard to get any confirmation.
As the carer in their relationship, she has always dealt with the business matters and has been highly competent (ran her own business for years). Now she forgets to ask for vital information or, if told, forgets it immediately. Examples: times of appointments; locations of places she needs to be. If she is asked about these things she'll "cover up" and say "oh, that is at ........... place" or "at ....... time". Needless to say, we then have to check up and, on finding she is mistaken, try to tactfully tell her what the true situation is. Naturally she then gets upset and says things like "I'm just stupid". We say things like "Oh well, you,ve got a lot on your mind at present - it's not surprising somethings slip".
Should we try to "excuse" her behaviour - ie. collude with her efforts to convince us there is nothing wong? Sometimes she will say to me "I think I'm getting Alzheimer's" - I respond by asking her to tell me more, but she always clams up then and changes the subject. Should I tell her I think she might be right?
Dad is a dear but his health problemns and his long term reliance on Mum mean he is no use in this situation. I asked him if he thought she was getting "more forgetful" and he said he would probably agree with that.
I'm very fortunate to have 2 sisters who are very good and a brother who doesn't do much but is caring. The family are very supportive of my parents and spend a lot of time with them. We feel lucky that they have found a place together in a Hostel, but we also feel guilty that none of us are taking care of them.
I guess I just need to have my concerns either validated or refuted. Any advice anyone can give me about how to go forward would be very gratefully received. My parents both think I'm "bossy" but I know that it is often only due to my intervention that important things get done at all. I hate them to be in the position where they are partly grateful for my help and partly resentful of my "interference", but I can't see any way around this.
I'd better stop before you all have eyestrain! Please help me!