My Mom........Breaks My Heart !!

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Howlyncat
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   Posted 2/14/2006 8:49 PM (GMT -6)   
 Hi all went over to bathe and wash Mom's hair and I took a really good look at her (I have been sick so I have been in and out ) and she is looking like skeleton.......I weighed her and that was a chore her yelling at me it wasnt my business how much she weighs and all kinds of other things ....Dad had no idea what was going on upstairs and Cait came up so we calmed her down ....she weighs 76 lbs and is literally skin and bones ..I know she eats as I prep their food.......I am calling the doc tomorrow and have a thorough (sp) physical done it is that time ..........I cried all the way home it hurts so much to see this going on ........I just needed to vent a wee bit ......hard having your Mom yelling at you not knowing that I am only concerened for her ........Breaks my heart..........Thanks for listening .......God Bless ......Lyn
 
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   Posted 2/15/2006 3:24 AM (GMT -6)   

Oh Lyn, how hard that is to go through.  I can't even imagine.   Never had a real Mom, but had woman in my life who were like Moms to me.

Will she take Instant Breakfast or milk shakes ?

I don't like Ensure and those types, as they're made of all partially hydronated vegatable oil.  That garbage clogs arteries big time.

When my appetite went ... I could always go for milk shakes or cottage cheese.

I hope her Dr. will give you some good suggestions, following her exam.

But, you are doing so much Lyn.  You can't control it all.  Her weight loss, surely is not your fault and neither is her inability to see all you're doing to help.

I hope you're getting adequate rest for yourself.  If I had a daughter like you, or if even a fraction of Mom's that are elderly or ill did ... wow.

Please know you are special and appreciated here, especially as a role model.

You know I'm honored to have met you, from day one.

Hugs and many prayers for you and your family.

Ann


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SnowyLynne
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   Posted 2/15/2006 5:56 AM (GMT -6)   
Lyn,It doesn't matter what you can get in her to eat or drink,anything will do,at this stage of the game.
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   Posted 2/15/2006 8:28 AM (GMT -6)   
Snowy I do make her all kinds of things she eats like a wee bird .......she does love shake and ice cream .....and chocolate cake ....Cait made her one last night so we will take it over tonight for her as a surprise .........I am going over in a couple of hours to take her to the doc's .....It is time I had professiomal help such as him along with me I cannot do it all ........Thanks for you concern............God Bless.........Lyn
 
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   Posted 2/15/2006 8:31 AM (GMT -6)   
Ann......Hi there and Thanks ......there are many of us out there that do as I do so I dont really think I am so special for being there for parents who were always there for me ..........it helps with my retirement /nursing home bkgd but it sure dont help the heart ya know .........Take care sweetie and thanks .............God Bless.......Lyn
 
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   Posted 2/15/2006 3:42 PM (GMT -6)   
Well got her to the docs and she blew up right there .....he had not seen her in the anger mode so it was an eye opening experience for him lol.........we have come up with a good amount of calories for her to start at and work up........I am going to make her shakes and let her eat all the cake and Tim Horton's goodies she wants (will have to travel to get them ) but it will be worth it ......Her blood was tested as well for her Tegretol (seizure meds) levels ....he went over her as much as she would allow and I will check out what I can later .........Thanks all for being here as usual .......You will never know how you all help me thru every day .....I feel like I am 70 not 52 and yet when Mom yells at me I feel about 2 figure that one out .......Long day .......Thanks again all of you, you are the best support system and friends ......God Bless ......Blue I am sorry about your Dad hun I know how hard it is ,...we shall get theu this together with each other and all the other great members and friends /support system here .......You need me you know where I am only an email away ........Lyn
 
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   Posted 2/15/2006 10:16 PM (GMT -6)   
Lyn,ask the Dr.about getting hospice in.
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   Posted 2/15/2006 11:34 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Lyn, sounds like you have a huge amt. on your plate there.Please talk to the DR. about getting some type of home care in to help you so you don,t go into melt down & get sick yourrself. Take care sweetie. Myy thoughts & prayers are with you. I sure wish I had a daugter like you. You are very special. later....
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   Posted 2/16/2006 3:14 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks all for your support ,I am going to talk with the doc about some home care coming in even 3 days a week at least it will help me to get other things done ..God Bless..Lyn
 
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   Posted 2/16/2006 6:38 PM (GMT -6)   
I am so sorry to hear about your Mom Lyn. You realy do need that homecare for your Mom by the sound of it. There is only one of you lyn and you can only do so much. Take care of you too. (((((Lyn)))))

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   Posted 2/17/2006 3:12 PM (GMT -6)   
I am taking care of me lol.....I have contacted Community Care Access and she will be out for a needs assessment Monday for Mom and Dad as well ......Thanks to you all for being here ......God Bless....Lyn
 
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   Posted 2/17/2006 6:12 PM (GMT -6)   

Lynn,

I'm so glad you are going to be getting help with taking care of your Mom. It's a big job and having help will be good for all of you.

