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thirstyforchrist
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   Posted 7/1/2008 8:50 AM (GMT -7)   
confused  Okay yall.  I am super confused!  I am still living with my Daddy and I am still working.  I love my job too!  But, my husband and I are going to go on a date on Thursday just to share what we've learned and see if there's anything left of us.  He really is trying and I know he is.  But there is still that huge fear in me that is saying he'll be like he was before.  Things will go back to normal and I will be miserable again.  I am sort of numb to the whole situation right now.  I dont know how I think or feel about all this.  It's almos like it's not real.  I think maybe I'm having like disassotiation or something???  I am finding that I really do like the person I am without him.  But I still love him.  I am sooooooo  confused!! I don't know what to do.  I know it's not time for me to go home to him yet but I really don't have any alone time here at Daddy's.  I never get a day to myself.  Ever!  I think I need to just go away from everything for a while.  But I think then I would be really bored or something.  I have never felt this way about anything in my life. It's almost like I have total peace with the whole situation.  It's either that or I am really turning phsyco now.  What is going on?  It's so frustrating to not know what I want.  I am so  confused.  Maybe I am depressed.  Oh I need help.
"There is hope for every man, a solid place where we can stand, in this dry in weary land, there is hope for every man... Jesus is hope for every man"  -Casting Crowns


nervymeg
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   Posted 7/1/2008 8:32 PM (GMT -7)   

Honey, breathe!!! You are going through so many changes right now and so many different emotions. Be gentle with yourself and just take one day at a time. It sounds like your brain is running off into the next millenium! You are not psycho, just going through turmoil.

Have you thought about keeping a journal? It can really help me get all those thoughts out of my head and on paper..stops me going nutso! If you need to chat, please email me. I hope you have a nice date on thursday no matter what. Just remember to breath!

Meg ((((hugs))))


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peacesoul
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   Posted 7/2/2008 5:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Trying to decide if you want to be in a relationship is a tough one.

Being alone and learning to love being alone is one of the most freeing feelings in the world.
I love "me" as a single person as well. When I was single I did so much more with myself, my anxiety was also a lot less because I had only me to worry about.
 
Don't rush back to any relationship out of bordom. Love is a beautiful thing, but falls very low on the scale of a "functional" relationship.
If your husband is saying he's going to change, it's more likely than not he's going to try to change for you and not for him, in which case he will resort to his old ways in no time. It takes YEARS for someone to change and a lot of hard work.
You can still love your husband and not be in a relationship.
Take your time to make this decision. It's all about you, not anyone else.
 
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stkitt
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   Posted 7/2/2008 6:32 AM (GMT -7)   

Good Morning Thirsty

Perhaps you could just squeeze a few hours in for just you.  Do something you always wanted to do.  It does not have to be extravagant, may a massage, a manicure, walking through the park, a drive in the country. 

I feel that your just over whelmed by all the incoming messages your not sure how to sort them.  Shut off your mind from all the stress for a bit and just let it rest.

Make time for you and remember to love yourself. You are special.

Hug

Kitt


 

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thirstyforchrist
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   Posted 7/2/2008 12:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey everyone!
I just want to say thankyou so much for all the help and support you have given me here. I love all of you!! I am doing better with the anxiety but I still have alot to figure out. I just love all of you. Truly. Your all so sweet and supportive. I don't know what I'd have done if I hadn't came upon this website. Love to all!!!!
"There is hope for every man, a solid place where we can stand, in this dry in weary land, there is hope for every man... Jesus is hope for every man"  -Casting Crowns


Howlyncat
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   Posted 7/2/2008 12:53 PM (GMT -7)   
Thirsty
I think you will be fine
It will always be a LOVE for your hubby I am sure
But perhaps it is that you dont really want a real relationship with him in the marriage way I mean

Have you thought that thru ??
I am just wondering as I do love Howie always will but I will and cannot live with him anymore

Just food for thougth and I too would not know where I would be w/o the ppl and this forum

Luvs
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nervymeg
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   Posted 7/2/2008 9:21 PM (GMT -7)   

TFC,

I hope things go well for you on Thursday, that you get some questions answered. I will be thinking of you, let us know how things go, and come on for some support if you need...bless

Meg


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