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Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/5/2007 4:28 AM (GMT -6)   
  This Is A Poem Dedicated to all Alzheimers People

            Crabby Old Man
 
    What do you see nurses?
    What do you see?
    What are you thinking when you're looking at me?
    A crabby old man, not very wise,
    Uncertain of habit With faraway eyes?
    Who dribbles his food and makes no reply.
    When you say in a loud voice,
    "I do wish you'd try!"
    Who seems not to notice, the things that you do.
    And forever is losing, a sock or shoe?
    Who, resisting or not lets you do as you will.
    With bathing and feeding,
    the long day to fill?
    Is that what you're thinking?
    Is that what you see?
    Then open your eyes, nurse.
    You're not looking at me.
    I'll tell you who I am as I sit here so still,
    As I do at your bidding, as I eat at your will.
    I'm a small child of Ten, with a father and mother, Brothers and
    Sisters, who love one another
    A young boy of Sixteen, with wings on his feet Dreaming
    that soon now. a lover he'll meet.
    A groom soon at Twenty, my heart gives a leap.
    Remembering, the vows that I promised to keep.
    At Twenty-Five, now I have young of my own.
    Who need me to guide and a secure happy home.
    A man of Thirty my young now grown fast,
    Bound to each other with ties that should last.
    At Forty, my young sons have grown and are gone,
    But my woman's beside me to see I don't mourn.
    At Fifty, once more, babies play 'round my knee, Again, we
    know children my loved one and me.
    Dark days are upon me  my wife is now dead.
    I look at the future I shudder with dread.
    For my young are all rearing young of their own.
    And I think of the years and the love that I've known.
    I'm now an old man and nature is cruel.
    Tis jest to make old age look like a fool.
    The body, it crumbles grace and vigor, depart.
    There is now a stone, where I once had a heart.
    But inside this old carcass, a young guy still dwells, And now
    and again my battered heart swells. I remember the joys.
    I remember the pain. And I'm loving and living life over again.
    I think of the years all too few gone too fast.
    And accept the stark fact that nothing can last. So open your eyes,
    People open and see.
    Not a crabby old man.  Look closer
    And see.
    ME!!
 
** I remember this from Nursing days...A good friend reminded me of this .........I love it and it tells the truth from their point of view IMHO**
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/7/2007 6:38 PM (GMT -6)   
This was something we were given for Nursing school in Geriatrics but it was " A Crabby Old Woman"........
But it is pertinent to both sexes in the case of AD.....IMHO
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   Posted 3/13/2007 7:31 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you so much for posting that Lyn. As you know I am a nurse too.....I am going to tell you a true story......

Back in the early 1980's I was working in a CCU at Waterman Memorial Hospital in Eustis, Fl.......the hospital staff was all abuzz during our night shift. An elderly gentlemen on the medical floor had disappeared along with his IV pole and IV medication. He was quite ill, the police were called etc.

A nurse remembered him saying several times he had to go to Disney World before he died. Disney World was on the South side of Orlando about 70 miles away if I remember correctly.

Guess what......when the ticket booths opened in the early am the cars waiting in the parking lot (at Disney World) started inching forward. A car stopped at a booth to buy a ticket and inside an elderly gentlemen with an IV pole ln the front seat asked for a ticket. The police were alerted....as he later told the nurses back at the hospital he could see the ferry boats, the tram train and that was enough to give him hope.

The owner of the car that had been hot wired and stolen from the hospital parking lot did not press charges (you guessed it)! The elderly man did get well and the report we later received was that someone did take him to Disney World.

The elderly are so precious. Andrea
Women who behave don't make History!

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C4-5 disectomy & fusion (anterior)
C6-7 & C7-8 L laminectomies (posterior) (need R)
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bulged discs at C6-7 & C7-8

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Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/14/2007 1:45 PM (GMT -6)   
Yes they are I have worked with them or HIV/Aids PPL for over 30 plus yrs as did my mom
I just lost her almost a yr ago and now step dad is in with pneumonia and ok one minute in Oxygen the next feel like I am on a emotional rollar coaster
It is hard but it does let you know how they feel and I am involved in all aspects of his care
Twas your car.....that was sweet of you
Thanks for the story come back anytime..gave me a big ole smile
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AndreaRN
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   Posted 3/14/2007 2:48 PM (GMT -6)   
Nope!!!! Was not my car...I am just the nurse relating the story.......the owner of the car the elderly man hotwired was in the ER at the time seeing a doctor. What a surprise when he came out.

I am so sorry about your parents. My Dad died in 1996 very suddenly and my Mother in 1999 after staying in my home for 6 months. I still hear my Fathers voice so at least that has not been taken from me.
Women who behave don't make History!

C3-4 herniation
C4-5 disectomy & fusion (anterior)
C6-7 & C7-8 L laminectomies (posterior) (need R)
Partial removal of supporting Cervical Posterior Ligament
Constant shoulder pain & tightness.intermittent neck pain
bulged discs at C6-7 & C7-8

Chronic Pain with Vicodin 7.5/325 rx

VIEW IMAGE


Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/14/2007 3:47 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks so much
It will be a yr on Tuesday and God I miss her BUT I do feel I really feel her touch my face sometimes and tell me its going to be okay........
I am happy that she is now free of all the Alzheimers and COPD and pain and suffering you know and is with Her Maker
But that doesnt take away the pain of her not being around everyday
I am sure you understand
So sorry about your mom and Dad as well
God BLess
Be well
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/15/2007 4:57 PM (GMT -6)   
I see so many men and woman not being " seen" on my daily trips to hospital and geriatric ward
I make it a point to stop and say hello it is so sad and takes its toll on all if you have the heart to see the real person sitting in that chair or layingin that bed staring off to God only knows where
Distant memories
Thoughts of what it should have been
Pleasant Memories

