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mrs mac
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   Posted 12/7/2005 7:09 PM (GMT -7)   
i just want to say what wonderful people you all are!! yeah
 
i have worked with the elderly including Dementia and Alzheimers patients, and i know how tough it is!!
 
At least i could go home at the end of my shift, but you guys are doing this full time, that makes it even harder, i take my hat off to you all!!!
 
just wanted to tell you all
 
sandra xxxxxx

Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/8/2005 3:14 AM (GMT -7)   
Mrs mac .......I did the same as you did for many yrs ,in fact owned my own retirement home here in Ontario ...........Mom worked in the office (also a geriatric nurse ) and my Dad in the kitchen with both brothers working there as well .......one is a male nurse the other a maintenance man for the building...........so I do know what it is like to be able to go home after the shift BUT I always got so darn close with the patients anyways so I still would worry about them especially those without family..........This is a very difficult thing to do but I get many rewards doing it and I feel I am the better of all my siblings to do this as they just want to put parents in home and I will not allow this ........at least not with breath in my body.........thank you for taking the time to recognise the "caregiver".........God Bless .....Lyn
 
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AlwaysRosie
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   Posted 12/9/2005 10:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sandra,

I'm not a full-time caregiver (just 2 or three times a week to give mom a break). But I want to say Kudos to all of you caregivers too!!!

Kudos!!! and Blessings!!!
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SnowyLynne
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   Posted 12/27/2005 5:04 PM (GMT -7)   
I was a full time CNA for 30 yrs caring for the eldely,with & without AD.It's a hard job.
SnowyLynne


Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/27/2005 5:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey Snowy ....Hoping you and Larry had a great Christmas ...all the best for the New Year ...God Bless .Lyn
 
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obs ann
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   Posted 1/12/2006 5:07 AM (GMT -7)   
This is a GREAT thread.

God Bless anyone who caretakes for their own family or friends.

I was a CNA also and a senior advocate. I'd go to the Nursing Home on my days off to be sure they got fed O.K. and got put to bed 'gently'.

My favorite patients were the Alzheimer patients, but if my own Dad developed it, it would just about kill me from a broken heart. I just couldn't bare if he got it.
I pray all the time that he'll pass, in his sleep and with his mind in tact. He's a very young and full of vigor 87, very healthy and on no meds at all. He even went to Italy with his sweetheart this last Sept.

So although I loved caring for my patients, I would find it unbearable to see my own family member or friend go through it.

So I very deeply admire those family members or friends, who caretake their own loved ones.

Kudos indeed.

God Bless all of you.

Ann

howlyncat aka Lyn
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   Posted 1/12/2006 10:38 AM (GMT -7)   
My wife (Lyn) has been ill so she has not read this post but she is determined to be back on TODAY lol, She as well as I and our daughter Cait are the caregiver's for her Mom and Step Dad and she was a geriatric nurse for many yrs ,it does break her heart to see them like this but at least she is still making memories with them >Her siblings do not help at all and this frustrates her to no end but in her mind's thoughts she will tell you that THEY are missing out on many things and they are the losers in this whole thing ."fAMILY" like her HW family is what gets her thru this as well as all the other issues /health problems she (we) are dealing with.I will welcome you in her behalf and I know she will be looking forward to talking with you (if she hasnt already).Be well and take care ,.Howie ,Cait and Lyn

lerie
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   Posted 1/12/2006 12:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi crohns hubby, my hat goes of to you dear sir. it's never easy for the husband to be the caregiver but you men never fail to amaze me. you see my husband is my main caregiver & is absolutely wonderful. I have cirhosis from prescription drugs. It can be heartbreaking for both sides. But our spouses can be our biggest support & reason to keep going . Keep up the good work & know that all you caregivers are so greatly appreciated & loved.later....
lerie


mrs mac
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   Posted 1/12/2006 8:12 PM (GMT -7)   
hey guys, this is the reason why i started this thread, care givers are very important people, who deserve all the recognition they can get!!!

no one asks for this job, it is just something you do and get on with it, that's what makes you all so special!!!

big round of applause to all of you out there!!!

tc sandra xxxxx

obs ann
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   Posted 1/12/2006 9:13 PM (GMT -7)   

Dear crohnsHubby,

Thank you so much for your post.  I'll be praying for ALL of you wonderful people.

You said, something so deeply profound in your post, I'll probably remember it forever now.

You said, """...it does break her heart to see them like this but at least she is still making memories with them"""

"But at least she is still making memories with them !"  Wow.  That is so intense a love.

You've changed my perspective from my earlier post here today.  Thank You so much.

I'm sort of speechless right now, but I thank you again and wish Lyn health, and yourself and strength to the household.

God Bless you all.

