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TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 4/5/2008 2:07 PM (GMT -7)   
I have talked about this with a few people from here, but I just need to vent a little more about it.
 
I have a speech I have to give in front of my class. I know that doesnt sound all that bad, but when you through in anxiety and panic, it makes a huge difference. I cringe at the word "speech"... I talked to my teacher and explained to her. She wants to help and said I could give her the speech and then do it in front of the class. And she said I wouldnt get a bad grade. So, it seems like a deal, but I CANNOT give my speech in front of a class.
 
I woke up crying this morning because I am so freaked out about it. It has affected my Fibro and I have felt really sick all day. I have been lightheaded and dizzy. I also havent spoken a word all day. I have pretty much lost my voice. I refuse to speak. My eyes are hurting because I just want to burst into tears. They are really sensitive today. I feel like I dont care about anything. I have no idea what is going on, but I can tell something is wrong. And I know it is all because of the stupid speech.
 
I have told myself that I am NOT going to give my speech, that I am going to talk to my teacher and try to work a deal. For those of you who know how important my grades are too me, I would rather get a 0 and ruin my grade than give the speech. Thats bad.
 
So, I am stuck with this problem all weekend until I can talk to her Monday... and I am stuck with no voice. Anytime I am like this, I lose my voice. Selective speech is what I call it!
 
So, anyone else have this kind of problem???
 
Any advice? Or just kind words...
 
Take care and I hope everyone has a Great Weekend!


"Healing is an energy phenomenon. Hope is another word for Healing.
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
"Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."

Post Edited (TeNNiSd0C09) : 4/9/2008 3:28:46 PM (GMT-6)


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   Posted 4/5/2008 3:03 PM (GMT -7)   
((Tennis)) that's horrible, I'm sending you hugs and a few of my vocal cords..giving speeches is the pits.  I'm a student too (obsessed with getting good grades) so I know what you are going through.  I think it was great that you talked to your teacher about this, but she didn't really come up with a good solution did she??
 
Many years ago (I'm an old bag, yes) when I was having bad panic attacks at university I COULD NOT sit a psychology exam in a huge room filled with people.  I negotiated with my lecturer and she let me write an essay instead.  Maybe you could offer to do the same??
 
As for feeling dizzy and stressed (thanks anxiety), my heart goes out to you..try and put this out of your mind (easy said..hard to do) until monday if you can..please vent all you need and try and get some honey on that poor throat of yours.
 
I wish you all the very best xxxx

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TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 4/5/2008 3:17 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks! I am very much a perfectist so my grades me everything to me. But, I cant fight this.. I was glad I talked to my teacher. Now of them know about anything, I never tlel them unless it is necessary (in this case it was!)... so.. she said she could feel how nervous and scared I was so she knew I wasnt just making excuses. I would never do that. I want more than anything to be able to be 'normal' and just do it like everyone else. But I cant. So.. uh well.

I am going to try negotiating with her Monday. She cant force me to do the speech so.. and I would accept a 0 if I had too, but I know she is on my side and wants to help, so that makes me feel alot better! The reason she is making us do them is because she always thinks of our futures. She is helping us to get ready for college, and I respect that, but my body isnt ready for this big blow right now. Its not my fault. I cant help what my body does on its own...

Its not that I lost my voice...not like what you are thinking... I just refuse to speak. My voice works. I just refuse to use it. Not intentionally, that just happens when I am really freaked out about something. If you have ever seen the movie Locked In Silence... this little boy who loves to talk sees a dead body and his brother tells him not to say a word... after that he loses his voice and he cant say anything. His parents actually put him in a mental institution because his body wont let his voice work. Well, its kind of like that for me. I want to talk, but I wont. Its weird. Personally, I dont like to talk anyways. I am a quiet person most of the time.... (I wasnt like that before the anxiety and other junk...)

:( I am trying to get my mind off of it right now. I will talk to my teacher on Monday and I know she will help me as much as she can... so hopefully we can work it out! (thats what Im telling myself!)

