Co-Moderator Anxiety/Panic Disorders
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Dx: Agoraphobia, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Barrett's Esophagus, Bipolar Disorder, Depression, Essential Tremors, Fibromyalgia, I.B.S., Mitral Valve Prolapse, Narcolepsy, PTSD, Restless Leg Syndrome, Acid Reflux, Sleep Apnea
Rx: Abilify, Flexeril, Lamictal, Neurontin, Nexium, Requip, Ritalin LA, Rozerem, Valium
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Dear Sweet Wen,
1. Be kind to yourself, stop beating yourself up. It is ok. You do not have to keep a report card on how well you do the exercises or relaxation techiniques. You gave it your best shot but after the fact you came up with a great idea, asking your son's girlfriend to take your daughter. Wow, now that was a super idea.
Remember it won't be forever but if it can help you now, please do ask her to pinch hit for you.
I have cancelled my Pdoc appointment because I could just not face it that day, but I worked at it until I was able to go again. I had my hubby drive me and then just crawled into the car and did deep breathing until we were back home again.
You are not alone. You may want to talk to your pdoc re your meds. It is not the end of the world to have to adjust meds either up or down, it is the fear of the unknown that scares us.
2. You have anxiety and the phobia and you will learn to overcome it but please remember to take babysteps. Is you Walmart open 24/7. Sometimes going in the middle of the night when it is almost desserted may make you feel less phobic. You can make a great get away. The clerks are working nights and busy stocking shelves so you won't have a lot of people wanting to visit with you.
3. Turst in yourself, you are going to make it through this. We are here and remember leave the past behind now and move forward.
Your A & P family all care about you deeply and we are praying for you. Don't give up on us, we are here, take our hands.
Peacesoul, You're so right. Don't let it beat you! This is just one of those low days that comes as part of the cycle of anxiety. You will have better ones again. We're all proud of you for being able to face going back to work. What a challenge that must be, and how much strength you've developed to deal with it.
Wen, hang in there. Walmart didn't go smoothly this time, but you don't have to be able to do it all every time. I think you deserve a pat on the back just for stepping up and going for your daughter. It let you test whether you're ready to go to such a big place yet, and you found that you're not. That's OKAY. Knowing our limitations is an important tool in the fight against anxiety, I think. I know part of why I got into my own difficulty with it is from NOT having recognized my limitations and then setting up boundaries against trying to do way too much. So you'renot ready for Walmart yet, but you are strong, and you can beat this.
(((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))) my sweet WEn. I know what you mean. I want my old life back to. I want the real me, one who laughed and had fun, went out with her grilfriends, loved to shop and did not have to work up the nerve to do the things she used to do without thinking twice.
That person has moved on and left me here to deal with the now so together, sweetie, we will take those babysteps and WE will make it.
Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 4/11/2008 9:43:29 AM (GMT-6)
Again, thank you all for your encouragement. Between you all, the valium and the self-talk the anxiety is slowly receding.
Today, I actually feel like doing something - I've been doing some sewing and answering posts. Neither of which I could do yesterday. Thank you for asking Percycat, you are a great asset to this forum.
Peacesoul, I'm glad that I could help you (without even realizing it - LOL); you are very sweet for posting that. Walmart will be out of the question for me for some time to come - it's just too crowded and noisy and I just can't do it. But I will continue to fight this by getting out more and going to much smaller places. I'm happy for you that you went to work today - every little step helps. Consider this to be a baby step and a BIG SUCCESS for yourself - you deserve to think that because it's true.
Lyn, thank you for helping me through this - our chats have helped as well as your kind words here. You mean a lot to me and I appreciate everything you do.
Kitt, you are so right - we WILL make it, we just have to keep fighting this fight. No matter how hard it gets or how many setbacks we have, we will do it. It will just take time. Thank you for reminding me of that - you are a true friend.
Again, thanks everyone!!
Take care - luvs and many ((((((((((hugs)))))))))) to everyone,
Good Morning Wen,It is finally Friday...........and I hope today is a truly good day for you, one you can find some peace in. Make today Wen Day. Keep your goals small and attainable.
If you start to feel anxious think of all of us surrounding you with love and helping you lower that anxiety. You don't have to be brave and strong, you just have to be you and believe in yourself. Hugs to you my friend.Kitt
Good Morning. Give yourself a break from worrying about going back to the store for awhile. Give a list to your hubby or kids. Let go of the anticipatory anxiety of what to do and just let yourself have some peace.
You need a break from the fear and anxiety that is building up and sweetie, you are ok. Your not crazy or a freak, your like all of us. You have anxiety and you will get through this.
Hugs my dear friend.Kitt