Ann

 


SAMMERS2004
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   Posted 1/13/2006 11:47 AM (GMT -7)   
i was a c.n.a in a nursing home for 5yrs and hha in homecare for 5yrs intil i became a mommy, so now i stay at home but i loved my job. very rewarding at the end of the day. you have to have a BIG HEART to do the job!!! very thankful there is alot out there!!!!!!! like many have said it is a VERY HARD JOB!!!  GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU AND KEEP UP THE HARD WORK!!!!!! YOU ARE ANGELS!!!!!! :-)

Howlyncat
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   Posted 1/16/2006 10:30 AM (GMT -7)   
As my hubby said I would be reading these posts lol.......I look at it this way my parents looked after me changed my soiled diapers ,fed me bathed me, they did it all and I remember it was done with LOVE........They never made me feel that it was a "job" for them to do all they could for us kids ,but more like an adventure .....learning as we grew,by our mistakes and theirs.......we were always treated as "gifts"........not saying we didnt get the switch once in awhile cuz we did for sure lol.......thats why it hurts me so much that my siblings cannot and will not take the time to be with them or do things with them ,and 3 out of 4 of us live right here here in town ( 5 min away).........but I am getting so many wonderful silly and some really funny memories with both my parents that they wont ever have ..........it is their loss .....our daughter goes over and listens to Papa talk about the "old days over and over" and does not complain.........she knows what is going on I have taught her all about AD and she grew up in a retirement home environment.............Empathy is one of Cait's most beautiful qualities and for that I am so thankful.........Yes it can be a hard job at times but again they didnt stop their "job" with us kids right so I feel I will be the one that wins in the end myself my hubby/daughter........we love doing what we do and if there comes a time when Cait cannot face seeing her Nana and Papa like they are I will understand..........it is hard for me so I know it has to be for her as well ......She loves coming home and telling us stories of things they did while she was there and she is grinning from ear to ear with a sparkle in her eyes .........sometimes a few tears ........but she carries on and she to has memories that no one else will ever have and that is of their own making ........I do feel bad for those that cannot for whatever reason keep their loved ones at home with them and I dont judge them either, it is rewarding but it is also very hard to do 24/7.......Thank you for all your kind words and the warmth of your posts ......it means so much to me and all the other caregivers out there .........God Bless ......Lyn
 
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/5/2006 12:09 PM (GMT -7)   
bump for the caregivers
This was from last yr as well but a great thread
Take care of you as well as those you love
Lyn
God Bless
Happy Holidays to all of you and your loved ones
the ones you care for each day giving them the dignity and respect ,quaility of life they so do deserve
I thank you from my heart
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/10/2006 8:47 AM (GMT -7)   
Going to Strathroy ( small town ) to do some shopping and have supper out with dad
Be well al
Luvs
Lyn
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 One thing I know for sure is we have each other and in times of need no one could be better off IMO
 
 Never compromise your self nor your dignity...with that ...My God
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/11/2006 4:07 AM (GMT -7)   
I have never forgotten that
I looked after my Mom til she just passed away and now look after step dad
I am honored to be the caregiver
Prior to this I was a Nurse in Geriatrics
Lyn
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 One thing I know for sure is we have each other and in times of need no one could be better off IMO
 
 Never compromise your self nor your dignity...with that ...My God
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/13/2006 2:41 AM (GMT -7)   
Always have Empathy .........
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 Never compromise your self nor your dignity...with that ...My God
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/19/2007 5:07 PM (GMT -7)   
 Please always remember that you as the Caregiver also needs to be having time for your self and keeping healty as well
If you are not healthy then who would look after them right
 
So please I ask you to really do a though inventory of your needs as well and have it so you are healthy emotionally and physically
Take a couple hours off and do something for YOU
YOU really do deserve it
 
My hats are off to all those that do the caregiving for their loved ones at home ......
I also will say that if you are not able to do it alone perhaps hire a person check everything out first though full bkgd on them and who they have had in care before ect ect ...police check as well
 
If for some reason the time has come to place the loved one in a NH or Retirment Home
Check out the thread on the NH's and also ask for full disclosure and reports on that home
Just because they may cost alot doesnt mean a thing you need to know what type of care and ppl there will be there for your loved one......meals, bedchecks, Activities ,safety features in bathrooms ....the whole nine yards
Theses are your most precious gifts so please do it for them
And please dont feel that " guilt"
Most will and it is a heavy feeling to carry around so let it go you did what you could for so long and now things have to change for whatever reason........You tried and thats what is important IMHO at least you did try.........
God Bless the Caregiver and their Loved ones .......
 
LYN
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/20/2007 3:47 PM (GMT -7)   
I hope you all read it and realize your importance in their lives
LYN
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/24/2007 3:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Bringing to top for new members

LYN
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/26/2007 12:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Totally agree with you Mrs Mac
Thanks for this thread
LYN
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   Posted 3/27/2007 2:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Bringing up for new members to see and read
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 4/2/2007 4:08 PM (GMT -7)   
I truly do believe that caregivers DO NOT give themselves the credit they so rightly deserve
Be proud of what you do and remember when you cannot do it no more do not feel guilty
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   Posted 4/5/2007 6:14 PM (GMT -7)   
Please all look after you too and for those that celebrate this Holiday
Happy Easter from My Home to Yours
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   Posted 8/22/2007 8:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Bringiong to the top to say that I truly believe that being a caregiver is ONE of the most UNSELFISH and LOVING, caring "jobs" you can and do

LYN

God BLess the Caregiver ..........
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minmark
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   Posted 8/22/2007 10:34 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm a caregiver unti now, not a family caregiver, but an employee. You're right. Lyn. It's not easy to be a caregiver. You must have patience and compassion to the elderly. It must come from the heart and you're not doing this just because of money. You must be sincere and compassionate. If you don;t have this qualities, caregivng job is not for you. This might end up in abuse and neglect.
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