"Healing is an energy phenomenon. Hope is another word for Healing.
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
"Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."


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   Posted 4/5/2008 3:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Tennis, I understand what you mean about not talking...sometimes I get too depressed to speak.  I want to, I feel rude not talking to my guy but I just can't seem to shake off the dark cloud and the feeling that someone is holding onto my throat.  Thankfully it always passes and I hope it does for you soon too.
 
Your teacher sounds like a wonderful person and it sounds like she has a great deal of respect for you (as she should!).  I hope you can work something out with her that makes you both happy.  Now not to sound like an old preachy bag (I'm really not!) but ten yers ago (oh make that one year) I was terrified of giving talks, now because of what I study (counselling) I have to stand up and give a talk of some kind pretty much every week, and you know what? I'm kinda good at it!! It's taken me a looong time to get to this place (and I am by no means putting you down by saying this)..but maybe, sometime in the future, in the right place at the right time you will conquer this fear.
 
For today, I think you are brave and smart and looking after yourself and your needs very well..all power to you tennis, and have yourself a lovely weekend too! xxxx
 

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TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 4/5/2008 4:02 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you. It means alot to me. I feel a little better than I did this morning. I missed my medicine(lyrica) last night so that didnt help...I am feeling a little better... I just keep telling myself that I dont have to do it if I dont want to, and it will be ok...

My teacher is really great. I have gotten better at being able to talk, so I was excited to be able to talk to her in the first place so... She's really great and I know she is always looking out for us so... she did make me feel better because she said she wasnt out to get me and see how bad she could make our grades! She does what she can to help us have good grades so, I know she is on my side. Now that she is aware on my problem I think she will be able to help me. I am just not ready to give a big speech like what we are doing.

A few months ago I had to read a book to my class. It was younger people whom I didnt know and there were only 13 of them. I freaked out for weeks about it, but in the end I did it because I wanted to take a step toward working through it. My teachers were really proud of me for doing it also! So, I feel really bad because I dont want to let them down. I want to do it for my both of my teachers and my counselor, and myself, but I just cant. I hate admitting my flaws, but I am just not ready for something this big...

Its not my fault. I cant control it. Why would I want to put myself through all of this.... I wouldnt. So... I just tell myself that I cant help it. She wont be happy about me not doing my speech. Its really not fair to the other students, but I have certain needs and her purpose it to help us. I just happen to have different needs than the other kids. I dont want to be different or special or an excuse. I just have to admit that I have a problem and I cant help it. I have gotten better at talking, but Im just not ready...

I will tell her that. I think it will be ok when I talk to her, but until then I am freaking out!

*sigh* I am trying to hang on! Thank you very much for your help. It means alot to me. Take Care!

"Healing is an energy phenomenon. Hope is another word for Healing.
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
"Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."


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   Posted 4/5/2008 7:20 PM (GMT -7)   
Tennis,

I hope you're hanging in there this weekend. Talking with your teacher was the right thing to do. Remember that even if she doesn't quite understand your needs the first time, she IS on your side. It can be hard for folks who've never suffered from an anxiety disorder to understand that there is a difference between being nervous about doing something and having the outrageous fear and physical reactions that anxiety brings to bear. I don't think that's helped when the average "nervous" person describes their fears in extreme terms. I don't mean to imply that they're deliberately lying, but I think the phrases "anxiety" and "panic" have become so commonplace that they're used interchangeably with "I'm a little nervous."

Teachers especially hear this a lot, so you'll want to be very clear with her that you are not just describing a case of "butterflies." Also, your willingness to do some sort of alternative assignment shows that you're definitely not trying to get out of doing the work. I'm proud of you for knowing so well what you can and can't do right now and for putting yourself out there to try to explain it to your teacher. And bravo to you for stretching your comfort zone when you can, like when you read the story to the kids.

(big hug)
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   Posted 4/5/2008 7:27 PM (GMT -7)   
You are amazing..I really mean that Tennis.  You are thinking of everyone else first.  I'm sure that your teachers and counsellor are already really proud of you (I sure am), this speech is just too much for you right now.
 
