Laurel,Hey shake hands with another uptight person. I have always been uptight too. Even as a child my anxiety ran high. I had anticipatory anxiety and I can obsess about something that others would blow off as no big deal. I have been told I am over sensitive........whoa, how does an uptight, obsessive, sensitive person respond when people point out their defecits to them.We try to be what others want us to be and there is our problem. I have worked very hard at letting go of all the garbage. I have tried to not worry about getting to the airport on time..........what is the worse that could happen - I miss the flight. There will be another plane along shortly. lol.I understand you well. I truly have tried to learn to quit labeling myself and not let what others say make me who I am. I was born with uptight genes and I am practicing to relax and be in the moment.
Most of all I am learning not to worry about everyone else. You cannot control others, only yourself. So practice letting go of the uptight feelings and thoughts. Say to yourself, "What is the worse that could happen?" Then stop and throw away your anxious feeling. Keep on posting and know we all understand how you feel.
Gentle hugs to you.
Hey Guys, It is nice to know we are normal. I was raised by a stepmom who was always putting me down, I was fat, I was not working up to my ability etc. I went through a divorce and she said I could not do that, what about my children. I must stay with this man until the youngest was 18. The youngest was 2 at the time. Well I rebeled and did some stupid things but I made it through the divorce.
After that I was told I was lucky to have met a good man who would take on a divorcee with 3 little kids....wow, lucky me. I finally learned that hey he was just as lucky to get me. I am a good person and my stepmom was warped.
When it is drummed into you that you need to be perfect you are always in anxiety mode as you don't know how to be. So now I am not perfect, but I like me better and I think I have become a better person than the one who tried so hard to please and ended up in tears .
So hugs to us, all of us. We will survive. Kitt
** Yes it should be kid freindly when adults have convo's for sure.I too am totally convinced of that .........** great point hun
Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 1/30/2008 6:46:34 AM (GMT-7)
firstly thank you for posting your comments i have enjoyed reading them..
i have been driving myself crazy trying to find out why im always angry and worry about the littlest things such as if someone slams my car door i feel i have to tell them to leave it open and let me close it myself..pathetic things like this are making me feel people i thinking i am boring and so mardy but im really not i just worry about everything...
i say i worry which i do but im not sure whether its just being uptight not being able to be in control of for example closing my car door to stop it slamming..
other things i notice i need to do something about - i hate it when someone is making me a drink incase they touch anything dirty in the mean time, hate it when people leave a mess in when i know it will be my responsibility to clean up, hate people touching my belongings in case they get ruined (such as my brand new phone), not keen on letting anyone borrow money (even close friends), dont really like going out of my way and my BIGGEST well i think biggest problem that relates to this.....i am only 19 and i have a good bank account for my age but i never ever spend, i always have to be in control of what goes out have to justify why i should buy something etc in reality i know if i ever spend £200 in one transaction its not ever going to break my bank but i just cant make myself do it..its driving me crazy as i wish i could just let my hair down like all my friends at my age.
could someone please explain my problem..whether its anxiety/being uptight or just being controlling? it's really starting to get my down and ive considered seeking medical help because i dont think its "normal".