Sister Friend and my Xanax

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Sydnee10
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   Posted 7/4/2008 8:01 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm sorry,but I decided to post out of the thread started for me.
 
Seems I may have a problem with my Sister Friend and the 2 MG Xanax my Doctor prescribed me.
 
Yesterday she mentioned that she will occasionally ask for 2 MG Bar Xanax from me when she has her own Xanax.
 
She asked her Psychiatrist for 2 MG,but he wouldn't prescribe.He is suspicious of a dependency problem (she has one).
 
She is prescribed 1 MG Xanax QID (4 times Daily) and is given 120 Tablets Monthly.
 
She takes 2-3 per Day or as many as 6..she doesn't follow orders and is non-compliant.
 
My Doctor wrote my scrip for 2 MG TID (3 times Daily) at 90 Tablets per Month.
 
Yes she gave me Xanax,but only because I couldn't walk out my front Door,walk down the sidewalk and get into a Vehicle to renew my Drivers License and go to Doctor in order to get Medication.
 
I do not feel bad,guilty or that I did something wrong when I took Xanax before.It was either this,or stay stuck in my Home.I had to go to the Doctor because a Doctor wouldn't come to me.
 
If she didn't have Medicine of her own and I knew she had taken Xanax before maybe it would be different,but I can not give her my Medicine.
 
If she wants 2 MG's then she can take 2 1 MG of her own..
 
 
 


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   Posted 7/4/2008 8:11 AM (GMT -7)   

Hey there Sydnee,

I would suspect your friend is asking for yours as she may be using hers up and cannot get it refilled until it's due date.  So she is attempting to get more by borrowing from you. You are right to say no or your RX will run out ahead of refill date.

Using the one she gave you is different than her expecting you to contribute to her monthly supply.

I am proud of you for holding the line on this issue.

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Sydnee10
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   Posted 7/4/2008 8:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Kitt,
She just saw her Psychiatrist June 18..she sees him Monthly,so she shouldn't run out unless her other Sister Friend keeps asking for Xanax.
The other Sister Friend doesn't have Panic Disorder or Agoraphobia.She Medicates in order to sleep and for Depression.Xanax is the wrong Drug of choice,but she is addicted and dependent on it.Her Family had her chart red flagged,so she can't get Xanax,Pain Medication,or any form of controlled substances..


 


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   Posted 7/4/2008 8:53 AM (GMT -7)   

Sydnee,

Thanks for explaining that to me..........so the meds are being shared and they would like you to contribute.  I am so proud of you for not getting into this as it only leads to trouble.  In the end someone comes up short on pills if they take more then prescribed or give them away when they need their own meds.

Besides it is not right to take others meds on a regular basis.  Someone could overdose.

I am glad you have good common sense not to get into this game.

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Sydnee10
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   Posted 7/4/2008 9:09 AM (GMT -7)   
Kitt,
My Sister Friend didn't mind giving me Xanax,however it greatly bothers her that her other Sister Friend asks because she ends up feeling used.The SF doesn't go over and visit much nor do they go places together..it seems all she wants is Xanax and then doesn't keep in touch until she needs more..my SF told me her other SF swallows 5 Xanax at a time!The Woman has had Seizures from mixing and matching Medication..


 


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   Posted 7/4/2008 11:29 AM (GMT -7)   
I understand you having the need to "Borrow " the xanax to get to the doctor
THERE is where it should have ended IMHO

Legal ,moral issues could very well come out of all this

What if the one SF decides to call or report to your PDOC that you are giving her meds that were RX to you
YOu never know what runs thru an addicts head
ESPECIALLY when they know where or who has the meds they want

Just a thought

I know this is totally illegal in Canada
Have a zero tolerance for it

I had given my ex a couple of my pain meds til his were due ..same meds in fact
'WE have the same doc and I figure ok no prob
WELLLL was I wrong on that
I was given proper hades and told NEVER to do that again
'To call him ( doc) and he would order his meds a couple of days early
He is not an addict he has severe leg pain from many operations and injuries

I wish you well in all of this and I too have to say I am proud you have stood your ground so far
Please do continue for your own safety and protection

LYN

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No I am not ATTACKING you hun just letting you know we all have to watch what is said

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percycat
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   Posted 7/4/2008 12:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Sydnee,

Bravo for you. Yes, stay out of that mess. You're doing the right thing, and I'm proud.