You are right, this is NOT YOUR FAULT, no-one asked to have anxiety/panic and we certainly don't want it.  You are doing a great job and you are probably a lot more "normal" than you think.  I have fellow students go into a mass panic when they have to give a speech and they don't even have an anxiety/panic disorder...imagine how strong you must really be!!
 
It's been great chatting with you sweetie, I look forward to hearing about what happens on monday xxxx

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TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 4/5/2008 8:01 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks percycat and nervymeg! Thank you both so much for your words! It makes me feel better when I get alittle reinforcement now and again! I think my teacher was very understanding. She even said she could feel how paniced I was just talking to her.(i was shaking also!)... so she could tell. And she asked me directly "what can I do for you"... she wanted to know exactly how she could help me with my needs. That shows alot about her, I think. I was really glad she said she was on my side, and she made me feel better about it.

I agree that people seem to stress "anxiety" and "panic", but they dont truly know the meaning. There is a difference. Its true, most people know my grades are most important to me and I am such a perfectionist, my worst fear is public speaking... I would rather do anything else. I would never think to just not do it and give up. I want to do something to show that I can do something and that I care enough to do it. I am very willing.

I was also surprised talking to my counselor, I told her about a teacher who wasnt so great, she said she admired me telling her because I was not in the teachers class and I wasnt complaining about her... I had had her in the past so she said she only like to take that from people she respected. So, I felt good and that she actually liked me. When I get comfortable I talk to her and I make her laugh! So, I enjoy that part! Thats me! I love making people laugh. I am out out there crazy, I just consider things intellectually and for some reason people laugh at that... hmm.... plus they love my cleanliness and organization skills! And they love how they can touch me and I freak out...

And your right nervy, I ALWAYS think of others first! I think its actually a problem of mine. I always think of other and not myself. However, I expect to much out of myself and I am very hard and demanding of myself! How does that work!!!! lol But, I will always think of others before myself.

*sigh*

I am just a weird person I guess! I think I will be able to work something out. She cant force me onto that stage. I have a very good reason, not an excuse. I know she is on my side and we will have to work something out. I am just not ready for something so big...

Sorry I ramble. But, thank you both for your words. It made me feel alot better! Although, I am still not talking, I do feel a little relieved! (just a little!) Thanks so much! It means so much to me!

"Healing is an energy phenomenon. Hope is another word for Healing.
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
"Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."


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   Posted 4/6/2008 8:28 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Tennis,

Wow! I have to say that I too am very proud of you - for a couple of reasons. First, knowing what your true limits are and second, for stepping up and talking to your teacher about this real problem.  You were very brave in telling her what you deal with and I'm glad to hear that she could see just how bad this is for you.  Your willingness to do an alternative assignment also shows that you just aren't trying to get out of this speech.  Are you willing to give the speech in front just her?  Maybe the one-on-one will be a little easier for you.  Trying to work out an alternative is a good thing to do.  I know how hard public speaking as it's also something I just have never been able to do.

You are not a weird person at all. I also think of everyone else's needs before my own.  It's only in recent months (and I'm in my 40's) that I have started to think of myself and that's only because of the downward cycle I've been in.  Thinking of others first before yourself can be a hinderance to you, because there are times when you really do need to address your own needs first.  I can understand that you don't want to let everyone down, but I don't think it's worth going through this much anxiety and panic just to please everyone else.  You just aren't ready for this huge step yet - at some point you might get there, but just not now.  It's not your fault and please remember that.  You need to give yourself a bit of a break and not be so hard on yourself about this issue. 

I hope that you are able to work something out with your teacher and please let us know how you make out with this.  In the meantime, try to relax a little (I know, easier said than done) so that you can have a better day today.

Take care,

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   Posted 4/6/2008 9:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Tennis,

Maybe another option would be to record your speech on a video camera and then play it for your audience, even if that is only your teacher.

