Embracing the panic/anxiety

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peacesoul
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   Posted 6/20/2008 1:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Has anyone ever tried to embrace their panic/anxiety attacks?
 
I find when I anticipate a sitatuon that fills me with anxiety, it makes me sick. I get so fed up of the anxiety, I just go face the dreadful situation just hoping I'll get a panic attack so I can see that it's not so horrible and also to get the level of anxiety down.
 
Every time I hope the attack comes, it never does. For me, hoping for the attack is a form of letting go of the control.
 
Like today for example, I went to get my hair cut. I so dislike going to get my hair cut cause I normally panic about being trapped while someone cuts my hair.
I was well over do for the cut and sat here today knowing I had to go. I went and instead of worrying I was going to have a panic attack, I hoped for one. I embraced my anxiety and of course I was so relaxed and was laughing with all the ladies in the salon.
 
Anyone else do this? This method has gotten me through some horrible situations
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ashleyf3
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   Posted 6/20/2008 1:41 PM (GMT -7)   
No, I have not tried it and not sure if I would be brave enough to stand up and wish for the panic to come. I know what you mean about haircuts. I use to have someone that did it out of her house, but she stopped and I had to go to a salon this last time - I told the lady ahead of time and she was really fast THANK GOD - by the end of it I was about to freak out b/c she kept fixing my hair and I was like it is great wet just let me go! As you can see I didn't float with the feeling very well LOL I am so glad you were able to find something that works for you!

Blessings,
Leah

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   Posted 6/20/2008 2:18 PM (GMT -7)   
Leah, try it next time. Embrace it and see what happens.
No one floats with the feeling of anxiety well. It feels AWFUL, but what we have to keep in mind is it only a feeling of being uncomfortable.
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thirstyforchrist
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   Posted 6/20/2008 9:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey peacesoul, How exactly can you embrace it. when I hope for a panic attack it still happens. My MD wont give me any nerve pills rather than my paxil so I end up taking a sleeping pill just to get me through it. I would love to make this technique work for me but I think my mind is very powerful. And so is the anxiety. Has been bad lately as I'm under tons and tons of stress. (see other posts) I'm glad you've found something though. I would love anymore advice on how to stop the panic or at least make it bearable. I get very sick physically when I have panic attacks. Pray for me please. I need guidence.
"There is hope for every man, a solid place where we can stand, in this dry in weary land, there is hope for every man... Jesus is hope for every man"  -Casting Crowns


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   Posted 6/21/2008 8:00 AM (GMT -7)   

peacesoul

I like your theory and I am glad it works for you.  I agree that anticipating about it makes the task seem huge but just doing it and if the anxiety shows up just deal with it.  Usually when I get home, I think of what a dunce I am as I was just fine.

Thanks for the great advice.
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   Posted 6/21/2008 8:06 AM (GMT -7)   

Hey peaceful, I get what your saying...I have terrible anxiety/panic attacks with going into public places...grocery stores, malls, gas stations, going out to eat.  But for me I dont calm myself by thinking of it as embracing the panic.  I focus instead on my breathing, taking deep breaths slowly, and trying to concentrate in my mind of calmness.  Not going into the panic attack but instead trying to keep control of my senses and awareness.

I often wear a ponytail holder on my wrist which I can snap if I start getting out of focus...the sting from the snap will sometimes brings my focus back from the panic.  Sometimes it doesnt, just depends on the situation.  Not too often will I have to break down and take a Xanax.


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peacesoul
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   Posted 6/21/2008 8:25 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi All, I still need a 1/2 of a .25 of a xanax when it gets too much, but I guess my theory is more about letting go of the need to control the situation which in turn helps me embrace the anxiety.
Of course the anxiety feels terrible and totally uncomfortable, but when I let go, it lowers so much

As anxiety sufferers, we have an unhealthy need for control. I bet most of you need to control every aspect of your life and your partners lives. From where you eat, to where you live to which side of the bed you sleep on.
I'm a control freak so I need to control my enviroment all the time which in turn feeds panic/anxiety

If you talk to anyone who's overcome anxiety, it's not by taking meds, meds mask the real issues, but the people who succeed with overcoming anxiety are people who just learn to let go and face the anxiety. Actually go on the front line.
Meds get one over the hump and are good for a short time, but most meds give people a false sense of wellness. Once the meds stop working, you fall right back into the tailspin of hell.

Thirsty, it's ok to have a panic attack. You need to accept them and go with it. Taking more pills to numb it out won't work.
Do you have a healthy diet? People don't realize the food we eat makes/breaks our chemical make-up.
If I were religious, I would pray for you, instead I will send you some good vibes. Praying and wishing don't make anxiety better, going out there and facing the pain is the ONLY cure for anxiety. Of course "praying" will give you the strength to fight it but won't cure it.
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thirstyforchrist
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   Posted 6/21/2008 10:25 AM (GMT -7)   
So your saying I just have to let myself have a panic attack? That freaks me out just thinking about it. Plus I'm living with my daddy and stepmomma, plus step brother and my son, while I'm going through this divorce. So I can't exactly go crazy like that in front of them. My daddy and stepmomma have both delt with anxiety so they understand but I just cant (your right) lose control in front of them. I get so terrified during panic attacks that my chest hurts and I cant breath and it makes me physically very sick. And I hate to be sick. (that's one of the things that sets off my anxiety, I think I might be a class A germaphob. ) Anyway, I am willing to try anything to make this go away. I usually have to take a pill to stop crying like crazy. I think that if I were to face a panic attack head on I would have to be in a mental institution and I'm not even joking. I am absolutely hysterical to the point where I think I need to go to the ER. And it takes a whole stinkin lot to get me to even go to the doctor. Just wondering how you handle facing it. Is yours bad like mine? I'm sure all panic attacks are equaly bad but is yours this severe? I honestly don't think I can do that. I think it would literally kill me.
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   Posted 6/21/2008 12:17 PM (GMT -7)   
Thirsty, when I was 19, I was housebound for a year with panic attacks. I was terrified to go anywhere. I went from a fully functional teen who drove everywhere to being in my bed for months, in tears b/c I was afraid of the world, only leaving the house once a week for therapy. And had to be driven there.

