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CharleyRice1931
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   Posted 4/17/2006 5:55 AM (GMT -7)   
 It is three years since I removed my wife from a nursing home. She had given up on life, had lost speech and suffered loss of weight  also preasure sores. Within months of arriving home her condition got worse and was rushed to hospital. She was given no chance of survival, so I insisted on taking her home. It has been my choise to care for her on my own and to my great joy she has thrived in my company. Her weight has increased from 72lbs. to 120lbs.
She's has Alzheimer's for the past ten years,she is 71 and I'm 74. When everyone else had believed she had reached the end I chose to go it alone. It is the best thing I have ever done in my life. When there is no movement except for the head I have discovered so very much about caring for the effects of Alzheimer's on my wife.
Is there anyone out there like me who has made up there mind to care for a loved one alone to the end? If so we just maybe able to learn from one another.
 
Padraig 

SnowyLynne
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   Posted 4/17/2006 7:25 AM (GMT -7)   
I worked many years in NH,& know how bad they can be.There are good ones out there,but are a rarity.I was diagnosed with AD nearly 9 yrs.ago,being caused from being beaten in the head for 7 yrs.by a former spouse(if you could call him that).I tried many times to get away but was always caught & beaten.Long story short & i finally called his bluff & got away.I told the man I'm married to now to keep me at home if at all possible.I just hope I can stay as good as I am now,later on,& not cause him alot of problems,like fighting,ranting,whatever else that could go on,lol.
SnowyLynne


Howlyncat
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   Posted 4/17/2006 7:40 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi and Welcome ...to answer your question ,yes I have just recently lost my Mom she also had AD and I looked after her at home as well my step dad has this DD and I look after him .I have always maintained that their quality of life HAS to be met in all areas and in the nursing home field (where I also worked ) you sometimes cannot reach that goal not all by yourself ....As Snowy has posted their are good ones out their but I am a firm believer that if it is POSSIBLE for you to look after youer loved ones then do so .......The memories I cherish are totally different then those of my siblings they were never thr thru all the good ,bad and all the other, when Mom would get nasty and unruly it was I that was there.....I had told Mom yrs ago never would I let her go to a home (she was a highly respected Nurse in her field) and I did have some rough times because of my own illnesses but I got thru it with the help and friends I have come to know on this site peeps such as Snowy and my wonderful Rosie have gotten me thru so much ....there are other great peeps on here as well ,Sandra and all the rest its early and I am sorry I do know them by name lol,...you will come to know these peeps and find the help comfort and empathy here you are looking for .....You will be in my heart and prayers ............it is a hard but rewarding thing to look after our loved ones I am so glad you chose to do this for your wife ........God Bless....Lyn
 
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CharleyRice1931
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   Posted 4/17/2006 7:44 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you for your intrest. I'm finding using the internet for the first time trying. I will never let my wife be parted from me again. I am also not perpared to let anyone get involved in caring for her so long as I can. She sleeps a lot now which gives me time to do my 3 1/2mile run each morning and snatch time to write my story. I have achived many goals in my life, but this caring for my wife is giving me the most happiness.

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   Posted 4/17/2006 8:07 AM (GMT -7)   
Wow Charley I am 52 and I dont run 3 and a half miles daily I wish I could lol....My first start with the internet was here I use to despise these computers lol....Devils Work ya know but I have come to find so many great friends and so much support on here that I have kept coming back every day for well over a yr. Your wife is a lucky woman and by the sounds of it she has made you a very happy and fullfilled husband over the years so you are giving back ........I respect you and your zest for life......you will be an asset to this forum ..yak to you later all my infonis there if you need to talk ...God Bless....Lyn
 
