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AlwaysRosie
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   Posted 1/25/2007 2:04 AM (GMT -6)   
*sigh* eyes

Well . . . he's gone. *sigh*

Very rough . . . had soooo much hope Tuesday afternoon, as Dad was smiling brightly and in such good spirits. He let me rub his shoulders and neck (previously, we couldn't touch him like that or he would swat at us). I was also able to trim his mustache, beard and eyebrows . . . wow . . . brand new guy! He ate a tiny cup of ice cream, some pudding, and a little bit of mashed potatoes, gravy and peaches.

I was teasing him like I always do and he said "sweetheart". He even attempted a joke and laughed at it. I have no idea what he was saying, but it was funny.

(BTW . . . Mom and I visited on Monday and he looked like he was on death's door. Mouth open, really labored breathing . . . very sad.)

Blessing: My daughter was planning to take my mom to the hospital Tuesday, but Justine was sick, so I went. *woo -- oughhhh -- wooo oughhh* . . . so I really received a huge blessing to see Dad feeling so well Tuesday.

Anyway, my brother and his wife were up to feed him Tuesday night and he ate a whole roast beef sandwich and everything that came with it. He was doing really well, although he wouldn't tolerate the neck rub. He wanted to stand and even walk around a bit. Then . . . he just stopped breathing. *sigh* With the DNR order if affect, there was no attempt by the hospital staff to assist him. They brought him to his room and got him to bed and my brother and his wife were with him when he died.

Hubby took me up to see him one last time *tears* and I'm really glad I went up. Dad looked SO peaceful my heart is full of hope that he is actually with Jesus. I was never sure if he accepted the gift of salvation, but we had talked about it several times, as did he and my sister.

Funeral was last Saturday. Have been spending much time with Mom . . . want to make sure she isn't alone too much.

Thanks for always being here for me Lynn. This forum has been a huge blessing to me.

I hope you and your dad are feeling a bit better this week.

Love and Blessings,
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   Posted 1/25/2007 2:32 AM (GMT -6)   
I'm so sorry Rosie.................
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   Posted 1/25/2007 2:37 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks Snowy eyes

I hope you are doing well sis.

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   Posted 1/25/2007 8:25 AM (GMT -6)   
My sweet Rosie
I wasnt on yesterday but for a few minutes as my son was in a serious car accident


Rosie
I am so sorry my heart is aching and tears are running down my face for you sis and your sweet sweet mother
I know just what you are going thru I am still grieving myself
'Know he is no longer in pain and he has his total mind back and is now watching out for you and your mom and families
Pick a star hun that will be him talk to him he will hear you I promise '
I know he is now with our Higher power and is waiting now for his family to come to him when their time comes
I will always be here sis I am that soft pillow you can come fall on okay
Please email me and I would get right back to you
Again I am so sorry
(((((((((((((((((((( ROSIE...MOM.....FAMILY)))))))))))))))))))
God Bless and Keep you IN His Arms
LOVE ALWAYS
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   Posted 1/25/2007 8:26 AM (GMT -6)   
Keep those beautiful memories hun always
not the bad ones ......
It will help get you thru
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   Posted 1/25/2007 8:47 AM (GMT -6)   
Oh Rosie.. I'm so sorry for your loss.. My heart goes out to you and you and your family is in my thoughts and prayers.. If there is anything I can do, please let me know...
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   Posted 1/25/2007 9:14 AM (GMT -6)   
I know I don't know you , and you don't know me , but I know what you're going through ((((HUGS))))
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   Posted 1/25/2007 9:38 AM (GMT -6)   
((((Rosie)))) Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family,
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   Posted 1/25/2007 11:08 AM (GMT -6)   
Rosie, I wanted to stop in and say how sorry I am that your dad died. How nice though that you got to have a good day with him before he passed away. My thoughts and prayers will be with you, your sister, and your mom. Take care of yourself.
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   Posted 1/25/2007 11:54 AM (GMT -6)   
You guys are SO sweet.

Your love and support is just so comforting.

I wasn't prepared for the feelings I'm having. I just hated this darn disease so much that I thought I would be happy to see Dad released from his prison of a body and brain. But . . . .

