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petey
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   Posted 6/19/2006 7:11 PM (GMT -7)   
    My mother has alzheimers. My father takes pretty good care of her except for the fact she needs more baths. I have mentioned this to my dad, but he says he will sit and watch her. I have offered to send someone (CNA) to give her baths because I know my mother is not washing her body. I feel so sad. She was the type of women who took such good care of herself and now its over. I ask her if I could help her take a bubble bath and wash her hair real pretty. She says I took one this morning and even if she does she does not clean properly. Can someone give me some advice? Thank you

SnowyLynne
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   Posted 6/20/2006 12:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Does she have a shower? Sometimes getting in with the person in your shorts & a T shirt works.Or don't ask,just do it.
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   Posted 6/20/2006 5:13 AM (GMT -7)   
I think Snowy is right that sometimes it is a case of just saying somthing like "right then time for a nice bath mom" and then just talk her through everything step by step like "here is your face cloth mom,give your face a wash" Sometimes you might have to take over and do the actuely washing of her your self but at other times you might find that with some guidance and instructons she might manage to make quite a good job of it all her self.

I suppose it is different if a person gets stubbon or agressive when you try to bath them though. In that case I would say that you definatly would need to speak to your Dad about asking for outside help.


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   Posted 6/21/2006 5:21 AM (GMT -7)   
I have to agree here you have to sometimes just do things and I know you are hesitant cuz it MOM but you will notice she now depends on you and Dad for her life choices and decisions .this is the saddest part of this DD it robs you of your self.Give her a little laughter in the tubby .....I will tell you I was never so embarrassed in my life when I had to prep my own Mother for surgury ...We did make a few "Jokes " about it but I can honestly say I have Memories with Mom that my siblings dont have......I am glad you found us here and hope you will post often there is a great group of peeps on this board ......Hopefully we can help you out .we are here for support ,ideas and to get a break as well ........A real nice warm bubble bath would do the world of good and as Snowy said jump in ....I found that when I was to pushy with Mom she would get nasty so I just went with her mood for the day ...Hope we have helped in some way .Take care and God Bless......Lyn
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   Posted 6/24/2006 5:46 AM (GMT -7)   
Petey ......Havent seen you back I hope all is well and you have read posts .......God Bless.Lyn
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   Posted 6/25/2006 8:47 AM (GMT -7)   
BUMP
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Katina
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   Posted 7/9/2006 9:14 AM (GMT -7)   

Petey, Hope things are going better for you. I work in a senior enviornment,and we are always looking for different ways to bathe people.  One thing I learned is that they do not have to get in the shower to get clean. There was a lady that could not get her husband to shower. So she got some no rinse soap and used a wash cloth and when he was sleeeping she started with one side of his face. She cleaned him gently and if he stirred she stopped.  She would wait until the next night and take up where she left off. Eventually she got him all clean within a few days.  She repeated the cleansing process after she was done.  It seems like a pain in the butt but it works.Sometimes telling someone they have an odor helps them especially if they were very clean in their younger days. They dont always take it personally if it is one of their loved ones.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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   Posted 7/10/2006 5:42 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi and thanks for your input ........Hope you post again ......God Bless......Lyn
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   Posted 7/14/2006 2:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Petey ...Padraig has some great input on bathing for you in Post Padraig ..My story your story .........Hoping things are well for you ....God Bless....Lyn
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   Posted 8/15/2006 10:14 PM (GMT -7)   
I have noticed my mother-in-laws lack of grooming alot lately.  Fortunately I don't have a strong sense of smell but my husband and sister in law have told me that she does have an odor.  Also, she seems to wear the same clothes every day.  I do the laundry and am willing to wash her clothing but apparently she feels that is a burden and washes her clothes by hand in the bathroom sink.  I am horrified and want to help but how can I make her shower and have me wash her clothes?

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   Posted 8/16/2006 5:23 AM (GMT -7)   
Welcome ...With my mom I just told her we were going for outting or someone was coming over and I thought SHE might want to dress up for it or them she usually went for this with no problem . Maybe try suggessting something like this and see where it gets you ..It is hard I know but we have to help sometimes,and you just try to do what you can .Sounds like the mother in law lives with you and hubby ? I hope you post more and if you need to talk my email is ther please feel free to contact me.........God Bless....Lyn
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   Posted 3/10/2007 6:03 PM (GMT -7)   
Petey
Wondering how you are making out
Not seen you for quite some time here
Hoping all is well
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   Posted 3/12/2007 2:01 PM (GMT -7)   
How is all else doing any one having any luck with the grooming as we can do a thread on this alone if needed actually if I get time in am I think I will start one
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   Posted 3/14/2007 12:10 PM (GMT -7)   
Sometimes we have to remember they may not like Showers ya know Baths was in their childhood and yrs and so if you are fighting about showering
Take a care and sit it in tub filling the tub up and washing her/ him then let water out and use a soft hand held showerer that you can spary to do the rest of body and hair

PERICARE in both men and woman is a MUST.....many meds will cause Yeast infections and so on
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   Posted 3/15/2007 2:25 PM (GMT -7)   
IF you cannot get them to shower or tub a nice hot bowl of soapy water will still do the trick
Use two washclothes one for body and facee ( face first) and other for Pericare
Make sure it is dry down in perinerrial area and use a nice soothing lotion for skin to keep it moistened
Always check for bruises and open cuts as well....diffence in texture of skin ect.
Try to use toilet paer or kleenex for inner ear Q tips not good as you can cause damage w/o knowing from what my doc has told me ......
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   Posted 3/16/2007 2:03 PM (GMT -7)   
Doing the care on loved ones is imperative whether we do it by shower tub or big old bowl please do make sure thay are groomed and looked at for bruising and skin changes anything out of ordinary should be handled by the doc
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   Posted 3/18/2007 1:02 PM (GMT -7)   
If you can get them involved as much as possible keeps them busy as well as kinda in the space that they are doing for themselves hand them a washcloth and just say while I do this .....how be you do that or something along those lines you use whatever works for you
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   Posted 3/24/2007 3:33 PM (GMT -7)   
I dont think that washing out her undergarments in the sink is that bad and she probably wants to do it so just go with it
It certainly cannot hurt IMHO
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   Posted 3/25/2007 12:10 PM (GMT -7)   
If your loved one likes to swim perhaps take them to the YMCA or YWCA......
Great exercise and good for them ......
Doesnt take the place of proper bathing and grooming though
Just a thought I know my Dad loves swimming

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