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Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/2/2008 10:22 PM (GMT -7)   
Couple of Month's ago,I had an Abscess on L side of my private area (am saying private area since there are minors visiting the site)..1-1/2-2 Weeks later another cropped up only on the R side near my private area.The matter in both Abscesses was a light Cocoa color.
 
She and I were talking about the R Abscess earlier Today (she helped open,drain and doctor it).She told me it smelled like Cancer,so now I'm scared out of my mind I have Cancer.
 
Mind you she has Anxiety,Panic Disorder and was housebound Agoraphobic 4 Years (still has Agoraphobic tendencies),however doesn't have HA (Health Anxiety).
 
Sometimes I wonder if she says scary stuff to scare me when she knows I have HA..she'll say,"Sydnee you've came so far."or "Sydnee 1 Year ago you couldn't talk about spooky stuff or death."
 
It doesn't bother her if People who come over to her House don't call in advance to let her know they are coming and if someone asks her on short notice to go somewhere she can.I am the total opposite.
 
If/when she comes over she just comes and knocks catching me off guard instead of calling beforehand and giving me time to prepare.
 
Few Day's ago she called waking me from a dead sleep and asked if I wanted to go to Town with her Daughter.Said her Daughter would drop me off at the Courthouse as I need to research Land Records.
 
I was totally unprepared with notes on Land descriptions etc.I hadn't showered,dressed or eaten Breakfast yet.It's like she doesn't get it since this don't affect her..
 
I am really scared that I have some major form of killer Cancer..I'm scared to death of sickness and death,but she isn't..she wants to die..
 
 
 
 


thirstyforchrist
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   Posted 8/2/2008 10:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Sydnee.
I just posted a terribly long post about my terror of stomach bugs. I know how you feel sweety. I am terrified right now. I dont think it could be cancer though. And you cant smell it anyway. I had the same thing you have a couple of years ago and it was a cyst. I took antibiotics and it went away. I still get them alot and I just pick them and they go away on their own. Dont worry about it. And if you cant get your mind off of it I would go to the doctor and have him/her check it out and put your mind at ease. I hope you feel better. I'll pray for you honey. Say one for me too if ya dont mind. Love to you!
Rachel
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Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/2/2008 10:57 PM (GMT -7)   

Rachel,

I have always been prone to Boils,so must have a Systemic Staph problem.Either that,Anemia or perhaps even Stress coz I've sure had enough of that for a long time.

I was told by my late Grandmother and Step-Mother when we have Boils,it is a sign of poor Blood and to eat Raisins.

Did you mean we can't smell Cancer?I worked at a Health Facility with a few Cancer Patients and YES Cancer can be smelled,but the Abscesses I had smelled like Infection.

I will keep you in my Prayers and hope you feel much better soon..

Hugs,

Sydnee


 


AZGrandma
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   Posted 8/4/2008 9:24 PM (GMT -7)   

Sydnee,

Sweetie, I think I must have come in on the end of your post.  Who, may I ask, is this person ( with the terrible social skills) to whom you are referring?

It's is not your doctor, I hope! But please, please, please....a doctor is THE ONLY person that should be helping you with the type of problem you described ( at least a health care professional working at the direction of a doctor). Yes, infections that are the result of cancer can be smelled. Additionally, research is proving that some animals (notablely dogs) can smell the actual cancer virus itsself!!

But you have 2 problems - maybe 3...why are you allowing yourself to be mentally, and maybe phyisically intemidated by any person, in the manor you have described> Get some real help, sweetie. Quickly, before these people hurt you more than they already have done.

Blessings,

AZGrandma

 


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stkitt
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   Posted 8/4/2008 9:33 PM (GMT -7)   

Sydnee,

As far as your friend, just tell her no when you are not prepared to go someplace with her and you do not have to give an explanation.

If you have a physical problem as you described you need to see your physician and do not start buying into that you have cancer and you can smell it.  Your sister friend is not a physician or does she have any medical training......

As far as hospital  and nursing home smells they are due to a multitude of things. Take a deep breath and know you will be ok.

Hugs to you
Kitt 


 

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   Posted 8/5/2008 5:51 AM (GMT -7)   
I totally agree
SEE your doctor

This person is toxic IMHO for you and is not a true friend
if she continues to cause you more problems than you have or adds to them

BTW.....I dont smell and ...........
Yes I do and am fighting C

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badgenetics1
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   Posted 8/6/2008 3:50 AM (GMT -7)   
Only highly trained canines can smell cancer, they have a sense of smell 1000Xgreater than ours. Somethimes women get cysts or boils on the bikini line due to waxing, shaving or an ingrown hair. I know a girl that had this pretty badly. She had to fo to Dr. to have it drained and was on antibiotics, her hair never grew back!

thirstyforchrist
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   Posted 8/6/2008 7:19 AM (GMT -7)   
Sydnee.
How are you? Has your sore gotten better? I hope that you went to see your doctor. I'm sure everything will turn out fine. How have you been feeling lately? And as far as that friend goes. Do you think she does that stuff to you on purpose? If she knows how you will react if she were a good friend she wouldn't say those things to you. Or make you do something that makes you uncomfortable. She may need to go. I hope that you can tell her how you feel. Be honest and if she gets mad then she wasn't really your friend to begin with. We are all here for you. We are a big happy, well we try to be happy, family here. Love to you Sweet Sydnee!
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Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/7/2008 4:55 AM (GMT -7)   

AZGrandma,

My Sister Friend is whom I was referring.When I had the Abscess I was still Housebound Agoraphobic and could not get to a Doctor.I haven't been diagnosed with Cancer.Sister Friend told me the matter that came from the Abscess smelled like Cancer.It smelled like PURE NASTY Infection to me!I honestly think she enjoys scaring me.On the other Hand she "thunks" before she thinks..



