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nervymeg
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   Posted 4/30/2008 8:17 PM (GMT -7)   
I should be used to this by now but...
I went to the doctor about my continuing pain/dizziness/nausea regarding my recent concusssion..
I got a new doctor and he looked over my records, looked at my medication (valium 5mg once a week, xanax .5mg as needed and mild over the counter sleep meds) and he decided that my dizziness and memory loss was due to me being a "sad junkie" who was "abusing the system" and I should stop "whingeing" and go and be a better member of society.
 
This just floored me.  Some of you know I battled addiction in the past and so this deeply shocked me.  I just don't understand why a doctor would want to say this to someone who is obviously in distress.  It's not the first time it has happened, so I will take it with a grain of salt..but I'm only stopping the floods of tears and past guilt by coming on here and reading about all your succeses and positive hopes.
 
Sorry for the vent, but today I am so very sad and disappointed.
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crying
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   Posted 4/30/2008 8:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Oh hun I am so sorry you got a jerk of a doc today. It seems there are docs out there who just dont get it and think they are better than everyone else when in fact they need have a stick removed from thier little bums.

I understand how you feel, I had a doc give me that line before and made me feel like i was scum. I cried the whole way home and felt guilty for some odd reason.

I know that must have hurt your feelings and I feel for you. Just remember YOU know who You are and he doesnt. Your a sweet and helpful, kind person.
So try if you can to push aside what he said and get a new doc.

I do hope you feel better soon!
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stkitt
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   Posted 4/30/2008 8:47 PM (GMT -7)   

My Dear Meg,

Let me help you drop kick this Doctor for his unprofessional behavior and his judgemental attitude.  He appears to have  the bed side manner of a dorrito chip and you have nothing to feel guilty about.

You suffered a serious head injury.  Perhaps he should fall on his head and he might wake up and find out physicians are to be emphathtic. Concussions are traumatic head injuries that occur from both mild and severe blows to the head. Some head injuries may appear to be mild but research is finding that concussions can have serious, long-term effects.

Labeling you as a "junkie" is setting you up for others to follow and not take you seriously.  I would certainly talk with your primary care physician re this other Dr. and write a letter to the Administrator of the clinic.

You have overcome your past issues and you will continue to do so; don't let this set you back.  Let out those tears and then remember how proud you should be of yourself.

If you continue to feel so dizzy and cannot live your life as you were before the head injury, please seek out another physician that is willing to listen to you and not judge you.  You have patient's rights.

I am right here for you so know I care. Hugs sweet Meg.

Kitt

 



 
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Post Edited (stkitt) : 5/1/2008 6:55:29 AM (GMT-6)


jordaNZone
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   Posted 5/1/2008 2:12 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Meg...
Hmmm..think it's time to take action as Kitt has suggested..'totally unprofessional' are a couple of words that I would put in the letter of complaint about this doctor!
Please seek another Doctors opinion and help..keep us posted with your progress..
Maree 
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badfish
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   Posted 5/1/2008 3:11 AM (GMT -7)   
confused  i wouldn't believe a word he says like crying says "u know who you are" jus ignore any1 who tries to tell you otherwise. Its quite a shock to think a doc wud say those things.
 


peacesoul
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   Posted 5/1/2008 4:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Keep in mind, Dr's are human. Some humans are jerks some are not.
Him talking to you like that says more about how he feels about himself than what he thought of you.
Unhappy souls treat others this way.
Now having sais this...... If you're going to let this affect you, let it affect you in a positive way. Take what he said ask yourself what you can learn from someone else's words.
What you need to know is, negative reactions/comments are as important to our growth as the positive ones. I'm not saying what he told you was right/correct

Being disappointed can motivate you also.
Chose to let this incident motivated you and not take from you

We all heal in our own time

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Jen


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machelle
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   Posted 5/1/2008 5:05 AM (GMT -7)   
sorry what you went through, it seems that most doc think that way or at least make you fill that way, i felt that way, and you almost don't what help, you know your body and there not you, how would they feel if it was them, i am kinda lucky i go to a clinic where they are all rn's and the nurse i see has anxiety so she can relate but my old doc made me feel like i was asking for meds and it was all in my head, do these people have any sympathy for their patients are is it all about the money.

megie
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   Posted 5/1/2008 7:20 AM (GMT -7)   
megie (((((hugs meg))))
That doctor is a jerk and doesn't even need to be Practicing medicine . You should definately complain about him .

