Padraig......My Wife....My Story ..Part 2

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Howlyncat
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   Posted 9/17/2007 9:22 AM (GMT -6)   
 Hi G Padraig Mary ,Linda Rosie and all you other family members I have started a part 2 as the thread has been locked due to length and space ........which is understandable ........
 
I hope no one will take offence it is not for any reasons other than above
 
Dad is not doing good at all and I find myself battling the siblings that are now coming out of woodwork to TELL me what I have to do with him and so on I am severly depressed over it all and angry as well
Where have they been til now ??
 
Mary........take care and you are on my Prayers.......
 
Linda you as well hun
 
GPadraig
Give G Jean a hugg for me and
Butterfly kisses
Love lyn
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   Posted 9/18/2007 8:39 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Lyn, Mary, Linda and fellow carers. Yesterday I tried to post, but couldn't make it, felt like the Irishman who's tombstone has: "I told you I was Ill", that's true in fact! and is written in Gaelic. I told you I knew nothing about computers.
Isn't strange, how people who have little or no experience of caregiving for a loved one, think they know all the answers. If asked, what I find the most difficult aspect of caring, it has to be, the frustration of having to deal with people totaly lacking in comprehending what loving caregiving is all about. In my case, I have the good fortune to be a Lone Stray, therefore ideally suited to go it alone. The down side is, no one ever offers to help in some small way. Though, no doubt I'd turn it down, but it would be nice to have the offer. Medical people keep well away because we are doing fine. Family members think I'm capable of taking on anything and mastering it. My fault I know.
Linda, thank you for the advice, but I'm not sure if you understood, Jean can't move any part of her body. She's stiff all over except for one hand. When I strap her in the W/chair I lift one arm up to place the strap around her waist, I hold her other arm up by gripping the sponge she holds in my teeth, in order to clip the strap togeather. Each leg I have to lift to fasten to the chair. She's also a dead weight when turning over in bed. If you can imagine dressing and undressing a doll, you got it. I know people in Jean's condition are kept bed ridden, as she was years ago in the NH. So long as she's eating and drinking well, then I'll keep doing things my way.
Linda, I'm real concerned for your girl, sounds like a very brave one. Please God, everything is OK for you both.
Mary, could it be a sign of age when we wonder why the younger ones can't understand the damage they do, by disrespecting their elders. You are being challanged, aren't you? by seven! Who's on your side? There appears to be light at the end of the tunnel, with a place at the private hospital. You can fight the good fight, with Irish blood you'll make it. God willing everything will turn out fine.
Lyn, I'm so sorry to learn of your Dad's condition. But you know by now AD is no rose garden without just as many weeds. I love the red roses, when I 'dead head' them, new ones soon come along, just like bad and good days with AD. Often the siblings are more conserned about their feelings, rather than focusing on the vunerable loved one's welfare. This time will pass, you'll reach calmer waters. Then you might ask why did I lose sleep over it? It solved nothing. Be strong and don't let them win. I'm praying for you.
May your God go with you. Padraig

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   Posted 9/18/2007 3:27 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you my sweet friend
I had you in my head last night thinking "what would he say" lol

I Am not going to let them make me stressed to the point of an IV and sores again ....I refuse to sink to their level
I know in my mind and my HEART I have done and am doing what is best for Dad ........they can think what they like I am the eldest yet I am not his Biological daughter and the only one that is is the youngest sister who had nothing to do with Mom til she passed and now is starting to pull her " blood" with me routine

It wont work
He is my father .....any man can be a DAD it takes a SPECIAL man like him to come in and take over 3 kids and not once has he ever treated me differently than being his blood........and to be a FATHER

I have all the memories good and some bad yes but still I have them .......

He has lost so much weight no matter with what I have him eating it is pretty scary and he states he will not go back to the Doctor ....he says he is tired and wants to be with his Judy .......

I think as I have said before he will go from a broken and lonley heart for Mom.........
God will make him Better .........
I dont want to lose him at all I just know time is coming..........

