Post Edited (Honey Bee) : 3/31/2008 6:42:46 AM (GMT-6)
Good Morning Honey Bee,
You have just covered all the feelings that the rest of us have at one time or another or sometimes all at once. You are not alone and I promise you if you find yourself in a situation where you are into a huge anxiety attack and no one is around you will make it through. Do the things you have been trying and remember you will make it through the anxiety. Some of the things I do to help lower my stress are, listening to music, reading, taking long warm baths and going for long walk.
I am glad to hear your seeing a new physician tomorrow and you may want to ask about cognitive-behavioral therapy. The term "cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT)" is a very general term for a classification of therapies with similarities. There are several approaches to cognitive-behavioral therapy, including Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, Rational Behavior Therapy, Rational Living Therapy, Cognitive Therapy, and Dialectic Behavior Therapy.
I am also happy you have found the wonderful and caring members of this forum
There is something comforting about baring your soul to the members of A & P and still being able to be anonymous.Gentle Hugs
Just checking in to let you know I am thinking of you and wishing you a peaceful evening. Please stay with us and let us help you.Hugs
Hi Honey Bee:
I am so sorry for everything that you are going through right now. When I read your post I found many similarities that you expressed versus what I went through about 3 years ago now.
I too separated from and ultimately divorced my husband. We had been together for 22 years and married for 14 of them. And despite the many problems we had he had been with me for over 1/2 my life. Being alone for the first time is quite scary on many levels. I remember feeling like I had a big gaping hole. I had nobody that I could share details of my day with and nobody to lean on. Also, I was suddenly responsible for things like balancing the checkbook, paying bills, and other aspects of running my household that he had already taken care of. Trust me, it was very scary and I made lots of mistakes. Also, the anxiety and panic attacks had literally taken over me and my life. At that time I was prescribed Xanax so that I could start functioning through the day - which also including getting up in the morning without feeling like I had already experienced a day of stress.
I have personally found that losing your partner after so many years of marriage is quite similar to experiencing a death in the family. I had so much grief and anger to work through. Also, I was really damaged emotionally. I have had three years of many baby steps. And I am finally realizing that I am becoming stronger - more so than I ever thought I would be. I found a thoughtful, caring and challenging therapist who has been there for me no matter what. I have watched my ex-husband very quickly find a replacement for me and then start to make his own mistakes all over again. Very tough for me but I have grown from my experiences and mistakes while I have watched him repeat his all over again.
You do have a rough journey in front of you right now. But you will be able to ride it out. Just remember this journey will help you find yourself and grow past everything you are going through right now. Just take things one step at a time. You are lucky to have such good friends to fall back upon. And now you have found us. Everyone here at Healing Well are so thoughtful and caring.
My thoughts will be with you. And trust me, you can and will make it through this awful period in your life. And as I am finding out now, you will actually come out better from this. Hang in there and let us know how your doing.
When I am in panic-mode like you are just now..mornings are just ghastly...aaargh! The good news is that you will get thru all this and be stronger for it - I promise :)
You're under heaps of stress just now...and it is completely understandable that you are feeling so uptight.
Write a list of all the things that you have to sort out over the next month..prioritise them...start with the little jobs first and build up your confidence..before you know it you will be getting your life sorted and leave the Panic Stuff behind and wonder what on earth the big fuss was about.
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Dx: Agoraphobia, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Barrett's Esophagus, Bipolar Disorder, Depression, Essential Tremors, Fibromyalgia, I.B.S., Mitral Valve Prolapse, Narcolepsy, PTSD, Restless Leg Syndrome, Acid Reflux, Sleep Apnea
Rx: Abilify, Flexeril, Lamictal, Neurontin, Nexium, Requip, Ritalin LA, Rozerem, Valium
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Post Edited (Honey Bee) : 4/17/2008 3:18:57 AM (GMT-6)
Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 5/13/2008 7:34:30 AM (GMT-6)
Dear Honey Bee,
It sounds like you are doing well considering you are still in the shock and awe stage of all of your issue. I am proud of you for getting to work and I agree, I think your friends are really trying to help you start down a new path of independence. I know it is very scary for you.
I am going to do my staying in the moment advice for you as it has served me well many times.
Staying in the Moment...............I am sure a few of you have heard me use this phrase..........or as I sometimes refer to it as "Be Where Your Butt Is" I learned this in my 9 months of therapy and now I will try to make it clearer for each of you.
One of the major reasons why we fail to find happiness or to create a unique lifestyle is because we have not yet mastered the art of being.
While we are home our thoughts are still absorbed with solving the challenges we face at the office. And when we are at the office we find ourselves worrying about problems at home.
We go through the day without really listening to what others are saying to us. We may be hearing the words, but we aren’t absorbing the message.
As we go through the day we find ourselves focusing on past experiences or future possibilities. We are so involved in yesterday and tomorrow that we never even notice that today is slipping by.
We go through the day rather than getting something from the day. We are everywhere at any given moment in time except living in that moment in time.
Lifestyle is learning to be wherever you are. It is developing a unique focus on the current moment, and drawing from it all of the substance and wealth of experience and emotions that it has to offer. Lifestyle is taking time to watch a sunset. Lifestyle is listening to silence. Lifestyle is capturing each moment so that it becomes a new part of what we are and of what we are in the process of becoming. Lifestyle is not something we do; it is something we experience. And until we learn to be there, we will never master the art of living well. Reproduced with permission from the Jim Rohn Weekly E-zineRevel in independence! Learn, grow, change, which you are doing but the pain is still with you and all I can do is tell you time dulls the pain but you must do this in your own time frame. We are here so take our hand.Gentle Hugs to youKitt
I did that too as I was having melt downs and having to hide out in my office. I was at my lowest then so there is an up. We just need some help and some helium..................hugs to all.
Isn't it wonderful to have all of these members share and care? I feel so lucky to have this site and to meet all of the great members. They are honest and supportive and their wisdom leaves me is awe. They speak from the heart.
My message to you today is to tell you your not alone, we are here, just come to your computer and you will find support and friendship.
You will make it through the dark to the light at the end of the tunnel.Hugs and prayersKitt