 


Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/7/2008 5:01 AM (GMT -7)   

Kitt,

When she called she woke me from a sound sleep,so I didn't have proper chance to tell her I was unprepared.After waking,having a hot shower and breakfast and we spoke again I told her I was not prepared to go.

I have been out away from Home 4 times since May 30.At my Doctor's Appointment,I didn't have enough time to discuss everything and haven't scheduled another appointment due to lack of Transportation.

When I had the Abscess and she came over and looked at it she was like freaking out and told me it had 7 heads on it.I don't think it had more than 2,but a lot of Infection came out and it did smell,but most Infections DOES smell!

I worked at a Medical Facility.Trust me when you walk into a known Cancer Patients room you can smell it..



 

Post Edited (Sydnee10) : 8/7/2008 6:10:55 AM (GMT-6)


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   Posted 8/7/2008 9:32 AM (GMT -7)   

Sydney,

Thank you for explaining..................7 heads, sounds like a sea creature.......my husband watches to many monster movies lol.  No insult to you or your friend intended.  I am glad the abcess drained. :-)

In reference to Cancer Facilities, your talking to a CCRN of 26 years and I lost my father and all of my aunts and uncles to cancer.

My step mother also had breast cancer and did not go to the doctor so it grew and eventually was an open wound...................no smell.  So I guess it depends on where you have been working.

Now you want to talk about being able to smell certain diseases I can talk that easily........................but you have a right to your own opinions.  :)

So I will agree to disagree on smelling cancer. My husband also has cancer.

Sincerely

Kitt


 

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   Posted 8/7/2008 12:29 PM (GMT -7)   
Totally agree with you Lil sis

TTY in the am I tried to call you yesterday and I left message for you ......

Will call you tomorrow
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Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/8/2008 2:05 AM (GMT -7)   

Kitt,

Your welcome..she over-exaggerated a bit (she does that sort of stuff)..I am glad it drained to coz it hurt REALLY bad!

Yes,I know you are a retired Nurse and I'm sorry to read you've lost a number of Family members to Cancer.

The two Cancer Patients that stick out in my mind had advanced Bladder and Ovarian Cancer.It smelled..

I'm very sorry about your Husband.I will pray that his Body will be healed from such a horrible and painful Disease.



 


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   Posted 8/8/2008 5:56 AM (GMT -7)   
Sydnee,
Ovarian Cancer (my mother has it) does not manifest in a smelly way until the end stages and I assure you any person in that situation would have to be in the hospital at that stage because it is pain beyond belief. The signs and symptoms are internal until the very end stage, you get abcesses from sitting or lying in the same position for some time (i.e. bedsores, or some other action like an ingrown hair or infection).
 
Since you are basically housebound I am assuming you are sitting in the same place alot of the time. It also could be something from just sitting in the same spot and you skin was just too delicate in that area.

So your plan is
1. go to the doctor
2. stop talking to this person she is not healthy for you.


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Post Edited (MMMNAVY) : 8/8/2008 7:00:29 AM (GMT-6)


Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/9/2008 9:35 AM (GMT -7)   

MMMNavy,

I am very sorry to hear your Mother is sick.The 2 Women I spoke of were placed by their Families in the Medical Facility I worked and were under Hospice care.The Cancer's they suffered were end stage and I won't go into detail the severity one of the Women suffered.

I am not so much Housebound anymore.Though I don't go somewhere Daily,I still get outside.I believe I am a natural born Staph carrier as I've always had a tendency to have Boils,but also believe my System is in need of a cleanse/detox..

Yes,I realize the Relationship with my Sister Friend is not Healthy,however if I give up on her,it would be like someone giving up on me.She has her own set of problems like me and everyone else.Through it all I try and see the goodness she does possess.


 


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   Posted 8/10/2008 9:22 AM (GMT -7)   
Sydnee,

My therapist has had good advice for me about dealing with toxic people/situations that I can't or don't choose to cut off: set clear boundaries. I have a hard time with that, but she often reminds me that setting a boundary for yourself is not encroching on anybody else's rights or privileges. You're not doing anything wrong to somebody else when you establish boundaries about what's good or not good for you.

Good luck, and I think you're right to consider less frightening options for your health problem. If you've not been out for many years, you many want to put getting a gyno exam on your list of goals to work toward. That's something that's good for all of us gals, and it would be a clear outside goal to work toward, and that would help you clear up these boils once and for all someday.

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