Co-Moderator Anxiety/Panic Disorders
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I am not a medical professional, any advice give is purely from personal experience.
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Dx: Agoraphobia, Anxiety/Panic Disorders, Barrett's Esophagus, Bipolar Disorder, Depression, Essential Tremors, Fibromyalgia, I.B.S., Mitral Valve Prolapse, Narcolepsy, PTSD, Restless Leg Syndrome, Acid Reflux, Sleep Apnea
Rx: Abilify, Flexeril, Lamictal, Neurontin, Nexium, Requip, Ritalin LA, Rozerem, Valium
“Be a good listener. Your ears will never get you into trouble.” - Frank Tyger
I'm sorry for what you've been through & what you are going through Meg. If he ran from your friend, he has no intention on returning to your life. You have moved on & so has he. Look ahead, not back. My prayers & thoughts are w/ you. Please take care.
This would be my advice exactly. He messed with you once, forgive him and live the new life you have and love.
And I must say WOW to this story. I bet he more issues going on that anxiety and panic. I dream of running away, but would never do it. Just wish the best for him and hope that he's well
My Dear Megs,
Hey my friend, don't you ever worry about being judged here. I could write a bad novel about all the things I have done in my life but I it is better left in the past. So you are always safe with us.
You can not cause another person's illness so don't you blame yourself for his leaving. He obviously just ran away from his life and his stressful job and you have been in limbo ever since. Now he has been sighted and again he ran to avoid being approached.
You have a man you are crazy about and I am a bit crazy about him too. LOL He was so thoughtful when you were in hospital. I think he must be a pretty good guy.
Perhaps you should think about dissolving this marriage to your missing husband and just move forward and stay in the moment. Yup I said it.
Yesterday is gone, and tommorow will take care of itself so live in today and be happy. You deserve the best. Your MIA husband is not going to show up out of the blue and he did abandon you so for your sake I hope you can find some peace and closure to this sad time in your past and know you are loved by all here.
I wish you peace and happiness but most of all, I wish you love.
To answer the tricky legal Q's, I can get a divorce through "absentee" of the second party (legal hooey) but it feels like giving up, not on our marriage, but on his ability to survive.
I just? If he feels half of what I have been through, forgive..
Oh lord, I cannot write this...head spinning, heart pounding and all the rest.
May you find him safe and sound and may you unravel the mystery of why he disappeared and where he has been. I wish you peace and happiness. I want what you want for you.
If this is your husband and you still have feelings for him I understand your "spinning in circles" over this sighting of him.
I will pray for you and for him that he will contact you and the two of you may meet. I know your scared and excited at the news all at the same time.
Post Edited (stkitt) : 5/31/2008 8:29:05 AM (GMT-6)
Dear Darling Meg,
I am glad you are giving yourself permission to fall apart. I know all the old feelings along with new ones are flooding over you so cry my sweet Meg and let it all out.
I am here for you always.
I hope you let yourself have a good meltdown. I know how all your old memories are mixed up with your emotions right now. I am truly glad he is well and I hope you will be able to continue to make your way through this emotional time.
The waiting is over, you now know he is alive and where he is.
"Hearts will never be made practical until they are made unbreakable." - Tinman (Wizard of Oz)
How are you doing my sweet lady from down under? I have been worrying about you and will shoot you an email.
You know we are all here praying for a good outcome for all of you. Be brave but also give yourself permission to have your meltdowns to.
Reach out and take my hand, I will stand beside you.
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety, Panic & Depression *~*
Hey my HW friends,
I'm sorry I haven't posted for a bit but I needed some time to think and talk to my current guy. I know you understand. I have talked to him (errant b......) , but he will not discuss "anything" over the phone and wants to do it in person. I don't trust that, I have moved on from shock, to addressing the love I have had and still have for him. But I don't trust him as far as I could piff him (which isn't far when you are only 5 foot tall!). Yes my humour is slowly returning on this.
If he wants forgiveness he can come to me, but I am not chasing him and I am not interrupting my life anymore. Powerful woman roar!! yeaaah! You have all given me the strenght and input to do this. I thank you from the very bottom of my heart. I could not have reached this decision alone. Not without all of you. Bless, hugs and love...much of it.
Thank you all. I will let you know what the slippery man does next.