Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 7/3/2008 11:07:40 AM (GMT-6)
I wish you the best tonight and I hope at the end of the evening you have a better idea of which direction your life is headed.
Please do leave the "what ifs" at home. Just be you which is my mind is a kind, caring and very determined young woman. One step at a time, OK?
I agree going to a visitation is a good thing to do for your friend's family.
Bless you and relax, life has a way of working out.
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety, Panic & Depression *~*
I trust that you will make the right decision for you and your son. Having recently been confronted with an abusive ex-husband (as I now think of him) I cannot help but be concerned for you putting yourself back in there if he hasn't changed. Having said that I believe you are a smart compassionate woman who will look after herself. Yes you!
If you decide to start up again with this relationship then please do it slowly, build up the trust and make sure he has changed all those behaviours that made you want to leave.
Regardless, you will be okay. You have family support, you have a lovely son, and you have us too of course! Please let us know how you go and know how much we care. I worry about you. Please email me if you need, and of course;
good luck and have fun hon!
What a fun date, you made memories, you went to a visitation, your dress strap broke, and you got pulled over by the pokice.......... .
I am glad you went and that you have recognized for you this is going to be a slow process. You are very wise young lady.
How nice of you to attend the funeral. Hug those little guys, they need it. Death is hard to face at every age. We sometimes forget the kids as we don't give them credit for understanding what has happened. Bless your heart for being there.
What a date! Wow, and you got a new dress too sweetie! Bonus! Sorry about the funeral, I know that can be tough on everyone, regardless of how close you are to the deceased. Please let us know how you are feeling .. we raelly care
Thirsty, Big deep breath and let it out. Let all the anxiety go..........the world never stays the same, time keeps moving and God does not grant us everything we pray for. If he did we would all be happy, no wars or famines, no floods or hurricanes, no need for nurses and Doctors. I think you know this, you are just upset right now.
Remember God helps those who help themselves and I frequently offer my prayers for the survivors of the patient that died of cancer. So He is listening to your prayers. I know this man would have wanted all to gather around his family.
Your feeling overwhelmed right now so stop the thinking and let go of the spinning thoughts, get off the merry-go-round for a bit and just sit quietly.
In the famous words of a wise man, "My Momma always said, life is like a box of chocolates........"
Honey, your brain is going whirlygig again! Try and write these thoughts down (in my opinion it helps)...and rate them as what needs to be addressed today and what can wait. Don't let yourself become so overwhelmed, it sounds like you are a sweet beautiful soul and I would hate to see you be taken advantage of for being so caring.
As Lyn suggested, slow, gentle steps are the best way to go. We don't get to choose who we fall in love with...
But we can choose self respect. I hope that you feel a little better soon..