This happened only this morning. I went to the Geriatric appointmnet to one of our Alzheimer's resident. Her daughter was there too. to our surprized, the daughter ask the doctor, "When will mom die?
"What do you mean?" Dr. Mazon (not his real name) ask the daughter with eyes widely opened in surprised.
The daughter answered, "she has no quality of life, she's already out, she's suffering...look, we have our own life, we don't have time to ourselves anymore, we want to start a new life...
"I answered in a soft voice, " We can take care of your mon and live the life you want...
"I'm paying your facility...and she's running short of money, and I don't have the money to spend for her," the daughter replied.
"Dr. Mazon, is there a way that she could be hospice?"Please, doctor..."
"If only I could kill her, I'll do it. My profession is to save life not to kill people," answered the doctor. "Only God knows when a person will gonna die." " She's doing well, she's eats well,she sleeps good, she's stable, There's no ground for her tp be hospice..."
"You don't understand. doc..."Ohhh,crap!" the daughter left in anger...
This is sad. This is unussual behavior of a daughter to her mother. We love our mother, as much as possible we want them to stay longer with us. No matter how sick they are we want them feel that they are being loved and we tried our best to give the quality of life they need.
We want them to feel that the life still worthwhile even though they are sick. And this kind of daughter is exemption to the rule. I remember one time when she visited her mom to our facility, she was so upset when she knew that we're giving her mother Ensure. Right away she discontinued the Ensure.