Take care my mentor and my friend
Butterfly Kisses andd God Bless

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   Posted 9/19/2007 7:52 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Lyn, I find it very sad that siblings bicker over a loved one's care. Somehow I feel your Dad can pick up the bad vibes, just as children do when there's tension between parents. Just as in the case with a child, the stress and confusion caused, will affect your Dad's condition. As you rightly say, keep yourself on the high moral ground, by being nice and polite, but firm. I would be inclined to consider any input by way of help.You have, after all been the main carer for both your Mom and Dad, so your best placed to make the final decision. Who should know what's best?
I wish you well, you are in my thoughts and prayers.
May your God go with you. Padraig

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   Posted 9/19/2007 1:43 PM (GMT -6)   
I totally agree about Dad being able to feel the Vibes .......I know he does and it hurts him no matter what ppl may think he still has a heart and feelings as you know ......

I am not going to sink to the level of making arguments you are so right I do know what has been going on with him and as I did with Mom ........I know what he wants and doesnt want BUT I am also open to their suggesstions providing they are not against his wishes ,...which I have in writing from prior to his decline and notarized.......

I will keep you posted my friend as always ...............on to some other news......

Cait started her Job at the Hospital last night and feel in love with an 80 yr old lady that had just had surgury and has dementia...........she is very happy with what she is doing at the hospital and I am so proud of her she told us last night that one Nurse had come in and apparently had gotten very rude with this Lady saying to stop her " yelling and carrying on " as she continually does it .......so needless to say Cait DID report to her supervisor about the incident and I AM PROUD of her ....there is absolutely no CAUSE for a Nurse to act like that and Cait has been taught this from young age being in My retirement home and how ppl were treated there.....she works again tonight and then goes back on Monday .I did tell her that she needs to space all her time and make sure she has Free time for herself as she is young and so serious about all of her committments ...which is good for sure but like I know I am sure she will need the "down time"
Cait was also told "not to get close to PPL" ..........I do not believe in that either for me I feel you have to have some heart for the profession .....not just be there for the money .......I expressed my self and feelings to Cait which she already knew anyways so she said it made her feel better knowing she was right to " CARE"

I wish that more ppl would know it takes love and caring to be in the Health Care Field.......
Education is the Key I truly believe .........

Anyways I had to share with you my Cait's first Day at her Job.........It is Community service that is required for High School not a paying job but her REWARDS will be better than any monies she would recieve ...In my honest opinion........

Butterly Kisses to G Jean and you

Anniversary is sneaking up on you's ...I know the date I remember it well ......as I know you are waiting for it too
Love
God BLess
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   Posted 9/19/2007 1:44 PM (GMT -6)   
Have all the rest of the members in my heart thoughts and Prayers.........

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   Posted 9/20/2007 3:10 PM (GMT -6)   
Greetings All,
First of all, you are correct Padraig that I did not understand the extent of Jean's immobility. I surely hope I did not cause offense of any kind in my advice about the clothing. I know you have continued to be an exceptional caregiver for your wife and that you had probably already heard of alterations that might help in dressing, but on the off chance you had not I decided to give those tips. I admire your valiant and loving efforts to do everything possible to keep Jean with you, despite what others might consider as someone who might as well just be bedridden as you said. Every moment she is with her family and suroundings is another postive day for her. Again, apologies if my advice seemed insensitive in any way.

Lyn, you are sounding stressed and that is worrisome. What you are doing cannot be easy and although you never complain, it is evident that this takes a toll on you, as it would anyone! Please take care of yourself. I don't want to think that you will have to bond again with that IV. You have better friends than that to spend time with!! (When I was undergoing chemotherapy and wore an IV via a pic line for months, I named the IV bag FRED, the same name my daughter gave her IV bag when she was in the hospital as a very little girl with severe e-coli.) FRED may have been someone I had to try to think of as a friend and not an enemy, but losing that particular "friend" was not sorrowful! I love hearing in your "voice" your enthusiasm about Cait and what she is doing. Your pride is so well deserved; she sounds like a wonderful young lady! Following in her mom's footsteps it appears:-)

Mary, I think of you so often and pray every day that family is giving you a little relief from their interferences that have made things so difficult for you. It is surprising when family chooses not to just let go of grievances of any kind and instead pull together for the collective good of the fmaily member in need. I think I have said this before in a post, but a mantra of sorts that I have used at many times in my life as a mom, wife, ex-wife, daughter and sister is "At the end of every day a family should be able to forgive one another." Oh my, though, there were days, years, months, when I didn't think I would ever be able to do that. I had to, to move on and be able to enjoy my family, as dysfunctional as it is at times. You, however, seem to be having far more interferences in your life than I have had, especially at a time when you need help, not stress, and my hope for you is that they will start realizing what this is doing to their father and to you, and start to back off and act like family.

