Going on Vacation Anxiety--

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hopeisreal
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   Posted 6/27/2008 4:20 AM (GMT -7)   
I am leaving today for vacation--to a beatiful lake for 5 days!  I should be happy right?  Well, I am somewhat nervous/anxious about it.....
 
With my back being in pain---I am afraid to go!!!!  I won't be able to do a TON of stuff----and am afraid I will be letting people down....especially my hubby! :(
 
Some background:  ever since I was about 8, I would get very anxious (or sick way back when)---when we would go on trips.  My older siblings would call me "cry-baby-trip-hater" for many years---and still bring it up to this day!  I would throw up and cry practically the whole trip b/c I was afraid of the "unknown".....
 
So, although it's just me, hubby and kids going to the lake---I feel anxious that something is going to happen---especially with my back-and I just want to cry!  I am not panicking, but am practicing breathing! :(
 
Help bring me back to the 'good spot'-----sniff, sniff
 
thanks!
 
Laurel

stkitt
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   Posted 6/27/2008 7:08 AM (GMT -7)   

Wow, a vacation.........ok well sweetie your off on an adventure.  I have learned to go slow on vacations and notch down my hurry to do all and get everything perfect.  I am on vacation.........so if hubby takes care of things, it is ok.  You have a bad back.  He knows this and I trust he understands why you must pace yourself.

No rock climbing or hiking tough trails, and hey leave the water skiing to the kids. If you catch a fish make it a little sunfish not a 7 lb big mouth bass. Lift nothing heavier then a glass of something cool to drink.

I had severe anxiety 2 years ago and my hubby and I go on vacation the week of Labor Day.  We got in the car for the 500 mile road trip and at mile marker 75 I was crying to go back home, he said nope.  So I asked him to just talk to me about anything..........just talk.

He did and that really helped.  I did keep asking to go back home but he said nope, you planned this trip and you will be fine.  Made it to the first night's hotel and I was still alive.  Next day went better and in the end I did have  a good time and built memories. 

You are not alone so practice the breathing and tell yourself over and over "I am OK" You will make it and remember, you have nothing to fear but fear itself.

Happy Vacation and try to stay in the moment.  Don't worry about the past and the future will take care of itself.

Hugs to you my friend

Kitt

 


 

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ashleyf3
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   Posted 6/27/2008 12:22 PM (GMT -7)   
Laurel,
 
I am on vacation right now and getting ready to come home tomorrow.  I will admit it has not been easy or quite the picture perfect vacation, but I have gotten to spend a great deal of time with my children and husband and that's what it is all about - right?  My husband forces me to do more than I think I can and most of the time it is good for me.  I have spent about 80 percent of this trip in our room, but that's okay.  I can watch the kids at the pool from our room (my husband is down there with them) and I can see the beach.  I did go down there once for awhile with everyone.  We have played hours and hours of games everyday, watched movies and just hungout - that is what means the most.  I do look at other families and wish I could be "normal", but I know my kids just love spending time with me no matter where or how. 
 
Just go on your vacation and know that no matter what happens your family will be together.  That is what vacations are all about.  We have conditions that sometimes limit what we are able to do, but that doesn't mean that we can't be a part of our family's fun.  Do you best - we have to live our life to the best of our ability.  I pray you have a nice vacation.

Blessings,
Leah
 
 

nervymeg
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   Posted 6/27/2008 6:28 PM (GMT -7)   

Laurel,

Ah, older siblings, they have a lot to answer for don't they?! With childhood memories like that it's lttle wonder you are having anxiety around this. You are doing the right thing with the breathing, keep that up! I would suggest that you imagine yourself already on the holiday, how well it is going, how much fun you are having. Hole onto that image and whenever the negative thoughts come into your head push them gently away. Focus on the positive, have a fabulous time and let u know how you go. Oh and can I come along?!!!

Meg


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angelwings
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   Posted 6/29/2008 5:13 PM (GMT -7)   
I can totally relate to you. I'm leaving on tuesday for vacation. I'm worried about the over 8 hr drive. The place we are staying at is right near a beautiful lake also and every year I have a great time. I had stupid lasik eye surgery a week ago on friday so I'm worried about going away and having any complications. Why can't I just look forward to this vacation and be happy? I hate saying this but why can't I be normal and carefree like everyone else I know.

nervymeg
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   Posted 6/29/2008 7:21 PM (GMT -7)   

Angel,

Anxiety is not a gift, but we beat it everyday by staying strong and sharing our strength and support. I am so glad you are here with us and I hope that you have a fabulous vacation. Stop the car halfway and let anxiety out. It can walk home alone. devil

Laurel, how are you travelling?


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