I hope her new "diet" helps her to feel better. It will take time, I'm sure. She eats like a wee bird... because she is a wee bird. :-) She is lucky to have you looking out for her and your Dad too in such a loving and caring way.

Thinking of you,

Nanse

 


Howlyncat
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   Posted 2/17/2006 7:50 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks Nanse ....take care and I hope you are doing well ....God Bless...Lyn
 
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   Posted 2/24/2006 2:18 PM (GMT -6)   
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   Posted 2/24/2006 8:53 PM (GMT -6)   
hi Lyn, i am so glad to read that you are getting some help with looking after your Mom!!!

you need to take care of you as well, although i don't know why i am saying this, cause you probably won't listen LOL!!!!

please take some time out and do something just for yourself, and use the time that the carers are in to your advantage!!!

i hope things work out for you

tc and please get some rest

mrs mac xxxxx

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   Posted 2/24/2006 11:59 PM (GMT -6)   
I am looking after me lol....and I will rest I promise ......Thanks for your support.........Be well and hope things are going good for you too .....God Bless......Lyn
 
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   Posted 3/4/2006 11:17 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Lyn,

I'm soooo sorry your mom is having all these new issues (worsening issues?). It is so hard to see our parents in such condition. You are doing all you can sis, please know that you have made a huge difference in her care.

Sorry I haven't visited Alz forum for so long. I have been fairly busy lately and haven't much puter time. I raised a little of pups and sold them for a handsome price so it was nice to be the breadwinner for a tiny spell.

Am back on methatrexate and I think it is helping. I hope you've been ok . . . I do think about you often and enjoyed seeing your pics recently . . . made me smile to really get ot meet you!! You have a beautiful family!!

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Suzy2
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   Posted 3/15/2006 6:51 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Lyn.

How is your Mom?and you of course. How did things go with the needs assessment?


Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/15/2006 11:04 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi hun.....it went well I have peeps in for her 3 days a week ......right now though she has pneumonia..........really dont know if she will make it this time ,has lost her ability in both legs as well ......I have been back and forth ,but will prob have to spend more time with her ..........I have a feeling you know ........thanks for your care and will let you know what is going on ...........God Bless........Lyn
 
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   Posted 3/15/2006 12:07 PM (GMT -6)   
I will keep your mom and you in my thoughts Lyn... God Bless

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   Posted 3/15/2006 5:05 PM (GMT -6)   
I am sorry to hear about your mom Lyn. My thoughts are with you both (((((lyn)))))


Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/15/2006 7:26 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks to you all for your concern and your support ......that feeling is not going away she looks at death's door.......I am praying so much right now and I thank you for all of your's........Des .......I will email you tomorrow hun.....thanks.......God Bless.......Lyn
 
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   Posted 3/17/2006 8:14 PM (GMT -6)   
hey lyn

just caught up with this thread, how's your mom doing? more importantly how are YOU??

i will keep you all in my thoughts hon, please take care

God Bless

sandra xxxx

Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/18/2006 3:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi there .......been at the hospital most of the night....not responding well yet to antibiotics but is holding her own ......I really think she knows it is almost her time to go home to her Maker........I believe she is at peace with that .....at least I want to believe it ......it breaks my heart to see her like that and Dad is just fumbling about ........Howie keeps him busy but he doesnt like hospitals and he keeps looking for Mom.......Ahhhhh............I get so darned choked up over all this anymore,try to be strong and I fall apart but at least I have all of you and the others that I talk with on this site ...it really does come down to your friends on here at least for me as you all know what I am feeling .......God Bless and be well all......Lyn
 
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   Posted 3/19/2006 12:28 AM (GMT -6)   

(((((((LYN)))))))

Lyn, I'm so sorry that I'm just now reading all of this, from a hint you gave on the Anxiety board.  I'm so sorry.

Are you alright ?  My heart is breaking for you.  Nothing is harder than losing one's Mom.

I pray maybe if God knows it's best, that He could revive her strength.  And to surely hold you up.

Please know if I could help you now, I would love to sit with you and just be there.

Please email me whenever, but I will keep a better watch for your posting here now.

I'm glad I just saw your post on Migs thread.   Please know we all love you here so much and you mean the world to us.  All our thoughts are with you and I pray you feel the strength of that truth.  We hold you dearly in our hearts.   Please stay well for us and you.  We don't mind holding you up for as long as you need it ... you're not heavy, you're our ma-ma bear and we love you.   Please feel our hugs around you and know we sympathise at this heart rendering time with you and your family. 

Prayers going up for Cait too and for your Dad and hubbie.

Love you Lyn sincerely.

Thank you for being who you are.

Ann


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