I certainly don't think you're weird, and I agree with Wen that it's really incredible that you have such a good handle on what you can and can't do right now.

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   Posted 4/6/2008 9:26 AM (GMT -7)   
=] Ok, now, lets not feed my ego! lol It was for me because yesterday I was crying because I had to do the speech, but also because I had to accept that I was limited there and that I cant do it... I cant believe I told my teacher. I dont tell any of them unless necessary so, I had to tell her. I dont mind telling people if I absolutely have too, and in this case I had too!

It will be hard for me to give my speech just in front of her... I will still be nervous, but I dont think it will be as bad as doing it in front of the class. She is one of my favorite teachers because of her knowledge and the way she is so, it will be nerve racking have to give my speech one-on-one! She catches every little mistake so my speech will have to be great!

My counselor suggested I practice my speech using a recorder. I have to write it first... I have no idea what to do, I have never had to write a formal speech before. But, I will do my best. I will practice out loud to myself... I think it will be ok... (I hope!)

I cant help that I am so hard on myself. I try to relax, but it doesnt work. I am always pushing myself to do the best, and sometimes that doesnt even make me happy!

So far, today is better....I didnt wake up crying! Although, my first thought when I woke up was about the speech... :( BUT! I didnt cry about it! And I dont feel as bad as I did yesterday...

Hope everyon has a Great Day Today! Take Care!

"Healing is an energy phenomenon. Hope is another word for Healing.
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
"Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."


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   Posted 4/6/2008 10:47 PM (GMT -7)   
Tennis, I'm glad you are feling a lil bit better....I still think you deserve a big ego..you are doing such a fab job of dealing with this..really..
 
I know what perfectionism is like (I think I may have a lot of that myself)...so I can't in all honesty tell you to give yourself a break..but I wish you could!!!
 
Just write down what you want to say..whether you end up presenting it or not, that is all your teacher (who obviously thinks you are great) can ask from you...I'm hoping that this works out well, whatever happens...and know we support you every inch of the way xx

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   Posted 4/7/2008 6:12 AM (GMT -7)   
Tennis,
 
You've gotten a couple of great ideas - maybe once you've gotten the speech written you can do the speech in front of the teacher alone and then video tape it to present it to the class.  Maybe your teacher would be willing to allow you to do this.  It's worth asking.  Let us know what happens.
 
Take care,
Wen

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   Posted 4/7/2008 4:16 PM (GMT -7)   

Well, I talked to my teacher today. It went well actually. I thought it would since she is really nice and she understood the other dyay. I let her know my worries and how I felt and she was on track with me. She was very understanding also. She wants me to try to give it to at least her and another person or so...just so that I am taking a step. She wants to help me take a step which I think is kind of cool! I mean, she cares enough and knows its a problem and she's trying to help me! And then I have to turn my typed speech, that I can do.

But, I am really appreciative of her wanting to help me so.... She also said she would talk to my school counselor about it...(the same one I talk too) Yikes! I have no idea what she is going to say, but at this point, I dont care! As long as I dont have to get on stage in front of everyone! lol =]  I will do my best at the rest! Although, I still have not written my speech.... I should be getting on that. I have never written a speech before and I dont want it to be bad or stupid if I have to read it to her...

She said we would talk more about it tomorrow and we would figure things out! I am so grateful to have her, some teachers wouldnt care and they would just let me fail! So, I am very happy she is helping me! I will let you guys know what happens tomorrow! Thanks for everything!


"Healing is an energy phenomenon. Hope is another word for Healing.
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
"Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."


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   Posted 4/7/2008 5:36 PM (GMT -7)   

Tennis,

 

I'm so glad things went so well for you today.  It sounds like you have exactly the right kind of teacher to help you hrough this.  And it's great that you're willing to give the speech to her and one other person as a way to make yourself feel a little stronger.

 

Bravo to you.  Go get 'em!