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CharleyRice1931
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   Posted 4/17/2006 8:26 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Lyn, for your words of comfort. I am avery lucky man you see my lovley wife took me on over fifty years ago. I was nothing more than a stray, released from an Industrial School for boys at 16. I always wondered why I was locked away as a child. This year I have at last discovered,under the Irish freedom of information act. Documents show I was charged in court with begging in 1934, I was two years old! Put to work as a ten year old.
My journey in life has been strange, fun, tragic and exciting having travelled the world. My wife has been the best thing that ever happened to me. She changed an emotional barren stray into a loving caring person. With Alzhiemer's she's has not spoken in years but still knows me. I refuse to keep her in doors. Strapping her in a wheelchair at the legs and waist I take her out shopping. The 24th. Sep 05 was our 50th ann. as I knelt down to strap her in I proposed to her asking if she would take me on all over again? I was stunned to hear her rasping reply "yes". What a treasure.
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Padraig

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   Posted 4/17/2006 8:55 AM (GMT -7)   
What a tragic story with a beautiful ending .you are a romatic Irishman........It is so wonderful that she has been part of your life that was the best it does seem and she knows just how much you love her I am sure tis in your eyes each time you look at her .........Mom and Dad were together 40 yrs and it breaks my heart as my dad seems so lost and alone w/o Mom she has only been gone a month now I never thought I would lose her you know ...I look out my patio window and see her house remember taking her in her w/c for the nature walks she so loved ........Flowers and birds were Moms loves as well as Dad the looks shared between those 2 spoke of a never ever ending love that I know will resume when he is called home as well ......You touch my heart with your stories I am glad you found us here ......Keep posting and I am usually on in the am ..I live in Canada so I get up ealy am and do my thing and then look out for Dad and my day is usually spent between the 2 houses ...Presently I am trying to have dad move in with me but he is no biting right now I think he feels if he leaves that house all of Mom will be gone I am not sure .......Anyways keep the stories coming as I said it warms this heart and I am so pleased you are here .......God Bless you and Your Wife.......Lyn
 
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   Posted 4/18/2006 3:08 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey Charlie,

Nice to meet you sir!! I really enjoyed your posts. They sound like a book I read recently. The name of it is "The Notebook". It is a story of a man caring for his wife who has AD and he actually moved into the nursing home with her, so that he could continue to care for her. This has also been made into a movie, but the book was better. I listen to books on tape while I am cleaning, cooking, sewing or driving. It is a great diversion and I tend to get more done.

My dad has Alzheimer's and mom cares for him at home. She hope to care for him until the end. Quite an undertaking. I have the utmost respect for you, Lyn and my mom . . . all the folks who dedicate their lives to care for their loved ones who are ill.

Welcome to the forum Charlie!!

Blessings!
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Psalms 139
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 4/18/2006 4:31 AM (GMT -7)   
How are we this Morning Charlie ,Rosie and Snowy .....God Bless........Lyn
 
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CharleyRice1931
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   Posted 4/18/2006 6:42 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Lyn,
Note you say you lost your Mom, you just look in the mirror, and hug yourself, you are one of the same person. I tell my kids
and Grandkids their Mom and Gran will be with them all their lives as some are the image of her when young. When I look at her I see the lovley young girl I married. The body shows signs of wear. When I wake her up for evening meals she appears to try to sit up. Helping her up she looks over my shoulder, seeing someone or something. I gently ask her "Is it Mom, Dad, some one nice?" Her expression speaks volumes. Ten days ago her face was a picture of sheer fright. Her breathing stopped she turned blue, I called an ambulance. Rushed her to A&E her cloths cut off, she was masked and wired up. Doctor advised he was not going to reventilate if her breathing stopped again. Two days later she came around I informed the doctor in charge I was taking her home. I reminded him, three years earlied the same hospital gave her little chances of survival. They failed to discoved the cause of the problem. I expressed my reasoning, she was visited by vision from the past that sent her into shock. Such a memory would be the sight of our 15yr old daughter laying dead on the roadside, hit by a car. She is now recovered and doing very well at home. I was lost for those few days, only one to cook for. Now I am more aware how lucky I am having her all to myself to spoil.
There must be many people who might like to know how I manage everything for my wife when her body is as stiff as a board, like feeding when she would not eat in hospital, nor more than three years ago in the nursing home, untill I took over.
Must snatch time to craft my very strange life's story.
Remember to take lifes negatives and positives, without both you will not experience the warm light of contentment.
In spite of my lack of formal education I was able to retire at 54yrs age. I still find writing hard work!
Good luck and God Bless
Padraig.

