Afraid To Be Happy!

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JT Cage
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   Posted 4/10/2008 11:43 AM (GMT -7)   
ok, my mind started racing off and on today again.  I've been trying to find out in my head what is making me feel so crazy.  I feel afraid to be happy for whatever reason.  As if i don't deserve to be happy.  Like regrets for past mistakes or something.  Has anyone else been through this?  And if so, how have you all coped. Its almost making me feel like life is pointless because i can't be happy.  And I want to live a nice happy life.  What also is scary is that this seemed to all start just a couple days ago.  I feel lost inside myself.  Please help.

nervymeg
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   Posted 4/10/2008 1:37 PM (GMT -7)   
JT, that doesn't sound like a nice place to be in your head. You deserve to be happy, we all do, but I agree, sometimes that guilt sneaks up and starts telling us we aren't good enough. If your head is "racing" around it might be good to put some thoughts down on paper.  They are sometimes easier to deal with when we can look at them (than when they are playing rollerderby with your brain!!).
 
I can really realte to that feeling that life is hopeless, especially when you are feeling crazy, scared and depressed all in one hit.  Do you have any idea why this came on so suddenly?  It sounds pretty much like an attack to me, so try and ride it out and please keep posting so we can help you through this.  You are not alone okay?
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stkitt
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   Posted 4/10/2008 3:29 PM (GMT -7)   

Hey JT,

It has only been a few days and something seems to be triggering these racing thoughts your having.  I would like to suggest journaling for a few days and see if that gives you any clues.

Any notebook will work just fine.

Begin to journal. Get honest with how you FEEL about things; how things "really are" instead of how you "think" they are. Write it all down. Be honest with yourself! Spend a lot of time thinking about what's happening right now, instead of dwelling on the past. There is no future in the past. Being concerned about something that has already happened; something you cannot change, keeps you stuck. To begin again; to really move ahead, you must work on YOU! Let go of the past.

Don't let time set limits on you. Preferably, you should write in your journal when you have a lot of free time. When you have written down all your feelings and identified reasons for why you feel this way then you have worked hard on making the first steps in winning the poker chips that Lyn has for us to collect.
 
Remember, this is your journal, you do not have to show it to anyone. Try it and just let the thoughts flow.
Bless you
Kitt
 
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wen4003
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   Posted 4/11/2008 5:47 AM (GMT -7)   
JT,
 
You have gotten some great advice and I agree that something appears to have triggered all of this for you.  Journaling may be the way to go for you because if you write down your thoughts it may help to release some of the anxiety as well as maybe giving you a clue of what has caused these feelings.  I hope this works for you.
 
You do deserve to be happy, everyone does.  It's just the a/p that prevents this from happening at times.  We need to do the best we can to ride it out, try to keep occupied, try to be rested (a good night's sleep can work wonders) and try to focus on other things that make you happy (I know, it's way easier said than done). 
 
You are not crazy by any stretch, you are anxious and panicky - NOT crazy.  The a/p can make you feel like you're going crazy, but rest assured - you're not.  I hope something here has helped you and please keep posting.  You are not alone in this battle and we will be here to help and support you.
 
Take care and lots of (((((hugs))))),
Wen

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Howlyncat
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   Posted 4/12/2008 10:32 AM (GMT -7)   
YES
I have felt this way
I journalled and found my way out I realized I was a viable human being that DID have so much to give and I wasnt going to have "GUILT " anymore about being happy
I have lost so many in my life and I thought why am I still here plenty of times I know I should have been gone but am still around
THERE is a plan for me not sure yet what it all may consist of but I know I am up for it
I was so darn tired of having bad thoughts and walking around looking sad all the time .........
YOU DO deserve happiness.friends and laughter
YOU are an important person with lots to give
You need to find this trigger and I believe journalling will do it

Great input from all
Support is here

Take care and keep us posted plz
LYN


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jordaNZone
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   Posted 4/12/2008 11:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi JT
Permission to be 'happy' is granted!
Permission to be 'sad' is also granted...but, only for a little while (and not too much dwelling on this..ok)
How can we know what true happiness is if we haven't experienced a little 'sad' :))
You have had fantastic advice given to you..I wish you well, hope you be feeling better soon.
Maree
 'Raindrops on roses..'


wen4003
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   Posted 4/13/2008 10:55 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi JT,
 
I'm just checking in with you to see how you are doing today.  How are you feeling?  Has your mind settled down with the racing thoughts?  Remember, you do deserve to be happy - ALWAYS remember that.  When you get a chance, please let us know how you are doing.
 
Take care,
Wen

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Please seek professional advice from your doctor.

Dx: Agoraphobia, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Barrett's Esophagus, Bipolar Disorder, Depression, Essential Tremors, Fibromyalgia, I.B.S., Mitral Valve Prolapse, Narcolepsy, PTSD, Restless Leg Syndrome, Acid Reflux, Sleep Apnea

Rx: Abilify, Flexeril, Lamictal, Neurontin, Nexium, Requip, Ritalin LA, Rozerem, Valium

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stkitt
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   Posted 4/13/2008 12:13 PM (GMT -7)   

Good Afternoon JT,

I am hoping and praying you are having a happy day with no guilt attached. 

Laugh often. Dream big. Reach for the Stars.

Kitt


 
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