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Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/9/2006 5:31 AM (GMT -7)   
 Hi there am hoping all is okay and that you are just to busy caring and sharing life with Jean ........Miss your stories my friend .....Hope to hear from you soon.............God Bless...........Hugs to Jean and you .....Lyn
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/10/2006 3:11 AM (GMT -7)   
hey Padraig left you a post on "Dad " thread........Be well and have a great day shopping with Jean ,it is your Wednesday shopping trip isnt it?? Gentle huggs to you n Jean..........Love and God Bless....Lyn
I also take dad to farmer's Market on Wednesday he loves it so do I especially just spending the day with him .........


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   Posted 5/13/2006 5:04 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey Padraig been looking for you ....Hope Jean has a lovely Mother's day.......God Bless and Gentle huggs to bth of you ....Lyn
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CharleyRice1931
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   Posted 5/13/2006 7:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi lyn,
I have been flusterated the past two days with being disconnected from the net. Hope it works this time. Gave Jean her dinner, sat down, woke two hours later, here I am. Had little sleep past two nights, dragged myself around my run, feel better after sleep.
It's not often I'm lost for words, but you leave me speechless at you and your Mum's spirit of selfless outstanding generosity. Every once in awhile come very special people who bring a beacon of light where darkness exists allowing others to look in wonder. You and your Mum are blesed with that spirit.
I now talk to myself and Jean all the time. When we lived in the country she often remarked: "They'll take you away, talking to youself" "I'm just talking to the trees and wild life" "But I heard you arguing""No problem I always win". We will be very much alone for the next two weeks as our daughter visits for a chat twice a week. She's off on holiday. It will make our two days a week shopping extra special. Mother's day here was a month ago.
I was telling our doughter, Colleen about a TV program I watched in disbelief. She saw it, but failed to see how funny it was. A young couple about to marry in three weeks time. Decide to seperate to have plastic surgery. The girl, a nose and chest job, the fellow, a nose, chest and reset his teeth. This was ment to be serious. I was thinking: the morning after the wedding night, they would get a fright! and what about any children, might he suspect they are not his! The children might ask Mom "How come I don't look You or Dad?"
I suspect there may not be many people as far gone as Jean. She now sleeps for long periods, and when I move her she falls to one side in the chairs. The one hand she can use, she grasps childlike at my hand, clothing or anything close. It's over 10yrs since her MRI scan which confirmed she was well down the Alzheimer's road. Would it be any benifit to relate the story from the begining a bit at a time. How I helped her cheat death. I am only too aware most people can not take on the whole caring alone. Just maybe we can learn new things from one another.
Surprise no interuptions!
May your God go with you.
Padraig.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/13/2006 8:45 AM (GMT -7)   
I really believe the stories you have of grandam Jean and what you have done with her would greatly benefit all on the forum........Do something like ' MY Perspective As The Caregiver and My rewards" something along those lines I know you will help so many of the peeps on here wrestling with so many things in their lives and their caregiving roles....You took here from the place that was literally killing her and brought her home gave her the love and essentials to blossom again....you have so much information and stories to tell .....I really am being honest when I say you are an asset to this forum grandpa Padraig.......I am honored to have you in my life as well as your beautiful wife thru the eyes and soul that so loves her the way you do ......My daughter has read some of your posts and she thinks you are the 'BOMB" meaning you are the greatest andrespects you for the man you are to Jean ......she said Holy Mom he walks and runs and does all that at his age" I replied Cait read between the lines it is his love and GJ that keeps him so young at heart............She was so saddened when she read of your childhood,my daughter makes me so proud she is full of love and empathy for all human being and any being.Wants to become a vet so you can well imagine all the animals I have her and have had over the yrs lol..........Do you have a pic of you and GJean that I could have i would love to put a face to you both ........Sending that pic now to you of Cait and I .yes I know I am thin there but I was really sick and had lost alot of weight but am up now and feeling good.Tomorrow is Mothers Day here and I am struggling really struggling crying at a drop of a hat and I miss mom so much I feel as if a part of me went with her ..........Anyways I am also sending the pics of the sores I get to you so you see what the Pyoderma gangerenosum is all about ..........Be well and God Be with You .............Gentle Huggs to you and GJean ...............God Bless...........Lyn
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CharleyRice1931
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   Posted 5/14/2006 6:57 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Lyn

I have left Jean looking at a DVD of the grandchildren playing at our dream home. The youngest with her pet sheep Pixie, it followed her everywhere. Summer they are playing in the river, and winter in the snow sliding down the banks, all 9 of them. Now three of the have children of their own. This treatment opens her her memory bank to see and enjoy treasured times. Treating the mind was overlooked in the nursing home. The most precious gift we are given, we waste it, can't make it, can't buy it, yet some say I'll buy some! We no not how much we are to receive.That's TIME. Well invested it goes into the memory bank and labled "fond memories". Now Jean sees the everyday things missing in the nursing home. Children at play, people tending their gardens, shopping etc.