On a lighter note, I spent the last several days traveling my beautiful state of Oregon participating in 4 different Memory Walks to promote Alzheimer's awareness and to raise funds for research and care. This year I wore a picture of my mom on the back of my shirt, as hundreds of others did of their loved ones lost to AD, and we shared memories, hopes, and then dreams that this disease will gain more and more awareness and subsequent research will give us reason to believe that there will be a way to stop this disease.

My little traveling daughter (all 22 years old and grown up) posted incredible pictures of herself and her traveling companions on their website, and it was reassuring to see her looking so incredibly healthy. It lessened my worries tremendously! It would have been nice had the photos been of them with all with both feet planted on the beach sand instead of hanging from precipices in their climbing gear and smiles, or solodiving off tall cliffs!! One photo, however, was of all of them dressed in their new favorite fashion statement, the one size fits all wrap Thai pants, eating fresh shrimp, smiling, and sitting outside their small tin roofed hut on the beach that has been home for 2 weeks.

Take care, my friends
Linda

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   Posted 9/20/2007 7:24 PM (GMT -6)   
Dear Lyn, Padraig and Linda and everyone,
Thank you all for your posts and kind wishes and prayers. They must be working because I'm moving with more equanimity through the days (that is, most days). You're right, Linda, about forgiveness being necessary in families. These are not my children, and they resent me as an intruder, hence the hostility on their part. The best I can do so far is to say that they are not bad people, but very sick people, and I'm trying to view them with tolerance, pity and compassion. I want to tell you that it takes a lot of effort of my part! I'm pretty tired.
My husband will be moving into the residence of his choice in a week: I hope that he will be happier there. Yesterday, for the first time, a little of my guilt fell away that I wasn't taking care of him at home. It's when I realized that he was going for several long walks a day down the long hallways in the private hospital, something he hasn't done for the past 4 years at home; the layout of the house and furniture doesn't allow it. It's good to see him become more active.
Lots of love to all,
Mary

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   Posted 9/21/2007 9:53 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Lyn, Mary, Linda and fellow carers. It's as if an unseen hand is guiding me in caregiving for Jean. When I read of all the stress and turmoil caregivers are going through it seems so unfair that I should be so happy. There are a number of things which could bother me, but I sideline them and focus in on my most treasured gift, Jean. The power of love is the fuel of my daily efforts, and with the passage of time that fuel overflows. As I reflect on my earlier life, there's a hint that this was what I was being molded undertake.
Linda, no offence taken, you were offering well intentional advice. I've alter some of her clothing on the sewing machine. Remember I'm still good with at sewing, having started as a ten year old making shirts and repairing clothing.
We were out shopping this morning and I found she was heavy to lift into the car. A negative though flashed into my mind, is it me, or is she getting too heavy to lift? I tell myself, I'm just a little tired today, be thankful for another day.
It's lovley to have our daughter back from Spain and our grandson is out of Afghanistan for good. There's also the wonderful news his wife (who's also in the forces) is moving to the local military base with her 5yr old. Her husband is also expecting to join them some months later.
Lyn, You have two becons of light in your life, your Dad and Cait, relax and bathe in that warm light. Banish others to the outer ark of the light glow. Your girl reflects the good example you have set her, you now reap the rich reward of watching her grow. You proved you can do it, you can do right for your Dad!

