Diag. with Alzhiemers

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painsince91
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   Posted 7/10/2007 7:45 PM (GMT -7)   
My DH, age 69 has been diagnosed with this horrible disease about 9 months ago. I can see him changing every day.I am trying to take care of him and myself. I have Chronic Pain, Fibromyalgia, Soft Tissue Rheumatism, Chronic Fatigue , depression , among other things. He has been so defensive lately. I can't seem to do anything to please him. I am 59 but physically I am in a lot worse shape then he is.  I had to get my Doctor to give me nerve pills to help me to deal with the same questions over and over and the paranoia . He just sits and watches tv all day long and drinks coffee. He doesn't want to do anything or go anywhere. I take him to his Doctor and Dentist appointments because he was getting lost and having a hard time ever finding his way home. Between his appointments and mine we are pretty busy. Today has been a bad day. I took him to the Doctor and he asked my DH how his memory was and DH said oh it is getting a lot better I'm doing good. Which of course is not accurate so I had to tell the doctor that he is getting worse. They increased his Namenda.He tells me he is so scared and I try to comfort him but I am scared to death. When his mind is made up to do something there is no changing it. I want to take care of him, because his Mother is in the nursing home with alzheimers. She is 88. But I don't know what is in store for us. We are Christians and so far, he has continued to go to services with me. I pray to God to help him. His Mother is so pitiful. I try to visit her once a week. She doesn't know who  I am and it is so sad.
I am probably not making sense so I will close. Carolyn

Howlyncat
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   Posted 7/11/2007 2:50 AM (GMT -7)   
Carolyn
Welcome hun
Yes you are making plenty of sense
You are scared for one seeing the man u love change daily
Knowing what this DD can do I am sure you have done plenty of reading

I look after my dad lost mom in March 06 to this darn disease and I too am struggling with many health issues BUT I keep going what else can we do
I have crohns PG a/p and a couple other things going on
I will not put dad into a home and I finally had tpo stop being so stubborn and get Homecare to come in and help me out a bit I was getting to run down and ill myself

Is there any kind of care services there where you are reputable services that can help you out right now

Your doctor can sign some forms stating this is needed for your health as well

PLEASE do stay with us hun we can BE that soft pillow to land on right now and the support you need right now

You very well cannot continue to do this on your own and your options are limited so I would think that having someone come in may help you out or even family do you have family that will help out at all hun??

Please stay with us
God Bess
Email me if you would like to talk more info is at the side

LYN

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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 7/12/2007 6:23:48 AM (GMT-6)


SnowyLynne
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   Posted 7/11/2007 8:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Do you have Power of attourney? you will need it.............
SnowyLynne


painsince91
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   Posted 7/11/2007 10:13 AM (GMT -7)   
I haven't even thought of power of attorney. Yes I have 2 stepsons and a stepdaughter plus my son. I think my Son and one of his Sons will help some, but that is all. I don't think DH would be happy if i brought up the power of attorney thing. He still thinks he is ok.

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   Posted 7/12/2007 5:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Snowy is right though
YOU will need POA and the sooner the better .......
Perhaps talking toi him and just telling him you are trying to get " all " in order in CASE something were to happen may help

I will bump up the thread ( bring it back up ) about POA and how to go about it ........

YOu are goiong to need your son and g son to help you out there

We are here for you for support and you can come here to cry ,vent whatever we will never judge you
WE have walked in your shoes sweetie
Please dont forget you have us as well

God Bless
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