I am so sorry your daughter is going through this but if her husband is abusive then she may be making the best choice for her. You must take care of you first. Let her know you are there for her and you do support her so she will come and talk to you as we all need someone to talk to and who better then a Mom.
Remember we do not know what goes on behind closed doors so she may not be telling all simply to protect you or because she feels ashamed for having been a victim.
When I got divorced many years ago it was taboo and my step Mother told me I could not until my youngest was 18 years old..........he was only 18 months old. It was my Father that finally stood beside me and said enough is enough. I was his only child and my ex was very abusive verbally and threatening but he knew better then to touch me..............He was just into wrecking things and acting out. Then he made the mistake of calling me a ***** to my Father............it was over, finally. My Dad was a Saint but no one would say that to his face about me and then beg me to stay with him so my Dad said let her go and leave her alone.
Long answer short...........let your daughter do what she needs to do and just be there and stay healthy. I know it breaks you heart to see your child in pain.
Many gentle hugs
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety, Panic & Depression *~*
I'm so sorry you are going through this difficult situation. I guess I have always held the belief that in order to be a good parent we need to take care of ourselves first. But the natural instinct is to care for your child. I think you need to let her get through this, but let her know she is Never alone. That you love and support her. I'm sure she knows this, but if she knows she can talk things through with you then it will help her immensely.
It really sounds to me that you are doing all that you can and being a great mother. Just try and take a step back when you need. Make sure your health comes first, you can get through this, I believe that. My own mum has had to pull me through some pretty sticky situations, and her health suffered but she would tell me "time out" and I would give her space to recover. I wish you and your daughter and grandchildren all the best. It's hard, but it's worth it.
I hope today is better for you. I have toes and fingers all a'crossed! Take care of you now.
Good Morning Nanners,
How are you today. Are you working on staying in the moment and taking care of you first. You are a very special person and we need you here with us so hope the sun is shining down on you and blessing you with good feelings this morning.
Gentle Hugs to you sweetie.Kitt