AlwaysRosie
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   Posted 4/18/2006 12:16 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Lynn!! I want you to know that I have survived the week of moving things around upstairs to make a guestroom and a sewing room!! Hubby did all the heavy stuff, but it was still a very busy week for me. Then I enjoyed the visit from my son and his wife (what a doll) and my granddogger (Edgerrr) who is the offspring of my two little Westies. We had a great visit and I entertained a housefull for two days. Am not feeling the feared afteraffects (NO FLARE!!) Yeahhh!! Praise God. This really shows me that I am turning the corner with this Lupus. Thanks for asking Lynn . . . how are you sis?

Padraig . . . you are such a dear!!! How romantic. You are one in a million and it does my heart good to here about your tender care for your wife. Do make it a point to find that book I mentioned. I think you'll enjoy it!!

Blessings!
In His Grip,
AlwaysRosie          "We can't control the waves, but we can learn to surf!"
Psalms 139
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 4/18/2006 1:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Padraig..I certainly concur with Rosie you are so sweet and for sure one in a million....yes I lost Mom last month on March 20th ....three days after St.Paddy"s day in which was a hard time as well as I had lost my first hubby on that day in 1979 ...Dad and Rick always celebrated that day together and they did agian that day ....We got a call at 7 pm that night that Rick had been in a car accident and died instantly........My Dad was as you are with your wife and I went down to look after them both he is slipping away and I think it is because he has lost Mom and doesnt really know what to do with self .alone in a big house full of memories .......I can picture you with your wife I saw the love between my Mom and Dad and it was a love I have never seen before ......Or heard the likings to really except for Rosie's Mom for her Dad.......and her love of her family and parents ...
It is so true that when I look in the mirror I see Mom and I also see her in my daughter Cait .....She will forever live on
You are the only one as far as I am concerned that REALLY KNOWS your beautiful wife not these Doc's and as for not resucitating ..unless there is a DNR they have to do it .I just went thru it with Mom .......At the end she was just tired of fighting this all and gave up ...She lived a fulfilled life with great great grand babes and all as well she had a hubby much like you......I am truly grateful that HE has sent you to us I truly believe He did ......You have made us here all feel great knowing there are Men / and women out there that really will stick by their Vows and thats a hard thing to find in this day and age......The ones on this board know what I am saying...Thank you for being the wonderful husband and human being you are.....We look forward to your daily posts ........
I have also lost a child so I can honestly say I know this does affect us in so many ways
Please keep us posted and you also take care of you ......God Bless You and Give You Strength to keep going and keep these Docs on their toes .they will surely learn a lot from you ........Til the next time ........Lyn
BTW ...My email and other info is under name if you want to contact me


 
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 4/18/2006 1:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Sis I am so happy to hear that you have been kept healthy thru all of this ........Am also glad that your visit was a good one as well .....I have had a few rough days but am getting by with you and and all the others here on HW .....I believe Padraig has been sent to us in our times of need .......as I do also believe that we are kindred spirits :you and I ........I was going to call tonight but I am going to leave it til tomorrow as I am taking Dad out for supper and a walk just to get him out of the house for a wee bit ........Love you sis .......keep well and be strong ......Always thinking of you and your MOm and Dad .........God Bless....Sis
 
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   Posted 4/18/2006 4:32 PM (GMT -7)   
Tomorrow sounds great Lyn. We'll have the second meeting of "The Mutual Admiration Society" LOL.

