Hi Coltsfan, welcome to healing well and thanks for posting your question. I have been on effexor (it didn't help me) and so I stopped (slowly). I got some dizziness and anxiety but it certainly wasn't impossible.
I find CBT to be a great resource and I hope it helps you out too. My basic belief is that if a med helps and we don't take more than prescribed then we shouldn't have anything to worry/feel guilty or stigmatised about. I hope this is of some help, and again, welcome, I hope to chat with you agian.
Oh my................Please do look into the CBT therapy. I think it would be helpful for you. IMHO you need to learn how to keep the anxiety down. I will pop up a post re resources and you will see where you can read about CBT therapy right on this page.
Don't give up, remember you have anxiety, it does not have you.
The OH my was because my birth Mother died when I was 18 months old and I maybe was not held enough either
I am glad the med is helping you. Sometimes you do have to shop around for the therapist that works best with you.