I am sorry you are struggling. I can not tell you what to do but here is some food for thought.
There are some things you can do to decide if you are in the wrong relationship and if you need to get out.
Is your spouse abusive? If your spouse has abused you in the past, he probably will do so again in the future.
Has your spouse cheated on you? For some people this is unforgivable. If your partner has cheated on you, you need to decide if you will be able to forgive him or not.
Are you happy in the relationship? Sit back for a moment and think to yourself 'Am I happy in my relationship?' If you are happy, then great! If you're not happy then you need to ask another question. Ask yourself 'Can I foresee myself ever being happy in this relationship?'
If you can see yourself being happy if some small changes are made, then it might be worth your effort to get marital counseling. I want to mention here that the small changes must come from inside you. You do not have the power to change anyone else (including your spouse).
Is there anything wrong with Divorce? This is a moral decision you need to decide for yourself.. When people are confronted with the possibility of divorce, they usually think about how other people will judge them morally if they get divorced.
The decision to divorce is never easy, but you do have options. You need to be able to look at your life as whole and decide if it is good or bad. You also need to look at every possible aspect of your relationship with your spouse and see if the good outweighs the bad, or if the bad outweighs the good. Sometimes your judgment is clouded when you only focus on the good or only on the bad. The bottom line is to do what you need to do to have a more fulfilling and happy life.
I hope this helps you in some small way. Bless you my friend and know that your God is watching over you.
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety, Panic & Depression *~*
It sounds like your head is about to explode with all this worrying! I can understand all your concerns, I had the same ones when I was deciding to leave my husband (he fixed it by dissapearing - the louse!). I know that you have recently started a job, so that means you should be able to provide for yourself and your son. I'm sure your family will help you out until you get on your feet. I guess the important question to ask yourself is am I happy when I am with him? Do I want to be living like this in ten years? If the answer is no then you have to go ahead with the divorce. He isn't going to change. Trust me. If he doesn't give you what you have asked for he never will. If you want to stay with him for the sake of your child, know that you will most likely make the child unhappy, because you are unhappy.
All that said, if you love him, truly and want to make it work then do! Just ask youreslf "am I happy with him?". If not go and find someone who appreciates You for You. Now try not to explode honey!!!