Blessings!
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AlwaysRosie          "We can't control the waves, but we can learn to surf!"
Psalms 139
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 4/20/2006 3:26 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey sis so sorry that I could not call I had the worst day ever with Dad ,he was constantly insisting I was Mom and I broke when I got home.........spent most of the night in bed .....seeing the doc this am as I am not feeling well dont know if it "in my head " ya know or the flu ...whatever I am sure the "in my head " doesnt flush down the toilet lol...........Love ya ......God Bless.....Sis
 
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   Posted 4/20/2006 3:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Padraig ....How are you and your wife doing .......Thinking about you .....God Bless.....Lyn
 
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CharleyRice1931
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   Posted 4/20/2006 7:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Lyn and the gang,
I have read so much and heard so much on the subject of AD. I believe I can be of help to people who care for loved ones, but where to start. I have said how I removed my wife Jean from a nursing home over three years ago. Caring for her on my own up to the time of a fall, breaking her arm, and dislocated her shoulder and her admittance to hospipal. How I wish now what I knew then. I just know she would have walked out of hospital as she walked in after a month's stay. They druged without my knowledge and I received her back in a wheelchair. Now she could no longer stand.
We lived in the dream house I promised her when we did'nt have two pennies to rub together. It was a large six-bedroomed property in the remote countryside of Herefordshire. The grandchildren had grown up and we were now on our own. There was also the land to look after. She was moved six times in as many weeks.The pain I was put through was too much and I had a breakdown, and left with a very painful decision to place her in a nursing home. The pain continued as I made the daily visits to the home, 30 mile round trip. To see her lose weight and develope preasure sores. I asked her "are you giving up?" she nodded, "Yes". I cried begging her to hang on, promising to take her home as soon as I got a smaller place nearer to her. I sold our dream home of 25 years and bought a 4 bedroom town house. On taking her home packages of medication I was given I rejected, handing them over to our GP. I decided to go it alone from here on in.
The first few months were the worst. It had reached a stage where she drifted in and out of consciousness. I was advised not to sit holding her hand overnight as she was likely to pass away when I went for a drink or go to the toilet. I was also told not to force feed. The advice fell on deaf ears, here we are three years later. I use a baby's bottle for her drinks except for her morning drink of NESTLE Build-up laced with a spoonful of honey. I'll close here with this: one morning in the early stages I noticed her in a panic as she dressed with one red sock one white. "What's the problem love?" "I'LL be late for school". "Oh don't worry, I'll have a word with the Headmaster, I like your socks, there's another pair like that in the drawer".

I'll be in touch God willing.
Padraig

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   Posted 4/20/2006 10:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Sweet, sweet man! That is a touching story sir!! Glad you shared it.

Blessings!
In His Grip,
AlwaysRosie          "We can't control the waves, but we can learn to surf!"
Psalms 139
UCTD (Undifferentiated Connective Tissue Disease), Hashimoto's, Plantar Fasciitis, Inflamatory Arthritis, Carpal Tunnel both wrists, High BP, GI Inflamation, Diverticuloses
RX Meds: Plaquenil, Methotrexate, Synthroid, RX Motrin, Lexapro, Amitriptelyne, Salagen, Hydrochlorothiazide, Lisinopril, Panlor SS   -   OTC Supplements: Folic Acid, Centrum Silver, B12, B6, Calcium+D, Glucosamine, MSM, Salmon Oil, Flaxseed Oil)
 
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   Posted 4/20/2006 10:50 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Lyn,

Glad you decided to rest and see the doctor. I hope you aren't slipping backward Lyn. Sometimes we just have to rest. You and your family are in my prayers sis.

Blessings!
In His Grip,
AlwaysRosie          "We can't control the waves, but we can learn to surf!"
Psalms 139
UCTD (Undifferentiated Connective Tissue Disease), Hashimoto's, Plantar Fasciitis, Inflamatory Arthritis, Carpal Tunnel both wrists, High BP, GI Inflamation, Diverticuloses
RX Meds: Plaquenil, Methotrexate, Synthroid, RX Motrin, Lexapro, Amitriptelyne, Salagen, Hydrochlorothiazide, Lisinopril, Panlor SS   -   OTC Supplements: Folic Acid, Centrum Silver, B12, B6, Calcium+D, Glucosamine, MSM, Salmon Oil, Flaxseed Oil)
 