Mary, It's good to learn that your slowly getting to grips with things. I was just repeating to our daughter today, why can't folk see the fruit in the orchard of life. Some pick it when it's ripe, whilst others pick it too late leaving a bitter taste. Some are so unfortunate they see nothing, those you can only feel sorry for. That's my Irish way of saying: "What comes around, goes around". My best wishes and prayers are with you.
May your God go with you. Padraig

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   Posted 9/21/2007 10:03 AM (GMT -6)   
Dear Padraig,
Thanks, as always, for your encouraging words. They help. Love from Mary.

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   Posted 9/21/2007 4:37 PM (GMT -6)   
I am doing just that G Padraig believe me
She adores her job so much she might just change from being a vet to a Doc or Nurse .....

I am so sorry for all that everyone is going thru ...........

Know my thoughts and prayers are with you's all ......

I will write more tomorrow as I had to work for the day

Butterfly Kisses to G Jean and you G Padraig ...........

God Bless and Love

LYN


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   Posted 9/23/2007 5:16 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello to all the wonderful " family and friends" I have here.......

Just checking in to see how all are doing and I am so happy that your grand son will be home for good G Padraig .I am sure that will lift much stress from you
Of course you are tired .........you are only human but believe me one of the strongest humans I have the pleasure of knowing and caring for all this time .......we have come so far together and I know I would have been a LOST soul if not for you ..........
Yes the rest have gotten me places and helped as well ............you have always been there for nigh on 1 and a half yrs now ..........can u believe that ......wow..........

special day tomorrow my friend......enjoy and never ever let others think IT CANNOT be done ..........you have PROVEN all of them so called professionals WRONG..........

Butterfly Kisses
God Bless
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Huggs to you n G Jean as well ............

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   Posted 9/23/2007 5:17 PM (GMT -6)   
Linda
Yes I am stressed but I will get thru it with all my family here and my daughter Cait ..I know I will ......
Thanks as always for being her for me and all others
YOU are my angel

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   Posted 9/23/2007 5:19 PM (GMT -6)   
MARY.........You are always in my heart thoughts and prayers .............you are a very SPECIAL woman and I am glad you are finally doing for you

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   Posted 9/23/2007 5:20 PM (GMT -6)   
Rosie.....SIS

There are no words to express my luv for you .......
Thanks for being the sis you are and for all the great tea...........
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   Posted 9/23/2007 5:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Snowy
Hoping all is good in your corner of the world and that Larry is still doing good at his job

YOU are specail as well .............

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   Posted 9/27/2007 8:23 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi, Lyn, Mary, Linda and all you wonderful people. I'm overwhelmed by you kind words and best wishes for our anniversary. How I got through yesterday, weak with flu I'll never know, but we managed to go shopping. Doubts crept into my mind as to whether I would be abe to lift Jean into and out of the car. I just switched off and managed OK, then after fixing lunch she had a nap and so did I. I'm feeling a little better today, just as well having washed her, while dressing her on the bed, she threw up the water she'd drank and some juice from the evening meal, all over the bed. Like a man in a woman's world I thought of the many times Jean had been through the same routine. Loads more washing now hanging on the line, I just have to laugh, is someone trying to tell me somthing?
I phoned around to seek advice as to whether I should give her breakfast, no one knew who we were! So what's new I tell myself.
That's what comes of coping alone, the story of my life. It's not something I would advise anyone to take on. The way things have worked out I was destined to be rewarded with caring for the love of my life in the winter of our years. As a lone stray I was molded in every way to protect my family from any hurt, by showing that their Mom, G' ma and great G'ma is given the best possible loving care by me, her other half. It's wonderful to have found Healingwell and hopefully anything new I learn during this 'End Stage' or is the 'Final Stage' I can pass on. There have been times like you say Lyn, I didn't think we'd make it this far.
Rosie, There's a tale I'd like to relate to you, some how I think you'd find it interesting. I'd call it A' knock on the head', too long to relate here.
Once again, thank you all so very much and may your God go with you. Padraig

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   Posted 9/27/2007 9:54 AM (GMT -6)   
Hello All!!