Just remember Meg what a beautiful person you are , and how many people you have helped on this board . You are always there for everyone , and I don't like seeing you in pain . Stay strong my friend we all need you . luv , megie
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   Posted 5/1/2008 8:05 AM (GMT -7)   
S.I.S.
With your past history of addiction
YOU need a doc that is EMPATHETIC not a ****
I would proceed as quickly as possible and find a doctor that is not going to hurt you ,embarrass you and could even have possibly caused a setback ya know

I am here for you as are the others
THIS is not right AT ALL......
PLZ do find a doc for the Good of you and understands what you have ACCOMPLISHED and it is a MILESTONE ........................IMHO

Luvs ya tons
Email me if you want too k
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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 5/2/2008 8:43:45 AM (GMT-6)


nervymeg
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   Posted 5/1/2008 2:33 PM (GMT -7)   

(((thankyou all)))) I knew you would understand.  Thanks for the support and advice.  I have lodged a formal complaint about this doctor (what he did, ie discrimination is illegal under current legislation in my country).  Sadly the only medical centre I have access to, it is kind of pot luck which do you get to see from day to day, and my current doc is away, so I will have to wear this doctor's label until his return.

This has really knocked my on my lil butt..as I said I am very sensitive to "junkie" label..but yes, he was a jerk, and yes kitt, I think even a dorrito could have done better (thanks for making me laugh).  I think I need to do some more work on this within myself and have another good cry.  Once more thanks for your undertanding..if these symptoms don't calm down I will go back into hospital again. Promise.


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percycat
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   Posted 5/1/2008 5:23 PM (GMT -7)   
Meg,

I'm sorry that you got stuck with Dr. Attitude. Calling a patient names and belittling them is totally unacceptable. You're wise enough to know that, but apparently he isn't. And even though you know that what he said was completely out of line, it still hurts. So go ahead and let your hurt out by crying or venting or whatever you need to do to clean yourself off from his toxic behavior.

I'm glad you lodged a complaint. You are strong, and you do know what's right - for you and in general - and you're going to feel like yourself again with no more exploding brains or dizziness soon.

Love,
percycat

Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/2/2008 7:49 AM (GMT -7)   
S.I.S.

I know you will not break your promise so I am going to keep you in my heart thoughts and prayers that you can keep self from going off ya know

He should have KNOWN what he COULD have caused ...that *** could have done the world of harm to you in those words
I am really not impressed as an S.I.S in the addiction you and I share..........and battle each D day
The point is you didnt havbe a setback to that and for that I am SO proud of you I would sqeeze ya to bits if I was near ya ........
KNOW we all love you and know the real sweet megs.......
I know the battle rages on I really do
One Day at A Time

Love you tons and again so proud of you for all you did and DIDN"T do
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mynameis
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   Posted 5/2/2008 7:52 AM (GMT -7)   
I can't believe a doctor could have the nerve to say such things...so glad to hear you lodged a complaint, he shouldn't be allowed to get away with it!  

stkitt
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   Posted 5/2/2008 8:21 AM (GMT -7)   

Dear Sweet Meg,

You have your cry and I agree you have a right to your feelings. It is hard to just let go of the labeling as you have worked so hard and to have someone say these comments and insiuate you are only looking for meds is  a low blow.

I have a tendency to easily become dependent on a med or other things and my Pdoc knows this.  She helped me get off Vicodin as well as decrease my usuage of Valium which was good.  However, I may ask to try a certain med and she will make a comment that I should not use that drug due to my tendency toward addictions.  I get really angry and leave her office feeling like you did.  Of course I immediately buy into her comments until I get home and my husband talks it through with me.

I resent having my requests shot down because she thinks I may become "addicted'.  She makes me feel like I am some weak, spineless person. 

But I am not and neither are you, we are just humans with feelings and learning to deal with the comments of others is difficult.  In your case it was crushing to you. I am so happy your wrote the letter to the clinic. Let your  feelings out and the tears do help.  :)

We are your rock and you can come and find us right here waiting for you.  We believe in you and know what a wonderful person you are.
Hugs and prayers to you
Kitt

 

 


 
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