** If you have the chance just to talk to them I implore you do so it only takes a moment out of your day and it gives them a day of happiness and belonging once again.........if only for that day
Never forget them they are why we are here and they are also what we may end up like

Treat those AS YOU wold want to be treated with a heart and all of the kindness you have
It is "Pay It Forward" Time imo
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   Posted 3/22/2007 6:57 AM (GMT -6)   
Beautiful storied you 2...Really make you think.
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   Posted 3/22/2007 3:32 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks Lil One
Hoping it would
Seniors are the forgotten souls and that IS NOT right.IF not for them where would we have come from
Mom out
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   Posted 3/22/2007 9:42 PM (GMT -6)   
true true...
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   Posted 3/31/2007 11:49 AM (GMT -6)   
Remember it takes just a few minutes of your time if you can voluteer at NH's or Retirement homes to just visit for those that do not have family or visitors

Another thing you can do is if you are going shopping and know of a shut in ( ask Church) and see if you might be able to pick up something they need

Sometimes seniors will not have food in their house and basically eat vey lil of what they do have
Habits die hard and many dont like to ask you to do anything as they might feel they are putting you out
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   Posted 4/1/2007 5:32 AM (GMT -6)   
That poems is lovely, i love it, i have heard it before but it was the the crabby old lady.
Makes u think !
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   Posted 4/1/2007 2:58 PM (GMT -6)   
It sure does and it is in your studies when taking Nursing
Luvs
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   Posted 4/5/2007 8:09 PM (GMT -6)   
Take a real good look at their faces their eyes and see from what you see just what they may have gone thru in their loves

Nothing more beautiful than to see an seniur couple walking down the streets holding hands faces turned towards one another love in their whole aura
It does not ever cost to look
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 4/9/2007 3:29 PM (GMT -6)   
Just HOPING to inspire someone with this poem

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   Posted 5/7/2007 7:09 PM (GMT -6)   
I love the poem Lyn, it made me cry, sometimes when I see my father-in-law he has a kind of blank stare I wonder what he is thinking. and hoping that what ever is going on that it is good thoughts going on in his head. and other times he is talkative and doesnt have that blankness those are the good times. but we love him either way and always will.
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   Posted 5/8/2007 6:32 AM (GMT -6)   
I was one of those people that didn't "see" the elderly until my grandmother moved in with me almost 3 years ago. Now I seen it up close and personal of the how she is treated by society in general and it has opened my eyes to how valuable the elderly really are. It shocks me to see that others just discount them as if they are second class citizens because they can't contribute to society anymore. Our elderly have so much wealth of knowledge that we need to take advantage of it. And even if they have AD or senility, they might still remember who they are, where they came from and what they have learned in which they could pass onto us.

I've seen this poem once before my eyes were "opened" and I didn't think much of it, but now that my eyes are wide open; it really hits home.
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   Posted 5/8/2007 5:50 PM (GMT -6)   
Sweet Rona .
I truly believe those"blank " stares ( dad does it too ) are the times or things they are trying and do remember yet keep inside ....maybe too painful or could be they feel they need to keep it locked up ya know

Either way yes I love this poem it is given to all nurses when starting out .......here in Ontario and I am sure in other Countries as well

Take care n have heart he knows you love him I truly believe that with all my heart n soul


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   Posted 5/8/2007 6:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Sherry

Something told me to bring this up yesterday I am not sure if it was because I wanted to read it again or what
I am so glad you do see what OTHERS dont see

Our seniors( high percentage) are treated horrible and they are forgotten souls that we should n need to remember that they are the REASON we are here

As posted to Rona I truly believe they know who they are to some degree and they want to express it sometimes yet they cannot .they are shoved to the side and forgotten about .....

I am glad you had the chance to have your Grandma move in and for you to see how they are so treated it is very eye opening isnt it .........give her a gentle hug for me .and say thanks ....

I miss my Mom so much and I see her everywhere still in the streets we walked along and in the flowers she loved ..In me and in my daughter.......
I still can vision her tenderly and lovingly pulling weeds from her Rose bushes ......
It hurts she is gone but I know she is not in pain and she is whole again ..........

Just know that if you have a Mom still or Dad whether they have this DD or not LOVE them like there is no tomorrow ( G Grandparents grandparents ect)
Sometimes there just isnt ..........

Be well and thanks for posting ....
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   Posted 6/23/2007 5:06 AM (GMT -6)   
I still love reading this poem :-)
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   Posted 6/23/2007 7:08 PM (GMT -6)   
Me too Lil Angel
Me too
Thanks sweetie
God Bless

LUVS
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   Posted 6/23/2007 7:21 PM (GMT -6)   

Dear Lyn,

I have not read that story before and how beautiful it was.

If we all could look at someone and see the real person inside.

Thank you for sharing ........you never fail to amaze me.

Love ya always


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   Posted 6/23/2007 8:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Nor you ......I
'We had this in Nursing .......maybe as it was geriatric nursing specifically ??

LOVE ya too sis

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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 8/30/2007 7:59:32 AM (GMT-6)


Howlyncat
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   Posted 8/30/2007 9:01 AM (GMT -6)   
Reminding all to Look and Know They are Valuable People in all our LIVES...........

LYN
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   Posted 9/2/2007 6:25 AM (GMT -6)   
i read the poem. i'm crying my eyes out.
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