HOW DO YOU Handle it when loved ones get up set over you for things out of your control?

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Rabbin
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   Posted 10/12/2006 12:20 PM (GMT -7)   
I find My Mary's logical thinking seems in the mist most of the time and she will tell me how to do things.  and I will explain to her what I am doing and why and she will go into a long detailed reason that is unreasonable for doing something that I can't do!  Then as I try to tell her why her comment to me always ends up with her saying "Look I'm Old not stupid"  which makes me feel horrible that she would think I was even saying such.  I suppose silence is golden and it's best just to say nothing or explain nothing!  Which for me because this is new is hard to do for in the past it would of only been a matter of rational discussion and now it's not!  
 
I find for me as a way to regain my own sanity I have to leave the room and/or get out of the house when she begins to yell at me such things!  Forgive me I just went through such an episodes with her and at the moment I am venting my own frustrations!
 
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 10/12/2006 12:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Please dop not apologise for being or getting frustrated you are going to and more down the raod thats why we are here
Support and Empathy go along way here
Each of us already are or have been where you are right now
Perhaps not all things you are gonna do but soem lil things take in front of her and just say "Well Mary how do you supose we can fix this / (make it simlpe and go along with it
Other harder more troublesome things take out to another room or find your self a lil "Zone" where you can get some things done if possible
I am sure others will have more suggestions
I would just leave it when Mom got like that change subject and then go back to it whilst she was napping
Wishing all the best
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God Bless you Both
Lyn
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SnowyLynne
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   Posted 10/12/2006 2:20 PM (GMT -7)   
You must remember she is not in "our"world anymore just in "her" world.So you stay in her world it's alot better.Just go with the flow & don't worry.
SnowyLynne


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   Posted 10/13/2006 1:29 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Snowy your input always appreciated
Lyn
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deepinit
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   Posted 12/30/2006 2:33 PM (GMT -7)   
my disease acts alot like MS, but I' ve been diagnosed as Alzheimers. I go two to four day deep in it, can't write a letter, losing inportant passwords, in twilight seeing things, lose my balance, then it mostly comes backs. Is that alzheimers?

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SnowyLynne
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   Posted 12/30/2006 4:12 PM (GMT -7)   
Have you been diagnosed with Alzheimer's??If you feel you have a problem,have your Dr
refere you to a good Neurologist.
SnowyLynne


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   Posted 12/31/2006 3:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Welcome I totally agree with Snowy on this one you need to be properly dx if not yet
See a nuerologist as soon as possible
Take care and God Bless
Happy New Year snowy and to you as well
Give Larry my best as well Snowy

All the best in 2007
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   Posted 3/18/2007 12:16 PM (GMT -7)   
Wondering how its going deepinit
Havent seen you around lately and wondered if you gotten a DX
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   Posted 3/19/2007 4:18 PM (GMT -7)   
You cannot reason with a person with this disease IMO
Sometimes it is better for them to go into their world ya know it is not hard to do at all
Less frustration and aggitation for all involved
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   Posted 4/19/2007 1:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Just checking to see if you are still around deepinit
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   Posted 4/23/2007 9:05 AM (GMT -7)   
Bringing to top
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   Posted 4/24/2007 1:29 PM (GMT -7)   
You have got to try and go into there world at most times IMHO
Dad was flustered today as I was trying to explain my illness and I had to leave it at just that ..........
Dad I am sick...
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