Post Edited (bag lady) : 10/29/2005 4:45:24 PM (GMT-6)
I went with my sister Stella and my niece marie yesterday for the apointment with the consultant. The gist of how it went is, Stella is being sent for an MRI scan soon because she hasnt had anything done like that to check on things for years. It was decided that because Stella is so against the idea of a day centre, that Cath(mental health nurse) will increase her visits to Stella and take her out to do things that Stella enjoys. She has already taken her out for tea and cake and Stella was fine with that. Stella already spends Monday with our other sister and Wednesdays with me so that will be 4 days taken care of. If the day care issue is forced at the moment,it will only distress Stella and make the situation worse. Stella's husband has started to trust Cath the nurse so that is a big step forward. I think the next thing they are going to suggest is a night sitter for a couple nights a week to start with. This is because we have made them aware that Mick very often drinks at night so he cant be aware if Stella was to wake up or if she was ill in the night. Because of Micks behaviour and the fact that he cant cope with himself,let alone Stella,they have talked him into having a mental health nurse into the home to try and help him because they can see that he obviously has big issues of his own that they want to try and help him with. Stella only scored 13 on her last memory test I think, and she is going to be having another one soon. If she gets as low as 12 then they might take her off the Aricept meds because they say the low test results mean that it isnt doing anything for her. I voiced my concern that I have heard that some people become very anxious and even violent when Aricept is stopped. They said,if that were to happen then they would put her back on it even if it was doing nothing for her memory. They are going to speak with Mick(a meeting in the home because he wont come to the apointments) and try to explain how important it is for Stella to be looked after propery by Mick and explain how he can do that. I have warned them though,that Mick only sees what he wants to and he doesnt even seem to ever be able to see the point of view of others. He is totaly self absorbed. This is due in part to his drinking but in my opinion he has had the same atitude for as long as I have known him and thats about 35 years. We are sort of stuck between a rock and a hard place, Remove Stella from her home and she will be very very distressed,or she stays where she is with him and his attitude and that also causes anxiety. She hates it when she can not be with her daughter Marie. She follows her all over the house. Things are taking there toll on marie now as well. She collapsed at uni last week. She is trying to do a university course,work part time and look out for "both" parents. I asked the Doctor if he thought the strange seizure thing that Stella had could have been due to the effects of her UTI but he said he feels it is more likely due to her condition. I think this is one reason that he has ordered the MRI scan. Thats it for now,on we plod.
Post Edited (bag lady) : 12/2/2005 10:17:01 AM (GMT-7)
Post Edited (SnowyLynne) : 12/2/2005 4:59:50 PM (GMT-7)