 

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   Posted 4/7/2008 6:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks percy! She is the kind of person to help me with this and I am very grateful that she is helping me! It means alot to me! If I do the speech and I am able to make it through I am going to be so happy!!! =] And so proud for coming as far as I have! Thanks for everything from you guys! Take Care!

"Healing is an energy phenomenon. Hope is another word for Healing.
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
"Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."


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   Posted 4/7/2008 6:19 PM (GMT -7)   
Tennis, that's great news..your teacher really cares about you and I think it's wonderful that she wants to help you to "take steps" as she said..even if baby ones for now.  I'm sure you'll have no trouble writing your speech, just make it interesting and easy to read out loud.  Let us know how you go and take special care of yourself too tennis xxx

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   Posted 4/7/2008 8:11 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Tennis:  I want to add myself to the list of everyone who is so proud of you.  Stepping up and talking to your teacher must have been so difficult.  Like you, I do not share any personal details about myself unless I absolutely have to and hearing about what you did shows me how much strength you have.

I had a really bad experience in college with a professor in a speech class.  So many years later, I joined a national speech association called "Toastmasters".  And that literally changed my life.  Maybe some day when you are ready with your life and circumstances you may have opportunity to do something like this as well.  But in the meantime to know your limits and speak up for yourself  - to me that is just as hard as giving the speech.  Way to go girl!!!

Meanwhile, if its not too late, I would love to offer up my services.  I love writing in any manner and if you would like some help with someone to review a draft, to bounce ideas back and forth with, help with questions, or anything please let me know.  Maybe it might help you feel better about things beforehand?  Just a thought!  I'll keep checking online.  I know that I can't post my e-mail address here, but if you do decide to take me up on my offer we could always figure out how to get in touch.

Again, I'm so happy for you.  Between having the school counselor and really handling this situation so well- it shows how far you have come and how much you are truly capable of.

Cass



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   Posted 4/9/2008 12:17 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Cass. I have to give my speech tomorrow. I have only written the 3 body paragrahs... I did those yesterday, I am trying to do the intro and conclusion.... I am just going to wing it and hope for the best. Thats all I can do... =]

Ok, wow, I can not type... I must tell you guys what happened today!!!!

I went to the doctor and I asked my mom if I could see the doctor by myself. She came with me and I told her not too. She said she had to or something and I told her I was old enough to talk for myself. She told me I had to talk to the doctor and I told her I refused to. Finally after arguing she went back to the waiting room. I felt bad for "kicking" her out, but I was really proud of myself! I actualy felt better after I did that. The doc walked in and I was able to talk to him all by myself! I asked him if he could help with my anxiety.

He gave he hydroxyzine (Atarax (sp?))... I have actually never heard of it.. but it is like an antihistamine, but its a mild anxiety med... =] The only thing that seemed strange to me is that is CAUSES sedation. I can see drowsiness as being a "side-effect", but it is actually the job of the med! Let me tell you, it works! I am really sleepy and drowsy...and I am a bit off-balance...! But, if it helps my anxiety, I dont care. He said if it didnt help we would try something else.

When I got outside my mom looked at my prescriptions and she seen it and asked about it and I told her it was for anxiety... LOL She asked me what that was! lol =] So, I had to explain to her what anxiety was. She didnt understand. I tried explaining to her about school and everything. She wasnt too understanding, but I figured she would get over it.... I know that sounds mean, but I am roud that I finally did something!!!!

ALL of YOU have told me since I joined that I needed to talk to a doc and I was never able too... BUT I DID!!! And so I am so very proud of myself!!! =]

Well, I have to get my speech finished and practice it so that maybe it will be ok tomorrow. I am actually not all that worried about it now... its weird. I just figure I am so tired I just want to wing it and get it over with..

Well, thank you all for everything! Have a Great Day!

"Healing is an energy phenomenon. Hope is another word for Healing.
"Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
"Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
"Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."


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   Posted 4/9/2008 3:23 PM (GMT -7)   
Tennis, you rock!!..I am doing the happy dance yeah yeah  I am so proud of you for standing up to your mum and getting your needs met.  You are one powerful, amazing person.  Congratulations!!
 
