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hydrangea
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   Posted 4/5/2007 11:56 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello everyone just a quick update I posted last week about my fathre, daignosed with AD. Mom haveing a hard time and we all went on vacation together last week.  We all stayed in the same house.  All 14 of of.  It was not as stressfull as I thought. Although my dad was way out of sorts. Noiced that he is starting yo shuffle. My brothers, kids Husband, sisters in law, and brothers girlfriend were defenelty aware of my dad not being mentally with us.  But we all took care of him, (we only lost him one time as he wondered out in front of the house, while nobody watched.) , and played ball, frisby, and yes I even got to dance with him in the sunset.  He loves to dance. We even got a little silly dancing a fast sound on the sand.  As you know AD patients do tend to act like children.  I feel like I have already grieved the  dad i knew and know must enjoy the man he is now, no matter difficult that is now.  I enjoyed is company more that ever. I tried very hard to ignore the time thta he got angry with someone over something so tiny.  Probably knowing that it would not be long till he no longer knows who I am and we will no longer be able to dance made the hard times more tollerable.. My siblings are not as open with their feeling about this.  I do hope that they will be able to come to terms with it soon.  It sound selfish but I can not worry about that.  I need to make sure my mom is ok.  My parents will continue on vacation staying with one of my siblings. I hope to get her to seek out a support group for caregviers.  Any ideas on how to convice her?  She really wants to take care of him forever,  I know that whe will not beable to as he moves to the next stages of AD. He seems to be progessing so quickly. SHe now shaves, him and help him get dressed. He als need to be reminded to eat. I know that each stage has no time frame.  I gave her the 36 hour day as she has read it, so that is a good start.
Thanks for your support.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 4/5/2007 5:15 PM (GMT -6)   
Welcome back
What a beautiful visual I have seeing you and your dad dancing together
I did the same I made memories while Mom was going further into the disease
I truly believe it helped me and her by doing this

Your siblings are losing out on preciuos time as our mine

Thery have to accept that it is fact and soon he will not know anyone ..that hurts yes it is all part of the DD
Your mom wants to care for him from now on so i would tell her she will need to go to a spousal support group and learn some support and techniques ....share hers with others as well tell this will help her and those in the group if she will go
Please do keep me posted and glad you made some beautiful memories and had a great time as well

LYN
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hydrangea
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   Posted 4/5/2007 7:33 PM (GMT -6)   

Lyn, Thank you for the post.  I will suggest that she go to  a support group to learn how to take care of him.  It is hard for her, expecially since they are bothe so young.  She is 65 and he is only 71. He was only diagnosed 2 year ago but seems to geing going so quickley. 

Yes those will be great memories that I will add to the rest of them.

Thank you for pointing that out to me. Do you have help with your mother? Again thank you for taking the time to answer my post, IT is so nice knowing that we are not alone.

Hydrangea


Howlyncat
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   Posted 4/5/2007 7:39 PM (GMT -6)   
My mom passed away ayear ago March hun but I look after my dad and I havd respite care for him or I take him to market and to yard sales he just loves those and he also loves the casino but often forgets what he is playing and so gets frustrated lol
Such is the "Life"
But you know hun I would never trade it I live love and laugh my way thru and dad helps me with the lil twinkle in his eye I will be saddened when that goes as it will he too is going fast I think more from a broken heart ya know

Be well and look into something like that explain that SHE could help out people NEW to this with some of her suggesstions and I guarentee she will enjoy feeling she is helping and I dont doubt she will help out new ppl with loved ones that are at aloss right now ya know
Keep in touch hun
Try to have a good Easter if you celebrate it
Be safe
God BLess
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