Do you spend more time worrying about other people?

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jordaNZone
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   Posted 3/26/2008 1:58 AM (GMT -7)   
Lately..and I know it's bad.. nono I seem to spend waaay to much time listening to other peoples probs - esp. those I work with, and find myself getting sucked into their miseries - instead of getting on with my own life..silly me I know..but I'm a reasonably compassionate person and have a lot of life experiences so I can relate to most probs people have..it's hard to draw the line and stop..does anyone else have this prob?
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badfish
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   Posted 3/26/2008 6:55 AM (GMT -7)   
I prob the complete opposite spend way too much time worying bout my own probs when i shud be helping and listening to others. Friends who will listen are hard to find.
 


hopelessly
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   Posted 3/26/2008 8:18 AM (GMT -7)   
I do tend to get sucked into others problems too. I grew up with a mom who always told me to try and make atleast one person a day smaile and the world will be a better place. well i tend to try help other whenver I can and I always lend an ear when needed. I to sometimes wonder where do draw the line. I also have a hard time telling people no. So I do end up sometimes doing things to help other and think how did i get sucked in again.
I cant wait to see what other have to say.

If you find that line Maree can you tell me where it is, so I will stop crossing it!

nyliz
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   Posted 3/26/2008 8:50 AM (GMT -7)   
I tend to agree with badfish... way too consumed with my own "&*%&" Then again I work in Probation and am therefore always listening to everyone else's "&*(^" as well. :)

Liz

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   Posted 3/26/2008 11:18 AM (GMT -7)   

Maree, 

I have to say that I tend to do the same thing.  I have always seemed to attract people who need to talk about what's going on in their life.  I don't mind it, but sometimes I do realize that I'm too focused on problems that aren't mine.  Like hopelessly, I also have a hard time saying no - it's gotten me into trouble in the past because I've taken on too much.  So I'm trying to learn when enough is enough - it's not easy though.

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   Posted 3/26/2008 6:50 PM (GMT -7)   

Maree, I do the exact same thing.  I seem to have a "come here for help" sticker permanently stuck to my forehead!! I think for some people it just comes naturally (the world needs ALL types of people) to help others and empathise but I, too, sometimes wish I could say no. 

I guess, just as we pick our battles, we should pick our causes.  If a person is in genuine need then thats fine, absolutley fine.  If they are just attention seeking or draining our energy then maybe you need to step back and let them get professional advice and stop bugging you...

Meg tries to take her own advice and fails miserably..!! lol


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jordaNZone
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   Posted 3/27/2008 1:18 AM (GMT -7)   
Glad to see I am not alone with this lol :))) thanx so much...
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/27/2008 5:55 AM (GMT -7)   
I did the same thing all my life...I have learned to now pull back from alot of my families bull and I find I am so way less stressed out
Here I dont mind trying to help it is my family that causes me the biggest stressors and attacks .........

Great thread Jordan........
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/27/2008 5:56 AM (GMT -7)   
Badfish
You have friends here that do and will continue to LISTEN....Luvs
LYN
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machelle
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   Posted 3/27/2008 7:20 AM (GMT -7)   
i think sometimes thats maybe where i went wrong health wise always caring for everyone but myself story of my life i still do, i feel like maybe i am always on the backburner, i still need to realize i need to take of me, but i feel guilty thinking of myself. but its all catching up with me now with all the things going wrong.


machelle

nervymeg
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   Posted 3/28/2008 6:02 PM (GMT -7)   
Machelle, the most wonderful thing you can give yourself is care and self repect and YOU SO DESERVE IT! You are such an asset, please put yourself on the front burner..in a wok..or a really big saucepan!!!
 
Maree, I think Lyn just told us to take that sticker off our foreheads!!
 
 
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jordaNZone
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   Posted 3/29/2008 5:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Sticker removed - even as we speak lol :) ouch!
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