I really have to ask, and you don't need to answer, you can email me if you prefer, but does he abuse you physically? If I am out of line I sincerely apologise, but if he abuses you in any way then it is just not on. I was married to an abusive addict for several years and he could be the most wonderful person in the world. Sometimes. The next day
Okay, serious stuff aside..Have you ever tried counselling? The "when you say this it makes me feel.." is a wonderful way to communicate without blame, but sometimes if you have a mediator (counsellor) then it can forces hubbie to listen. Anxiety is enough to deal with, without having to tiptoe around his issues. It's hard work!! If you want to change anything in yourself I would say..don't put up with it. If he starts being condescending, just tell him "I'm not willing to put up with you in this mood" and walk away. Often people don't realise that they are taking out their frustrations on the wrong person. I'm guilty of it after a bad day..but if it makes you feel unsafe then you need to take some action. let him know how it impacts on your life. Take care, and please, put yourself and your children first.
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety, Panic & Depression *~*