Hey Lyn . . . I am really worried about you!!! I was looking for your last post and a hint that you are ok . . . I'm so sorry for all you are going thru. I just peek in a few topics over here and try to help when if I happen to see no response to a topic . . . so I haven't been able to indulge myself in the beautiful Padraig topics because of the time I've been spending on the computer . . . But I feel just awefull that you are getting MORE guff from your sibs!! I am going to sign off and pray a mighty prayer for your protection and for their eyes to be opened to the truth of what is really going on with your Dad. Urghhhhhh . . . its always the main caretaker that gets all this guff from the ones who do nothing to help.

Sorry, I'm done venting now . . . I just hope you are not pushed into another flare with soars and all. Please know that I'm thinking of you sis. God is still in charge . . . so I need to stop seething.

Sending you a nice big pot of hot tea and some for all the others here in the Alzheimer's forum. It just feels so good to hold the warm cup and sip.

I'm off to finish my duties over in the Lupus forum and then to say a great big prayer for you sis!!

Blessings!

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   Posted 9/27/2007 7:29 PM (GMT -6)   
Well Padraig,
What a time you are having!! It IS so very difficult when, as the care person, you don't feel well. Things that seemed quite manageable days before suddenly feel overwhelming and you question your ability to do all that is required. I am sorry you found yourself in that predicament. I know how challenging that can be. Like you, as the sole caregiver for both parents I feared getting sick because there was no back up plan. I did have to have surgery on my shoulder that incapacitated me almost completely for 3 days but the painkillers got me through it, along with the sheer determination that I had no choice. The 4 weeks of recovery recommended by the surgeon was laughable. As you said, and I know it is not as a complaint but rather just a fact, it is not the best course of treatment to be the sole caregiver. Sometimes there don't seem to be any other options so we just do it. The smile and kiss mom would give me after getting her in bed for the night was like an amnesia drug, forgetting the difficulties of the day and instead remembering all the moments that weren't difficult, or at least not AS difficult. Because I had not expected help and came to my parents with no expectations of help I just reminded myself that I would be the daughter with the wonderful memories of their last years, the daughter who felt so loved while showering and cooking and cleaning up for them. I am also at peace, totally, with the way in which both mom and dad were allowed to die in their own home and had I not been willing to move in with them that would not have been possible. As the disease progressed and mom drifted farther away with few current memories, she was still a lovely woman who would look at herself in the mirror after I curled her hair and remark that "that woman looks rather old, but nice, like my own mother." And dad, although more than a bit of a grouch, softened a great deal as the load of doing all the caregiving, housework, cooking etc. was lifted from him. I remember him saying soon after me moving in that with me there he could finally sit and read or watch the television like "old 90 year old retired men are allowed to do."
One other note, in response to you wondering if you should feed Jean again after the vomiting in the morning and not having anyone to give you advice, I will offer a tip should this happen again: As with babies and young children, after vomiting one should wait several hours and then start allowing small sips of liquid, and if that stays down, increase gradually. After you see that liquids are being tolerated, begin with the BRAT diet which is Bananas, Rice, Applesauce, Toast. This never failed for me as a parent and when mom would have stomach upsets, which seemed more and more frequent, it worked with her.
I sincerely hope you are feeling better, that Jean is okay after the morning's upset, and that tomorrow brings an easier day.
Linda

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   Posted 9/29/2007 1:26 PM (GMT -6)   
Sis

Yes I am sick ..have pnuemonia..........BUT I will get thru it and yes your tea does me wonders as does your love and concern'
Prayers to you too