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   Posted 7/4/2008 8:26 PM (GMT -7)   

Sydnee, I am so happy you are back!! That post wasn't meant to stop you from raising new topics, we mods just worry about bandwidth sweetie, k?

You have done the right thing. I let my ex hubbie take my xanax for recreational use (many moons ago!) and all it did was make me look like a "druggie" when I had to explain why my prescription was finished so early. Look after you, look after your self respect and don't give in (oh I'm giving advice - sorry)!!! Do what you feel is right for you and know we support you.

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Howlyncat
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   Posted 7/5/2008 7:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Nothing wrong with your advice megs

I hope Sydnee knows and understands we are not ganging up on her
'JUST worried about what is going on

Stand your ground hun and we are PROUD of you

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peacesoul
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   Posted 7/5/2008 8:19 AM (GMT -7)   
Sydnee, I would like to suggest something. When you get well again, and you will, you not only need to change your life, but the toxic people you associate with. Being around positive independent people is all part of the recovery process.
This friend of yours is trouble, sure she may help you and be sweet, but she's toxic.

Good for you for standing your ground. If she has a drug addiction, she'll need to get her "stash" elsewhere. She is totally wrong to have even asked you.

Personally, I don't know how anyone can even think or be normal with that much xanax. Most I ever took in a day was 1 mg and I was a zombie. Being a zombie does not equate to healing

good luck, we're here for you. Focus on getting well not on these people


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   Posted 7/5/2008 8:42 AM (GMT -7)   
peacesoul
Great input and you are spot on with what you are saying
I learned when I quit drinking I had to change all friends they only wanted the drunk Lyn ya know and the one that always supplied the booze

The same applies here for you Sydnee
WE truly do care about YOU

Ya know I can take 10 mg valium BUT as far as xanax goes I am not good on that AT all

I dont know why but I am like a zombie on one

I am rx 15 mg of valium at am and pm .........PRN

I have not been taking as many as I was when broken out and fighting with family

* I sure hope we get answer soon :)*

Take care and have a great wknd
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   Posted 7/5/2008 1:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Lyn...congrats on being sober. That is tough work. :-)

When I got out of a VERY destuctive relationship with this guy 3 1/2 yrs back, I knew I needed to change my life and it knew it was going to be a slow prcoess.
I went into codependency therapy for 6 months and slowly (well in a month period) walked away from the majority of my friends.
My friends were not bad people, just toxic to me. I even cut off my family for a few months. That was TOUGH! Middle of winter and I was totally alone for months. I went from having a ton of friends to having not a soul.
I had friends who I knew for 30 yrs who I had to walk away from. Some were low life thieves. liars (I HATE LIARS), some were alcoholics etc. I seem to attrack desperate people, maybe because of my anxiety, I always felt comfortable around people who were "less than me" so I could control them.

And still all this time later I work on finding healthy people. I've found a few and still keep a healthy distance. I've not spoken to one of the friends I walked away from. They tried to call me and I never returned their calls. Best thing I ever did.


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   Posted 7/5/2008 4:10 PM (GMT -7)   
Sydnee, Peacesoul, and All,

I had to cut two people out of my life as well. One just didn't get the message until I stopped replying to emails, phone messages, etc., cold. Another still sends me generic emails as part of a forwarded list of friends, but I never respond.

