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machelle
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   Posted 5/16/2008 9:17 AM (GMT -7)   
my oldest daughter moved out today and it was harder than i thought she has been saying she wanted to live with her grandparents for a long time but now in the last few weeks it seems she didn't, its going to be hard i had her as a single mom for five years before i met my husband who is more her dad than the donor. we share something special in its own way. she always seemed to favor my parents over me, and that hurt for years but i will always love her dear. sad

Paulos
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   Posted 5/16/2008 12:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Your husband is not her actual father or is he? Sorry about the grandparent scene... that happened with my mother, they even tried to sue her for custody of me when I was younger, they were crazy... sorry you lost your daughter from the house today, it'll be ok Machelle, everyone *well not everyone* leaves home eventually.
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stkitt
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   Posted 5/16/2008 12:53 PM (GMT -7)   

Machelle,

We have them for such a short time as you look back.  It seems like the few years we have them fly by and then they are these people that are full grown and have minds and dispositions of their own.  I love my children but I remember the day my first one left home at 18, 2 weeks after highschool graduation.  He went into Marines and never moved back home again.  After the service he relocated on the West Coast.................a long way from home.

I know how you feel and yes sad is a good word to describe it.

Hugs to you
Kitt


 
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nervymeg
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   Posted 5/16/2008 5:50 PM (GMT -7)   

Machelle,

I'm sorry you are going through this, I don't have children, so I won't pretend that I understand, but I hope that you start to feel a little better soon and that things improve with you and your daughter.  This must be hard for you, and I will keep you in my thoughts.


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jordaNZone
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   Posted 5/17/2008 2:27 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi there Machelle...

Bigs hugs for you..it will feel like you are missing your left arm for a while...felt very lost when my last one left home (my stepson)...I knew he was ready - didn't make it any easier at the time sad

But you know what, he has come home twice to live with us - he is 21 now and came home recently - it's kinda nice this time as he has come home as an adult - and this time we call him our flat mate lol...he shares costs and chores (mum gets out of doing dishes most nights now - yay)

Don't give up hope - sometimes they have to get away for a while to get perspective about things :-)

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   Posted 5/17/2008 7:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Just checking in Machelle, hoping that you are okay, let us know how you are doing sweetie..

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percycat
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   Posted 5/19/2008 8:32 AM (GMT -7)   
Machelle,

I'm sorry you're feeling so low and sad. I am still hopeful that your daughter will come to truly appreciate all you've done for her when she has finally experienced first-hand what it's like to live elsewhere and realizes that it's not all the bed of roses she may be imagining.

Love and hugs,
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Georgie Girl
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   Posted 5/19/2008 1:24 PM (GMT -7)   
It's hard to let go.  I'm not doing a very good job of that.

Georgie Girl


wen4003
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   Posted 5/19/2008 4:17 PM (GMT -7)   
Machelle,
 
It's very hard to let go when the kids leave the nest.  When my oldest, who is now 22, moved out I was in tears.  I know it needs to happen, even in the worst of circumstances, but it's hard.  I have two more coming up that will be moving out in 2 years and then in 5 years.  I think the last one to go will be the hardest - then the nest really will be empty.
 
Take care,
Wen

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