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inert
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   Posted 10/10/2006 11:45 PM (GMT -6)   
Mother-in-law came over in the morning angry because last night when she went to kiss the baby (2 year old) goodbye. The baby, who was busy eating dinner, pushed her away. Well my mother-in-law was furious because the baby had food on her hand and it ruined her shirt, and she was mad because how dare that baby push her! When I tried to explain that the baby didn't know any better because she is only two, my mother-in-law became furious at me and pushed me-hard and said, see, how do you like that. I ran into the garage, where my husband was hiding, I mean cleaning, and demanded that he go deal with her. (he missed the whole incident) then I took the baby and hid in the bedroom until she left. Now Monday I start back to work and I am terrified that my husband, who I am leaving the baby with, will take off and leave his mother to watch the baby. When I try to talk to him about it he justs gets mad at me and he won't listen. How do I get him to realize that it is not safe to leave the baby and grandmother alone together. He just thinks I hate his mom or something even though I do everything for her.

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   Posted 10/11/2006 3:36 AM (GMT -6)   
You cannot leave your baby with her
Obviously she is not in her right mind at all and proved that
Your hubby HAS to stand by you his wife and also his child in this one .........
I feel so bad for you I cannot imagine what you are feeling i never had to go thru anything like that and I am so sorry you did
I truly BELIEVE deep down your hubby knows"His Mom " is going away from him and he is not accepting this at all..that is understandable
What she did to you however is not acceptable nor understandable IMO.............
I beieve sincerely intervention is really needed before someone gets hurt worse ya know ..........
I will be keeping you in my heart parayers and thoughts
Please sit hubby down DONT let him up have all wriiten out of all that has happened
IT IS time he opened his eyeys YES his heart will hurt but he needs to see what you deal with daily .............
Take care
Lyn
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   Posted 10/12/2006 3:44 AM (GMT -6)   
How are you doing
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   Posted 10/13/2006 4:46 AM (GMT -6)   
How are you doing hun thinking about you '
Thanks for your support yesterday I was a mess
Love '
Lyn
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inert
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   Posted 10/16/2006 5:15 PM (GMT -6)   
Did a lot of talking to my husband over the weekend. He agreed to go somewhere quiet with me, away from everyone so we could talk. (I think suggesting he go salmon fishing helped him agree to this.) He went fishing down river a lot leaving me and baby to play in the sand, but at least I had him trapped in the car.:) Anyway I feel I have gotten through to him at least on the most important things. He has agreed to not leave baby and grandma totally alone together. I agreed it would be OK to be right outside working in the yard as long as he is close at hand. He agreed not to let grandma take baby for stroller walks unless he goes with them. Also I am going to try working night shift, so during the day I am sleeping, but there for emergencies. (I started work today but it was only orientation.)
Also talked to grandma. This was harder. I really hurt her feelings when I said her memory was getting bad. I won't go over the whole conversation but she understands (for the moment at least) that she will be helping my husband with the babysitting and not doing it by herself.
With work starting and the home study course I have taken on I won't be writing for a long while. I will probably check in and read others posts once in a while. But if you don't hear from me, know I am still around reading once in a while.
Lyn, especially thank you for your support. I think I just read you weren't feeling well so I hope that changes, and you feel better soon. Remember you have to take care of yourself first, before you can properly care for others..............................Inert

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   Posted 10/16/2006 7:40 PM (GMT -6)   
Keep a real close eye on baby & Grandma.If the baby rebuffs her again she WILL lash out!
SnowyLynne


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   Posted 10/17/2006 4:02 AM (GMT -6)   
I am glad you got some things straightened out BUT I do so agree with Snowy on this hun she will lash out on that baby if it does something she does not like she is angry as it is .Make sure Hubby watches very very closely please
I am feeling much better
thanks for your concern 'you look after you please and keep us posted okay
Luv lyn


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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 10/20/2006 2:52:14 AM (GMT-6)


Howlyncat
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   Posted 10/20/2006 3:52 AM (GMT -6)   
Hoping you are okay Inert have not heard from you for a bit
Lyn
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   Posted 5/1/2007 11:25 AM (GMT -6)   
INERT
How are things going 'Thinking bout you and your situation
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   Posted 5/7/2007 5:20 PM (GMT -6)   
bringing to top
Hoping you are ok Inert
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