Job Interview and Freaking Out

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ocean1
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   Posted 2/15/2008 6:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Everyone.  I'm usually on the Lupus boards and just discovered there is an anxiety forum.  I have suffered from anxiety and been on Xanax for 2 years now.  Physical symptoms of heart pounding and shakes and stuff.  Am in therapy and trying to learn CBT.  I'm freaking out tonight.  My present position at the hospital where I work is being eliminated and I am being proactive like my therapist said i had to be and looking out for me in that I am trying to find a new job instead of waiting around to be laid off from the present one.  I did finally manage to get up the nerve to put in a transfer to a different position at the same hospital and they called today and I have a job interview for Monday afternoon.  As anyone with anxiety knows, having a positive attitude is hard for some of us and now I have to go out and "sell myself" and that is freaking me out.  Just going to the job interview is freaking me out.  Any tips on how to get thru this without the interviewer noticing how anxious I am.  It has been more than 10 years since I had to do a job interview and the mere thought of it has me wanting to curl up in bed and stay there forever.
Diane
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marthamae
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   Posted 2/15/2008 8:40 PM (GMT -7)   

First off, give yourself credit for taking charge of your life and getting out there to find a new job. You are being proactive instead of reactive. You are putting yourself in charge.

Remember, if you don't get this new job, another will come along. It is not the end of the world. Go to the interview well prepared and do your best. That's all you can do.

Pick out the right outfit for your interview ahead of time. Make sure you have the "parts" put together--like the right shoes. Do you need to do any hair or nails or anything this weekend to look your best? Being confident in your appearance will help.

If you were your new boss and were interviewing candidates for this new job what questions would you ask people? Make a list of five or so questions. Get a friend or relative to quiz you on them. Practice answering calmly and with enthusiasm. Be positive about your current job and co-workers. Don't bad-mouth anyone or discuss any gossip. Let them know you are a  "team" person and are very reliable. (They all love to hear that!)

Remember to make eye contact and to thank the interviewer for taking the time to talk with you. After the interview send the person a short note or e-mail, telling them you enjoyed meeting them and you look forward to hearing from them.

Everyone is a little nervous at interviews and your interviewer expects this. Do the best you can at the time--that's all any of us can do:)

 

Good Luck!

 

 


Howlyncat
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   Posted 2/16/2008 6:42 AM (GMT -7)   
Welcome to this forum
I so agree with all that was posted from Marthamae
KUDOS for getting yourself RIGHT back out there thats great

Go in with a good attitude about self, positive attitude ,right clothes, right frame of mind and KNOW you are the best for the job......
I just had an inteview awhile back and I am telling you I was nervous til I go to the door and then I just let it happen and yep I got the job looking after a mab 33 with Autism

KEEP us posted please and no need to be a stranger especially if you suffer from anxiety we can help you out here too hun


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Sharann
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   Posted 2/16/2008 8:46 AM (GMT -7)   
I was interviewing a very bright, personable and excellent candidate for an open position in our company the other day.
She was physically shaking and trembling, even her face was shaking. It was classic stage fright/adrenaline rush. I still am
going to have her come in for a second interview. Some people are just really scared .
A smart HR person or employer will realize this is normal, and will just try again.
Good luck. I just interviewed for the 1st time in 9 years(also in healthcare, a nurse) and I was not worried.
I walked in there with the attitude that THEY needed ME and would want ME. IF not, then there are plenty of jobs elsewhere.
You just be confident, not conceited. Have fun with it.
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stkitt
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   Posted 2/16/2008 9:15 AM (GMT -7)   

ocean1, Hello, this is Kitt and welcome to the  A & P forum.  I am so glad you found us.

A job interview........my best advice is just be yourself.  Great input from the other members.........eye contact and smile will take you far.  Only answer the questions, don't embellish.

Business like and smart attire is your best choice in dress, error on the side of conservative.

Here are the most common questions:

Tell me about yourself?

What are your short, medium and long term career goals?

What achievement are you most proud of?

What is your biggest weakness and what are you going to do about it?

How do you deal with difficult people?

The Interview

Stay calm and relaxed.....remember you get to talk about you.

Have fun with it.  It will show.

Shake hands and a nice firm hand shake is best.......you don't have to break bones but a limp fish handshake does not exude confidence....practice your handshake. :-)

Listen and pay attention, they will be selling themselves as much as you are selling yourself.

Have some questions prepared for them.......including wanting to know the duties of the job, hours etc.

Most of all remember you are a valuable person.............you can do this.

I wish you the best and please let us know how it goes.  Please keep posting.  We are here 24/7
Hugs

Kitt


 
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Panike
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   Posted 2/16/2008 9:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi ocean,i hope you know even peolple who dont have anxiety disorders get nervous about interviews! Everyone has offered you some great advice but martha really nailed it!!!!!! All i can say is be yourself and try to stay composed,thats what i do! If the job was meant for you, you will get it and if not something else even better will come along.Just remember try to appear poised and confident but like everyone else said interviewers expect people to be a little nervous.Some of them have probably been on the other side of the fence before!!GOOD LUCK!!! GO GET EM'!! (SMILE)

Danxiety
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   Posted 2/17/2008 9:02 PM (GMT -7)   
hey there_

Usually what happens for me when it comes to stuff like this or first dates (kinda the same thing, lol) is when i actually get there and meet with the person most of the thoughts, fears, and nerves leave... Sometimes they dont. But what you got is a classic case of anticipatory anxiety, and it's one that effects EVERYONE, so hang in there! You're doing great and putting yourself out there and being pro-active is really brave! Like others said, a lot of people get nervous when it comes to interviewing. In fact, someone too calm and relaxed could make one wonder if they care... Anyways, take some deep breathes, try and take you mind off the interview (not taking away from others advice -- but take a break from preparing, if you can -- meaning, dont over prepare or over anticipate).

just my 2 cents.

Hang in there, you're gonna do great!
dan
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