Love you

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   Posted Yesterday 8:51 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Lyn, Mary, Linda and all you lovley people. I'm feeling a lot better today, still have the cold, but have been out running twice, must keep fit. Jean is fine Linda, yes I did think of a baby when she was sick, waited an hour then gave her her breakfast.
As I was feeling very weak with flu, I thought it best to check up with the nurses department who used to help with Jean four years ago. It was the start of a Monty Python sketch. No one in the department knew of us. It was suggested I get in touch with Carer's Support. They in turn would send someone to sit with Jean (for a price), while I made my way to the Doctor's Surgery. Of course I never bothered, if I was that ill how was I to drive to see the Doctor. If I had a broken leg, that's different I guess. So I phoned the National Health Service Direct for advice about Jean's sickness. After suppling all our details and about Jean's condition (she's stiff, can't move or speak) I'm asked how she looks etc. Then I'm told to ask her if she has any pains in her tummy! Now I'm put on to the expert who asks: "Have you seen her GP" Answer: "The last Doctor we saw was at A&E in early Feb this year" Next: "How about her Community Nurse?" Me lauging: "What's one of those?" He is lauging by now because he finds it hard to believe I've managed on my own for years.
He promised to get back to me to let me know he'd arranged for someone to see we received a flu shot and to check up on us once in a while (to see we're still alive?). He did get back to confirm his promise, I'm not holding my breath. Then I find he's on a computer and has discoved the book I wrote! I may as well have checked Healingwell about flu and Jean being sick!
Lyn, you're going through bad times again, am hoping you have good back up support. You still have to expect the unexpected in this game. The only problem is when you think things can't get any worse, they do, when you think you've reached the bottom, you haven't, so always look at the bright side of life and laugh. That's my motto. Lyn laugh with me, you can!
May your God go with you. Padraig

Howlyncat
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   Posted Yesterday 1:50 PM (GMT -6)   
OMG
G Pagraig

I am laughing with you ..........You can always put the laughter in my heart.............

Yes you are so right ..........seems like nothing else can go wrong and the WHAMMY...........LOL

Yes I have told Brother and SIL they need to watch dad as I will not chance giving him this pnuemonia .......

** MAYBE they will get a slight idea of what caring for your father is like but some how I doubt that ...
Butterfly Kisses and God Bless
Loves
LYN
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CharleyRice1931
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   Posted 10/2/2007 9:04 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Lyn, Mary Linda and fellow carers. There was a time I felt Jean and I were abandoned by family members. Except for our daughter who I rely on for visits and a chat twice a week. Then our son started to visit from time to time. There's grandchildren, mostly in they're mid to late twenties, visit on their birthdays and Christmas. As they total 9 in all, you can see it's going to be a busy time for me over the next few months. Four of their birthdays fall this month!
On reflection I can understand why no one makes the offer of help, not that I want any. Having grown up alone I've always had to be self sufficient, which results in our family believing I'm capable of mastering anything. It was our daughter who pointed out to me why people wanted to see me beat at sport in my younger days. Little did they understand I was trying to achive self worth. Fiercely competitive in every thing I've done in life has failed to quench the fulfilment of self worth. That is until now, at last I've found my place. I always have dream and a plan to attain the goal. I may not always make it, but while trying along the way, I'm living not dying.
The most important part of my caring for Jean, are for her emotions as they are the last to die. She can feel pain, sadness, happiness, a loving touch. Starved of these, stress, depression, aggression and the loss of will to live set in. She's been there.
I find it strange to see how much loving care, expence and devotion is given to dumb animals, when the same is denied to fellow humans with AD.
The daily questions I live with: "What must be going on in her mind, how would I feel in her place with a short term memory, does she feel lonley?"
Answer, treat her as I would wish to be treated, then we're both content.
Lyn, I hope your feeling better, take it easy let the siblings have an insight to your world. It could be a blessing in disguise for you.
Mary I'm hoping you've entered calmer waters by now, take care you're all in my prayers.
May your God go with you. Padraig

Howlyncat
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   Posted 10/2/2007 12:42 PM (GMT -6)   
Yes G Padraig
I am resting
Just got back from hospital from having a chest xray ...............my blood pressure was 80 over 110 I believe

They said I was dehydrated ,,,,,,,DUH........I need a nurse or doc to tell me this .....I had a mini seizure the other night because of temp being so high ........scared the living bejeebers outta me I tell you
It was no fun but it gave me a small insight to those that have them all the time ........''

Anyways back to bed I go lol
loves butterfly kisses and
God Bless

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   Posted 10/2/2007 9:53 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh Lynn . . . I'm so sorry you've added seizures to your list of woes. *sigh* But, I guess if it was from a fever, it won't be chronic at least. Any results from the x-ray? So glad you are resting!!! Hang in there sis . . . rest, rest, rest!!!

Blessings!

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