When I first removed Jean from the home her face was pitted with blackheads,teeth had not been cleaned resulting in oral thrush. To-day her skin is beautiful, breath is fresh and sweet with regular dental check-ups. Her ankles had become swollen, I gave all of her footwear away except a new pair of leather boots. I purchased  an oversize pair of slippers. Now I fit her boots when I take her out. I noted she always lay with her head held back, opening her mouth. Then as now I ensure her head is propped forward whether on her side or back on the chair or bed. In the wheelchair her head fell back I supported it with one hand. As she gained weight from five stone she improved, now she can hold it up turn it around.
I'll get back to you on photos I have't a clue how to receive or send, will seek advice of our son when he calls. He's an art teacher. People seem surprised to see me, On first meeting me our daughter's husband say "Your not so big, from what colleen told me I expected to see a giant".
There was an American who came in my office in Dahran: "So your the Irish guy they talk about, not what I expected". "What do they say?" I ask "You can be a real mean dude, but" I cut in "The But is the part that counts" "You get things done and your very fair". I am only 5' 7" 145lbs. I'm concerned about middle age spread as my waist has slipped over 31" by half an inch, my chest is still 40-42". Feeling a bit down I asked Colleen, "I'm losing tone, what do you think?" I hope jokingly "Your eyes are OK."
May your God go with you.
Padraig.  

Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/15/2006 1:42 AM (GMT -7)   
Great to hear from you ,the mind has to be nutured and kept alive no matter if they have Ad or not you are totally right about that . I use to put a video on of all of the family we had working in the home and a special Dance I had for them all,they loved it I had psych patients as well on one wing so it was a challenge but at that time Mom was well and she was a great nurse . You sure sound like you are in fine shape and no doubt will out live me .........You give me more by sharing these stories than I can ever give back.I had a hard nnight before Mother's Day but felt better when I went to Church and saw my old friends (I havent gone since Mom passed)...........it did me a lot of good as well I have another close friend I talk to that has helped me thru alot lately. To get the pic's you go to your email and click on that it will tell you to download click on that abd it should be done .....You are the best medicine and the one that knows Jeans every way ......you should have been a geriatric specialist as I tell you everything you are doing for her neck,brain food and keeping her out in this world is totally the right way and it is keeping her live and with you .She knows she is in there and she loves you so much .......Give her a big hug for me and you as well .........God Be With You and G Jean as well ...Love Lyn
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CharleyRice1931
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   Posted 5/15/2006 5:50 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Lyn,

I feel great to-day. I managed to bypass my memory bank program. It was raining heavy this morn, mind told me skip running, it's wet and miserable. Out I went and enjoyed it, I won to-day! Can't remember having a cold for over 20yrs. How we are programed from very young makes it harder to erase unreasoned instructions. Imagine if we has been allowed to reason things out, we might have asked: Why rock a baby on a tree top? that's dangerous. Or, Bo Peep lost sheep, of course he wouldn't now where to look, ther're lost. Then confuse us by: leave them alone! Children are eager to learn, Example: A child walking the beach with Grandad:"Those noisy birds are seagulls" child "What about the heargulls?" "Where are they?" child "You can't see, only hear them". From my perspective I reason out or reject advice given relating to Jean.

After an MRI scan in early '96 it was offical she had AD aged 62. I was warned to expect mood swings and voilence.I chose to reject that as she was a quiet and gentle person. I was right.By 2001 a week before her 67th BD she had the last of her unwarned falls, result a fracture of upper arm and dislocated shoulder. I told her not to join me in our morning walk, as the grass was wet. As I walked down a bank, Iheard a tud, she had followed me and fallen foward. The full was taken on her streched out right arm.I knew it was bad as I heard her quietly wimper,I took her to the house, up spirial stairs, sat her down. I arranged a doctor and helped her into amblance. This was only the begining of my long nightmare. Four weeks later on leaving the hospital she would never walk unaided again. To follow: The lack of understanding by staff.

May your God go with you.     

Padraig.

 


Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/16/2006 2:39 AM (GMT -7)   
Grandpa Padraig........thanks for sharing people may not post but they are reading your story and I know they are getting much from it .......I got your email thanks and am sending pic right shortly.......God Bless............gentle Hugss...........Lyn
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