Healing Well:  Lupus Resources
Lupus Foundation of America (LFA) Facts and Overview: Lupus.Org
Criterea for Diagnosing Lupus:  Lupus Criterea


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   Posted 4/21/2006 4:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Padraig....I know you will be an asset and a blessing to this forum....you have walked the walk and you are living your vows to the fullest .I have the utmost admiration and respect for you ........I am so touched by your stories and I look forward to them daily.It proves there are peeps out there like you that will go to the farthest lengths for their loved ones .......Thanks for sharing and PLEASE do keep posting ..Give your wife a gentle hugg from us all ......Lots of huggs and God Bless...Lyn


 
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   Posted 4/21/2006 4:47 AM (GMT -7)   
Sis .Was told by Doc am in severe depression..DUH lol.........He put me on Effexor but am leary about it .......Really having rough time with Dad I dont know what is up with him but I am taking him to Doc's today........I also told the doc I have you and others to talk to when I get really down ,he has visited this site and believes it to be a great place .....Will call over the wknd....Love and Huggs..........God Bless.......Sis
 
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   Posted 4/21/2006 12:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Lyn, Took wife out shopping this morn. I like to watch her eyes as she looks at children and women. At the check-out she was watching the girl. I said "She is trying to search something about you". The check-out girl said: "I know of her from my mom who worked with her years ago!" Two statments Jean made in her early stages of AD, I took on board. One when I tried to take her to visit a day centre for people with AD. It was a party day. At the entrance she refused to come in with me, even with coaxing from the with lady with whom I arranged the visit. We managed to get her to have tea in the garden. As we left I questioned why she was so very upset, telling her I had never seen her so. Her reply will forever pain me: "Your'er trying to put me away". Imagine the fear of these poor afflicted souls, fearing the day they are put away. I said at the time: "Never, what would do without you, sit on the lawn like a dog waiting for you". But I did do it, I have to live with that. The other thing she told me when trying to tell me something: "The words won't come out properly." Is it any wonder some people get agitated when they know what they want but the words won't form.
Padraig. May your God go with you.

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   Posted 4/22/2006 9:22 AM (GMT -7)   
I can surely relate Padraig.......Thanks for you email I will get back to you am not feeling to good last couple of days ...I believe it is all catching up with me ......take care and a gentle hugg for you and your wife ....God Bless......Lyn
 
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CharleyRice1931
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   Posted 4/22/2006 1:42 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Lyn,
So sorry to learn you are going through a rough patch, you will be in my prayers to-night. Life is great with Jean and I, I always try to live in the present. I can't change the past, but learn from it. The future is the unknown, if it becomes the present I am thankful. The present is the only thing that is real.
Rosie,
Thank you for your kind words, I don't know if I have never been spoken of in the terms you express. I must have never shaken off the abandoned stray that is part of me. I know people hug and kiss family members. It's not something I can do, once my children and grandchildren became old enough I never feel I have a right to. One or two of the grand daughters hug and kiss me even though they are over 20 it feels wonderful. Our daughter I adore never hugs me, I am sure she understands me. It comes from the lack of having anyone to turn to, being raised In Industrial Schools. There are so many advantages and blessings from it. My wife won me over a long time ago and like any abused stray I remain loyal and derive great pleasure tending to her every need.
I am not being ungrateful I find it hard to accept kindness.
May your God go with you.
Padraig.

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   Posted 4/23/2006 6:04 AM (GMT -7)   
Padraig .....just take a step back and think of someone else being you and doing what you are doing and being the way you are ...You will see my friend you deserve much love and huggs ......My family is not big on hugging and emotional showing but I do tell Cait at least once daily (no doubt many more times lol) that I love her and I am so proud of her.........she is hugged constantly......Here is another gentle hugg for you and Jean.......your happiness and love for one another is just so inspiring,,,,,,,,God Bless........Lyn
 
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