One of these toxic people was a severe narcissist, and even making a call to explain that I wanted no more contact with him would have been giving him the "feed" he used me for all the time. So after one final argument, that was it; I didn't even acknowledge any contact from him after that. It felt cruel, but it was the right thing to do, and the right way to do it in his case.

percycat

Sydnee10
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   Posted 7/5/2008 4:26 PM (GMT -7)   
Lyn,
If I hadn't borrowed Xanax from her,I would still be in my House.It DID end with my borrowing,but she mentioned occasionally getting 2 MG's of my Xanax.I ask that ya'll please understand that just because she asked for my Medication doesn't mean I will give.
She recently asked her Dr. for 2 MG Bars and he refused.He obviously suspected a Drug/Dependency problem because he asked for a Urine sample.
My Sister Friend has physical pain for which she takes prescription pain Medications.If 1 doesn't work she takes more.
She already takes Xanax,Cymbalta and Phenergan.She doesn't take Medication as directed.

 

 


 


Sydnee10
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   Posted 7/5/2008 4:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Meg,
I was stuck in a very bad predicament with no possible way out.It was either get a few Xanax from her,or continue being stuck to my House.I don't know where you live,but here in America Doctor's don't make Housecalls anymore.It is very difficult to get Doctor's to understand Agoraphobia.Awareness needs to be raised.My Sister Friend is probably upset that her Doctor refused to increase her Xanax.


 


Sydnee10
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   Posted 7/5/2008 4:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Peacesoul,
I know about toxic People.Already written off 3 toxic Friends.Yes she is toxic,however I see something good in her too.
My Friend hasn't had an easy life,but for the most part she brought some of it on herself.Like continuing to stay in an Abusive Marriage when she had the means to earn herself a living to support her Children.
Oh and get this..she told me earlier today not to take a full 2 MG..to score it..isn't how the Doctor write the orders..
This is the first 2 MG bar Xanax Prescription I've had.I've taken 1 MG,.05 MG and 0.25 MG.
My Doctor told me he really doesn't care for Xanax,but he read my chart and felt it was needed at this time.
 

 


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   Posted 7/5/2008 7:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Sweetie, 2 mgs a day is a lot of drugs. It's just going to make you feel dazed.
Start slow and see if you can handle things with a lower dose. Withdrawal from xanax is a nightmare so you want to start slow and get off slow.

Just so you know, when I was housebound and at my worst, I didn't need a drop of medication to get me out of the house again. You would be surpised how your own "want" works a lot better than any med

When I need it, I take a 1/2 of a .25 a day. And that works for me. Don't be fooled by the magical powers of meds, the magical powers come right from inside you.

Please start them slowly
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   Posted 7/7/2008 7:39 AM (GMT -7)   
I totally agree
I was alowed up to 4 10 mg valium plus ativan daily and although I wasnt a zombie I was realy not self
I talked to my doc and slowly have weaned self off

Sydnee
I know why you did what you did hun
'I am proud of you for standing your ground I really am
Sister friend is USING you for the meds she thinks she will be able to get

She is on alot of meds

TOXIC for you IMHO

Stay strong hun

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Sydnee10
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   Posted 7/7/2008 9:55 AM (GMT -7)   

Peacesoul,

Thank you for your concern..

I have taken Ativan,Xanax,Klonopin,Valium and was slowly weaned from each Drug.I realize 2 MG's is a lot,but I NEED a higher dosage for the time being.I have been Housebound over 5 + Years and dealt with a LOT of crap from Family since my Father died.

Had a really really really rough go of things,so need something to calm me enough until I feel comfortable and "safe" enough to go it alone.

 


 


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   Posted 7/7/2008 10:06 AM (GMT -7)   

Sydnee,

I was on Valium 40 mg per day and it took me 11 months to wean off it extremely slowly so I would not have rebound or severe side effects.

I really would like to see you doing some sort of therapy as it is well known that treatment for anxiety works best using  medications and therapy.  Without the therapy you just taking medications which won't change how you deal with the anxiety.

I know you are against therapy but from your list of meds you have run the gambit of benzos although there are some you have not tried but they all work in a similiar way.  Valium has the longest half life and that makes it the better all around med IMHO.

Remember you have anxiety, it does not have you.

Take care
Kitt


 

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