Co-Moderator Anxiety/Panic Disorders
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I am not a medical professional, any advice give is purely from personal experience.
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Dx: Agoraphobia, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Barrett's Esophagus, Bipolar Disorder, Depression, Essential Tremors, Fibromyalgia, I.B.S., Mitral Valve Prolapse, Narcolepsy, PTSD, Restless Leg Syndrome, Acid Reflux, Sleep Apnea
Rx: Abilify, Flexeril, Lamictal, Neurontin, Nexium, Requip, Ritalin LA, Rozerem, Valium
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Post often and share with others. I will be addressing the issues in your 1st post tomorrow.
I have had a busy day.............many new members on the site. So glad to have each and every one.
Hi there Suzq..you have been given some fantastic advice..I always think that it's a shame that our children come into this world without their own instruction book - this would make life sooo much easier for us parents lol.
Don't forget to take time out for You..when was the last time you treated yourself to something special? Do you have hobbies you can immerse yourself in..distraction is a great way to ease anxiety
I wish you well..try not to 'overthink' too much (easier said than done )
Good Morning. I think your what ifs fall into the realm of anticipatory anxiety .
Common Anticipatory Anxiety Reactions include :
Feelings: anxious, fearful, angry, confused, hopeless, losing control, numb, sad, moody, irritable, guilty.
Behaviors: withdrawal from others or activities, disrupted routines, startle reactions, easily crying, constant worrying.
Cognitions: preoccupation with possibility of trauma, concentration difficulties, self-doubt, worry, indecisiveness, memory difficulties
Physical complaints: muscle tension, headaches, gastric distress, sleep and appetite changes, fatigue
Talking usually helps. Share your feelings with friends, family, on here are all good ways to work through the anxiety.
Relaxation techniques: Try deep breathing, muscle relaxation, visualization (imagining peaceful scenes), and/or listening to soothing music.
Realistic self-talk: While we can't always control what happens to us, we can always control what we say to ourselves. It's important to keep things in perspective. Talk to yourself in reasonable ways. Ask yourself "how likely is my fear?" Remind yourself that you have coped before during other challenging times. Don't just dwell on the negative but consciously look for things you can appreciate every day.
Stay in the moment, don't worry about yesterday, and tommorow will get here soon enough so stay in the moment of today and know you are ok. Some things we cannot control but anticipating a bad outcome and worrying increase your anxiety. I so agree with Maree, do something just for you. You are special and important so take care of your first.
I am starting to realize that for my children I have painted a picture of how I would like to see them live their life. Not in a controlling way at all. Just in a way that I know they will be happy. This is where my anxiety comes in. I have one daughter with a boyfriend that I can't stand and wish she would walk away. Does not treat her or the family very nicely. Then I have another with a boyfriend who I really like who treats her like the "painted picture" that I have. The one with the good boyfriend does not appreciate how well she is treated and that is when my anxiety peaks because I don't want to see her make any mistakes. And I know that they only way they learn is to make mistakes, pick up the pieces and move on. I don't want to see them get hurt or mess up a good relationship. Then the "what ifs" kick in and that makes is worst. I have gone over and over with all of this in my head knowing that I have to let go and let them learn on their own. I know all of that but my mind just doesn't want to let me do that. I have a tendency to dwell on the situation with them or ask the same reassuring questions over.
I am seeing a doctor who has me on Wellbutrin for depression and Adult ADHD. I can take Xanax as needed but don't like to because the anxiety is not there all the time. It just comes up on me when certain situations come up.