Anyway . . . I am into "sock therapy". I am knitting my first pair of socks and have the first one done. They are a nice weight boot sock to really fit my odd combination of huge calves and tiny ankles. Sounds a bit odd . . . but it really is very theraputic. Just one more of the "final gifts" I've received from helping care for Dad. I started crocheting and knitting to fill the time I was spending while sitting with Dad after he couldn't enjoy our crafts anymore.

Thanks again for your prayers, hugs and well wishes. I was SO surprised to see so many of you found me in the Alzheimer forum. You guys are such a comfort and a blessing.

God Bless You!
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   Posted 1/25/2007 12:27 PM (GMT -6)   
No one that was touched by you ( and that is so many) could nor would ever forget you sweetie you know that
Come and post when you feel the need to be surrounded by your HW family please
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   Posted 1/25/2007 2:04 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Rosie,

So sorry to hear of your loss. I know how much time and energy you put into caring for your father -- so very admirable; I don't think I could do it.

Please take care of yourself; these are the times when we forget ourselves in our grieving. Even when we think we've accepted that passing will in some ways be a relived, there is always a confusion of conflicting thoughts afterwards.

My thoughts are with you and your family, esp. your mother.

 

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   Posted 1/25/2007 2:05 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi alwaysrosie,

Just wanted to let you know I am here and thinking of you. I am sorry for your loss for you and your entire family.

I am happy that you were able to spend some cool days with your dad. We know Alzheimers can be difficult and the fact of him not swatting at you and joking was real cool.

Please take care of yourself and I pray that you and your family stay well. I also pray that you are able to avoid a flare during this time of stress.

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   Posted 1/25/2007 4:53 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Rosie
((((hugs))))
I know that was a long battle for him, and so hard on you and your sister and mom.... I will be praying that he is with our Lord and Saviour as well....
 
My prayers are with you all.  I'm glad you have your "sock therapy".  I got a smile on my face when I read that.....
 
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   Posted 1/25/2007 8:02 PM (GMT -6)   
Been thinking bout you and yours all day sis and the socks
Love ya
Your sis always
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Thanks again ladies. You are a dear bunch. I do feel your love and so appreciate it.

Blessings!
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   Posted 1/26/2007 4:13 AM (GMT -6)   
Please keep in touch
hug your mom for me k
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   Posted 1/26/2007 1:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Rosie,

I lost my dad in '02 and was with him when he took his last breath. Our dads are at peace now. Know that you were there for him when it counted.

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   Posted 1/26/2007 2:28 PM (GMT -6)   
I am sorry about the loss of your Dad Rosie.((((( Hugs)))))


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   Posted 1/27/2007 8:35 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello Rosie
 
I'm so sorry to hear about your dad I know what it's like to lose a parent. You and your family are in my prayers. You take care of yourself and take time for you too. (((Hugs)))
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My thoughts and prayers are with you Rosie (((hugs)))

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   Posted 1/27/2007 10:24 AM (GMT -6)   
Hoping you are doing alot of walking down memory lane sis
It sure helped me as did doing the thread to MOM.......
Love ya so
Having my tea now
You make the best as always been missing it so.
Butterfly kisses to Mom and huggs to you and yours
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   Posted 1/28/2007 12:13 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey friends,

You guys are the best. I was just so blessed by all your kind thoughts and prayers.

Yes Lynn, lots of memories! Glad you liked the tea!

The whole family (I have 8 brothers and sisters, two of which are now with Dad and Jesus) are having dinner at Mom's tomorrow. We'll all bring part of the meal and spend the evening together.

Thanks again for your love and kindness.
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   Posted 1/28/2007 5:59 AM (GMT -6)   
Heres to a good dinner sis
Post and let us know ho things go
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   Posted 1/28/2007 9:03 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Rosie, I know I'm a bit late, but I didn't want to intrude on your grief. It's been on my mind and so I prayed for you and your family last night. I'll never know what you must have been, and are going through, only those who lost a parent will know your pain. You have been such a great support to so many. Your Dad must have moulded into such a special lady, you do him proud. Take a little time out each day to savour your sweet memories.
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