CharlieRice, my 2¢

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Jeannie143
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   Posted 3/2/2007 2:31 PM (GMT -6)   
Charlie,
I've been following your love story with your dear Jean and I don't want to interrupt with my thoughts on that dialog... Just want to tell you to skip filling out the 11 page form. They will not be able to use it for any type of training. What you are doing is similar to what Mother Theresa did... simple love and care. It's full time, as you said, like caring for a baby. Lots of cleaning and feeding and cleaning again. No one but a loving person could do what you do and in an institutional setting, training staff to accomplish this quality of care is impossible. I'm sorry to say that but it's true.

Even if someone could be trained to care like you do, not just give good physical care, but to emotionally feel compassion for the patient, there is no way to financially compensate them for the sacrifice of time and life that you are doing. My son did this type of care for his grandmother. He took 2 and 1/2 years of his life to help her meet her death with dignity and he was forever changed by the task he undertook.

I believe that your quiet example helps anyone who reads your words to see that love is the only way to get through this type of end of life experience. I think of you often and remember you in my prayers. Please accept my good thoughts and remember you are not alone in your task. We are all wishing you good health and strength until you can see her safely home. Take care.
~ Jeannie
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~Please remember that 50% of all doctors graduated in the bottom half of their class!
Yours may be one of them...

"People are like stained glass windows: They sparkle and shine when the sun's out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is light within."
- Elizabeth Kubler-Ross


CharleyRice1931
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   Posted 3/3/2007 10:01 AM (GMT -6)   
Jeannie, I'm stunned, what a beautiful post. It was once said of me "You can give but you can't take." There is a degree of truth in that, for when some one gives me a present I tend to choke up and want to hide. People say 'you never know what you got until it's gone'. It's the reverse with me, and why Jean always used the phrase 'your strange'. If you start out in life with nothing, I mean someone to turn to from age 2 to 16 (I was brought up in male Institutions) it tends to bring into sharp focus the riches of family and friends that people all around, take for granted. On release from my second Institution after years of abuse and hard work
I was emotionally barren, my development levels stunted, even unaware there was a difference between boys and girls. In other words I was a stranger in a strange world, but oh what a wonderful beautiful world it is and to be free to enjoy it.

Been shut away from the world as a child has proved to be a blessing I've managed to educate myself and appreciate things most people take for granted. Best of all I found a beautiful coalminer's daughter who managed to get past my invisible barrier and with gentle kind ways inspired me to fulfill all my dreams. When I look back I'm surprised at what I have achived, in sport, work and finance able to retire at age 54.
I know I'm going on a bit, but I have to mention your bigest surprise, Charlie, the last time I was called that was under age 16, I'd grown up with that name, but just before 16 I was told it's not my name anymore. They'd taken away a childhood my identity but not my number 11536. Some thing they failed to take was the blessing of love. Most of my life I would't dare talk of my past, but now at my age it matters no more. Jeannie, I thank you from the botom of my heart for adding to my sense of self worth. God bless.

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   Posted 3/7/2007 5:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for the great input Jeannie
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   Posted 3/8/2007 7:27 PM (GMT -6)   
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