Repressed memories? Help!!!

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thirstyforchrist
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   Posted 6/15/2008 7:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Okay, I just had a very disturbing episode with my two year old son.  My husband and him usually take a shower together on Sunday mornings.  I went to get my hair dryer and when I came back, my son was hysterical.  He ran to me, and my husband said he didn't want to take a shower.  So I held him and told him it would be okay.  Well I tried to put him in the shower and he clung to me like a vice.  I mean hard.  And he was crying and screaming hysterically.  I kept trying to get him in the shower and he just literally clung to me like he was going to die.  This disturbed me and my husband greatly.  My husband was molested as a child and I think I may have been, but have repressed it.  Years ago I was seeing a therapist and she said that she suspected sexual abuse.  I don't remember anything about it if it happened.  But my point is, I think something has happened to my son.  Someone has done something to him in a shower.  And i know for certain, it was not my husband.  I think something may have happened at my Grandma's house this week.  I used to stay with her when I was my son's age and younger.  (My Grandpa, Grandma and 43 yr old uncle live together. My uncle never married and never left home.  They live on a farm.)  Anyway, I am terrified that someone has hurt my baby.  I need to find out if something happened to me so I can save my son.  Please, if anyone has any info on this please let me know.  I'm sorry for the graphic nature.  I need answers .  Please help me.
"There is hope for every man, a solid place where we can stand, in this dry in weary land, there is hope for every man... Jesus is hope for every man"  -Casting Crowns


harlan
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   Posted 6/15/2008 8:12 AM (GMT -7)   
I know your son is young but if you ask him specific questions about someone hurting him, might he be able to tell you? Does he ever go to any daycare at all or is he with you all the time during the day? Could he have seen something on TV? Even some of the kids shows nowadays have things in them that could traumatize a child.

stkitt
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   Posted 6/15/2008 8:51 AM (GMT -7)   

Good Morning,

I think you have every right to feel afraid and need to know what happened to your son.

I am not a professional but I do not know that finding out what happened to you will help our son right now.  If you have repressed your assaults it could take a lot of work with a therapist trained in this field to get you to remember.

However you son needs you to advocate for him now.  I agree, sit down in a quiet place and talk with him.  Remember if he has been molested he may have been threatened if he tells Mommy something bad will happen so you have to get him to understand you are safe and no one will hurt you.

If that does not work I would take him to your pediatrician and ask for help but do not let him spend any alone time where this trauma may have happened.  Until proven wrong I would protect my child.

Bless you and I will say a prayer for you.

Kitt


 

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percycat
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   Posted 6/15/2008 2:45 PM (GMT -7)   
ThirstyForChrist,

I agree with Kitt. Finding out what may have happened to you will be important in the long run, but if your son is being molested now, you need to find out as soon as possible.

If you're not able to find out anything from him, I agree that pediatrician should be able to suggest resources. My sister is a social worker specializing in children's issues, so I'll ask her advice and report back.

Love and prayers,
percycat

thirstyforchrist
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   Posted 6/15/2008 9:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Thankyou very much. I will do anything for my boy. I think I'll go by his pediatricians office tommorow and talk to him. He is a wonderful doctor and I know he will help. Thanks for the advice. I have tried asking my son if anything happened and he won't say anything. He's only two but he is very smart and can talk very well. So if something did happen he could tell me at least who hurt him. I will not let him be alone with anyone I don't absolutely trust 100% until I get to the bottom of this. But who do I trust? I have so much family and I thought I could trust them all. Maybe not. So I guess I can only trust my husband and his parents. My parents are divorced and both re-married. So either of my step parents aren't 100%. I love them all but this is my son and I have to do everything I can to protect him. I just can't believe somebody would hurt him. It breaks my heart absolutely in two. I hope that he was just grumpy this morning, but my momma instinct says somethings up. Any more advice ya'll can add will be appriciated. THanks for your help and support. Love
"There is hope for every man, a solid place where we can stand, in this dry in weary land, there is hope for every man... Jesus is hope for every man"  -Casting Crowns


stkitt
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   Posted 6/16/2008 5:39 AM (GMT -7)   

Your Mamma instincts rule in my humble opinion. Mine always served me well.  It is an inborn trait Mothers have. I wish you the best in getting to the bottom of this.

Hugs
Kitt


 

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thirstyforchrist
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   Posted 6/16/2008 9:25 AM (GMT -7)   
THanks Kitt, much love.
"There is hope for every man, a solid place where we can stand, in this dry in weary land, there is hope for every man... Jesus is hope for every man"  -Casting Crowns


thirstyforchrist
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   Posted 6/17/2008 11:10 AM (GMT -7)   
I just wanted to let everyone know that my son seems to be fine. I am still going to look into this episode though. I think he might've just been scared because he's 2. Or he thought the water was too hot.? When I tried to put him in the tub last night he cried and told me the water was hot. It was'nt so I had to end up just putting him in there anyway and he stopped crying and enjoyed his bath. I hope it's just a phobia or phase that he's going through. I'll keep posting if something else comes up. Thanks for all the support and advice!!
"There is hope for every man, a solid place where we can stand, in this dry in weary land, there is hope for every man... Jesus is hope for every man"  -Casting Crowns

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