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minmark
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Date Joined Mar 2007
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   Posted 8/20/2007 8:41 PM (GMT -6)   
This happened only this morning. I went to the Geriatric appointmnet to one of our Alzheimer's resident. Her daughter was there too. to our surprized, the daughter ask the doctor, "When will mom die?
 "What do you mean?" Dr. Mazon (not his real name) ask the daughter with eyes widely opened in surprised.
 The daughter answered, "she has no quality of life, she's already out, she's suffering...look, we have our own life, we don't have time to ourselves anymore, we want to start a new life...
"I answered in a soft voice, " We can take care of your mon and live the life you want...
"I'm paying your facility...and she's running short of money, and I don't have the money to spend for her," the daughter replied.
"Dr. Mazon, is there a way that she could be hospice?"Please, doctor..."
"If only I could kill her, I'll do it. My profession is to save life not to kill people," answered the doctor. "Only God knows when a person will gonna die." " She's doing well, she's eats well,she sleeps good, she's stable, There's no ground for her tp be hospice..."
"You don't understand. doc..."Ohhh,crap!" the daughter left in anger...
 
This is sad. This is unussual behavior of a daughter to her mother. We love our mother, as much as possible we want them to stay longer with us. No matter how sick they are we want them feel that they are being loved and we tried our best to give the quality of life they need.
We want them to feel that the life still worthwhile even though they are sick. And this kind of daughter is exemption to the rule. I remember one time when she visited her mom to our facility, she was so upset when she knew that we're giving her mother Ensure. Right away she discontinued the Ensure.

SnowyLynne
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   Posted 8/21/2007 5:49 AM (GMT -6)   
The Dr can order esure & the daughter can't do anything about it.She can't change a Dr order.
SnowyLynne


Howlyncat
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   Posted 8/21/2007 6:14 AM (GMT -6)   
You are so right MM this is not only sad it is hard to think a child ( adult or not) could do this to their mother.........

Snowy is right they can re order the ensure she cannot play with Doc's orders.......

Take care MM

Luvs
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NovaRob1
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   Posted 8/24/2007 12:23 PM (GMT -6)   
While I certainly do not agree with this woman's attitude toward her mother, I do understand where she might be coming from.  I take care of my Mom and work full time.  I love my mother dearly.  She is my best friend and has always been an insiration to me and others.  However, as the AD progresses, she is losing much of her quality of life, as am I.  She is sad, scarred, upset, angry and confused.  I am so worried about her that I am not sleeping at night, have high blood pressure and am unfocsed at work.  My personal life has all but vanished.  I KNOW my mom would not want to live like this and I also KNOW she would NEVER want me to be going through this every day. 
 
She is on so many medications that you begin to wonder if it's the medications that are keeping her alive.  With that said, I will continue to take the absolute best care of my mom as possible.  I love her and don't want to lose her.  I most importantly, I don't want her to suffer.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 8/24/2007 5:55 PM (GMT -6)   
You are a very decent and loving son and I am so happy you are part of this forum
You bring alot of good to it .......

Ensure or boost is a drink I have to use as well for weight gain and I hear ya and know where you are coming from
Mom was 68 lbs when she passed away ..........
Take care my friend

Gentle huggs to you and your sweet MOm
God Bless
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