One day I just got up and said "this is enough", took my Mom's car and drove to see my therapist on my own. I had a few panic attacks there and back, but I did it. Slowly I started to go out more and then got a part time job.
It took me years to become fully functional again.

I'm now 42 and still have panic but it's been worse this past year since being diagnosed with Lupus and lyme disease. All the meds I had to take for the illness brought on severe panic attacks so I started to be afraid of everything again b/c many days I feel so weak I was worried I was going to faint everywhere. I would still have to drive to work (long drive) and I live alone and had to still do everything I did before.
So before it got out of hand again, I had to stop fearing it and start facing it
I'm nowhere near over it, but I will not allow this to control me again so I decided to "if you can beat them, join em". Embrace it.
The more you resist, the worse it gets.

Are you in therapy at all?
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thirstyforchrist
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   Posted 6/21/2008 2:38 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm not in therapy but I have been in the past. And right now I'm getting a divorce so money is extremly tight. I'm so scared because monday I start work and I'm afraid that I'll have a panic attack there. Hopefully I'll be able to stop it from happening though. Anyway thanks for sharing your story.
"There is hope for every man, a solid place where we can stand, in this dry in weary land, there is hope for every man... Jesus is hope for every man"  -Casting Crowns


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   Posted 6/21/2008 6:38 PM (GMT -7)   
What a great thread, thanks everyone for sharing. I don't embrace anxiety (I want to poke it's eyes out!) but I know it's likely to turn up at some stage so when it does I try and be non-plussed. In my mind I offer it a slice of cake, a chair etc, basicly belittle it(CBT technique). Whenever I feel a panic attack coming on I start the mantra "you can't win, we have been through this before, I always win, so don't even bother". It really works!!!
 
Again, this is a great thread, if we can't stop anxiety, I think it helps to "go along" with it. The harder you fight the worse it gets.
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peacesoul
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   Posted 6/21/2008 7:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Hoping12 said...
peacesoul,
You are following the teachings in a book called "Peace from nervous suffering" by Claire Weekes.
That book teaches you how to let the anxiety be there,and float thru it.
I think you are doing great!
Brian
Hey Brian. I never heard of that book. I have to check that out.

This way of thinking really comes about when one is fed up of the pain of anxiety.
I heard Paula Deen's (the famous cook) story once, and she talked about how she was agoraphobic for close to 20 yrs and housebound. She went from that to being a famous/wealthy chef.
How she did it; she said she was fed up of being controlled by it and got up one day and faced it.
Her story along with so many others (including my best friend and Dad who suffer) gave and gives me the strength to just face this beast instead of always running from it.
Thanks for the kind words and the book ref.
I still struggle daily but will NEVER give up
 
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peacesoul
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   Posted 6/21/2008 7:43 PM (GMT -7)   
nervymeg said...
What a great thread, thanks everyone for sharing. I don't embrace anxiety (I want to poke it's eyes out!) but I know it's likely to turn up at some stage so when it does I try and be non-plussed. In my mind I offer it a slice of cake, a chair etc, basicly belittle it(CBT technique). Whenever I feel a panic attack coming on I start the mantra "you can't win, we have been through this before, I always win, so don't even bother". It really works!!!
 
Again, this is a great thread, if we can't stop anxiety, I think it helps to "go along" with it. The harder you fight the worse it gets.


I like that "you can't win"

My sister used to tell me, every time an attack comes say "Bring it on loser, I'll beat you down"

I used to laugh at that. I said it once out loud in my car and actually laughed out loud. My panic was pretty much gone with the laughing alone.

Any time in life we resistant anything it gets worse. It's like they say, if you're hit by a car and you see it coming, you'll probably break all the bones in your body b/c you're expecting it. If you're hit by a car from behind, you'll prob not break any bones, b/c you never see it coming and your body was not bracing for it.
The same rings true or the "hit" of an anxiety attack


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peacesoul
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   Posted 6/21/2008 7:45 PM (GMT -7)   
thirstyforchrist said...
I'm not in therapy but I have been in the past. And right now I'm getting a divorce so money is extremly tight. I'm so scared because monday I start work and I'm afraid that I'll have a panic attack there. Hopefully I'll be able to stop it from happening though. Anyway thanks for sharing your story.

I'm sorry about your divorce. When my ex and I of 11 yrs ended it, my anxiety got better so maybe yours will also.
Being scared is ok. You will get through Monday and be ok and if you have a panic attack, you will get through that also. Stay very focused and get mad at yourself for being this way. Anger will take you out of this vulnerable place.
Good luck and keep us posted on Monday ok
 
hugs
 
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   Posted 6/21/2008 9:11 PM (GMT -7)   

Peacesoul, You are a remarkable lady and the Claire Weekes book is Pass Through Panic: Freeing Yourself from Anxiety and Fear
by: Claire Weekes.

It is available from Amazon and I believe they have a fair amount of used ones for sale on their site now.  If you click on Books under resource you will be connected to Amazon.com.

I sent you and email earlier today so I hope you received it and figured out who it was from scool

Keep on posting, you have a great way with words and explaining ideas to the members.  You are family and we all love you.

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Kitt


 

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   Posted 6/21/2008 10:52 PM (GMT -7)   

PeaceSoul, you are SO right, we can't stop it, we can just laugh when it happens "oh here you are?!"

Keep up the fight brave soul.


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