I have a big grin on MY face now, this is contagious.  I've never heard of that particular med, and I hope it gives you some relief..but now you can discuss it all with your doc..yaay!
 
It looks like you have some educating to do there with your mum (mom?) - I write funny! She's probably a bit confused at the moment, but maybe she can talk to your doc (and your good self) about what anxiety really is all about.
 
Oh Tennis, again, I am so happy for you and so proud, keep those lines of communication open and all the best of luck with that speech..way to go!!! yeah
 
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   Posted 4/10/2008 4:03 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you all so much!!! =] Yesterday I kicked my mom out of the doctors office so that I would be able to talk to my doctor about my anxiety! He gave me something to help!(Which is HAS so far!)... AND today I gave my speech for my teacher!!!!!

I was so proud. I was actually not all that worried about it until I went to do it. I couldnt breath, but I knew that I knew the speech and I kept on going! I made really well on it too! I was really proud of myself and my teacher really liked it!

So, thank you all for being here for me! Thanks for all of the encouragement and kind words!

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percycat
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   Posted 4/10/2008 7:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Tennis,

Oh, bravo, BRAVO!

I was glad to hear your news about talking with your doctor for yourself, but this news about your speech is fantastic! What makes me so proud is that you were getting nervous and worried, but that you trusted yourself to get through it anyway - because you had prepared well - and you did it! What a triumph over your fears!

I'm glad your teacher liked it too. Thats just icing on the cake.

Big pat on the back,
percycat

wen4003
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Date Joined Aug 2007
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   Posted 4/11/2008 5:26 AM (GMT -7)   
Tennis,
 
I am so very proud of you, both of those things are HUGE accomplishments and I'm glad you are feeling proud of yourself.  Giving your speech for the teacher is just absolutely wonderful and I'm so glad you had the courage to go through with it.  As Percycat said, the fact the teacher liked it is icing on the cake for you.  You did a great job and you should do something great for yourself as a reward.
 
I'm also glad you were brave enough to ask your mom to leave so that you could speak with the doctor alone.  What a shock that must of have been for her, but you did it and that's what counts.  You were honest with the doc and now he can help you - it sounds like what he has given you is already working and that's great!
 
Keep up the fantastic work, you are a very insightful and incredible person for being so young.  You are doing great!  Please keep posting as we would like to know how things are going.
 
Take care,
Wen

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wen4003
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Date Joined Aug 2007
Total Posts : 1193
   Posted 4/14/2008 6:08 AM (GMT -7)   
Tennis,
 
How are things going for you now?  Just thought I would check in with you; let us know when you get a chance.  Hope all is well with you.
 
Take care,
Wen

Co-Moderator Anxiety/Panic Disorders

Every little bit helps, please donate to HW if you can!   http://www.healingwell.com/donate 

I am in no way a medical professional, any advice given is purely on an amateur level.

Please seek professional advice from your doctor.

Dx: Agoraphobia, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Barrett's Esophagus, Bipolar Disorder, Depression, Essential Tremors, Fibromyalgia, I.B.S., Mitral Valve Prolapse, Narcolepsy, PTSD, Restless Leg Syndrome, Acid Reflux, Sleep Apnea

Rx: Abilify, Flexeril, Lamictal, Neurontin, Nexium, Requip, Ritalin LA, Rozerem, Valium

“People have two ears and one mouth for a reason; you need to listen twice as much as you talk.”

Top Fuel pro - Bob Vandergriff, Jr


Howlyncat
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Date Joined Jan 2005
Total Posts : 24909
   Posted 4/14/2008 6:41 AM (GMT -7)   
You have come so far and I am so proud of you
Sounds like you have a great teacher helping you out remember it is you making the changes she is helping but it is your conquest
I really am delighted for you
LYN
  DX With Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum, Anxiety/ Panic and Other Disorders
 
Moderator @ Anxiety Panic..Alzheimer's..Co mod @ Crohns
 
   
 
                   
 

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