I feel your sorrow and I can identify with what you went through too. My biological Mother was killed in a car accident when I was 18 months old. My Dad never got over the accident as he was in the car also but someone else was driving.
We went and lived with my Dad's Mom who was an angel on earth but she was elderly. I loved her dearly. When I was 5 my Dad remarried and my stepmom for many reasons was not a warm and caring Mother. She was very verablly abusive as well as a functional alocholic. However on her behalf when I had my children she accepted them as her grandchildren. It was me she could not love unconditionally.
My therapist explained to me that I was a daughter without a Mother and that set my values when I was young.
I know now that I am ok and I believe that my real Mom would look down and be very proud of me and if she could she would never have left me.
I am sure your Mom would be extremely proud of you and how well you are recognizing your own issues and validating who you really are and that you are a good person.
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety, Panic & Depression *~*
They sure do especially when it's uncalled for.Though I wish I knew my Mother I do OK because there is nothing I can do to bring her back.Oh yes she listened to the mean things that were said about me.They hurt her very much and she knew her Mother would never accept me (she didn't).I saw the Woman twice.Both times at Great-Aunt's Funerals.The last time we had contact was in '85.She died Halloween '90.I say the Witches came and got her.She didn't have an easy or pain free death.
That is so tragic, I am sorry that you lost the chance to get to know your mother, that is something we should all have. It shows what a wonderful person you are that you don't feel anger, but acceptance. I don't know if I could do that. Kudos to you, and again, I sorry that you have had to go through this.
Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 6/23/2008 9:19:56 AM (GMT-6)
I'm the only Heir Dad had and to think those two are acting like these are their things.This is really not a matter of Money or material possessions,it IS my Future without my Family.It is also a means for me to survive until I can finish my Education and provide for myself.
My Father died an unrestful death and getting wrongdoings done against him taken care of is the last thing I can do for him.I WILL see to it that justice is served so Dad can rest in peace.
Thank you.When I was younger,I felt shortchanged and cheated,but I came to accept that it was meant to be this way.I may not understand why now,but I eventually will.I'm sad and it hurts very much that my Mother suffered to have a Family and then couldn't stay to enjoy.