Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 9/2/2008 7:32:48 AM (GMT-6)
Hello and Welcome to HealingWell,
You need to be able to look at your life as whole and decide if it is good or bad. You also need to look at every possible aspect of your relationship with your girlfriend and see if the good outweighs the bad, or if the bad outweighs the good. Sometimes your judgment is clouded when you only focus on the good or only on the bad. The bottom line is to do what you need to do to have a more fulfilling and happy life.
IMHO, I think you are both in a bad place right now and you need to let go of this person. You are setting yourself up for more pain and heartache by trying to hang on.
Learn how to take care of you and become healthy, see your physician, a therapist and seek help at dealing with your anxiety and pannic.
I hope this helps you see the light and realize you are a good person and you are just in need of professional help.
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 8/7/2008 2:50:56 PM (GMT-6)
Well its been almost a month since I posted
Last week we officially broke up - we had always been open and honest yet she kept dangling the carrot in front of me.
After a 3 1/2 hour phone conversation she admitted that she had an attraction to someone else - and then told me she was going to break it off and that she loved me
Well one thing led to another and it was actually her friends that said to her that she had been deceiving me
I told her I knew all along - I could feel it - Im very sensitve like that
But big picture stuff is that she has some real issues to deal with too and I hope she finds some clarity
So for the last week I have had the biggest anxiety attacks cuz it sooo hard to let go from someone that you really love - she says she doesnt love me which hurts and hence Ive had the biggest pitter party -but now starting to feel a bit better
I know I have to deal with my anxiety again and are getting help
Thanks so much for letting me vent here - Even when she came yesterday to collect her things I couldnt stop thinking how much I love her
Onwards and upwards - I know there will be dark days - but writing here really helps
Thank you all for your comments and advice
I know you are in pain right now but you did the right thing. It takes trust to build a relationship and this was lacking in this relationship so I am glad you have cut your ties with this person.
Some things that may help lower your stress are:
Getting enough rest (at least 8 hours a day)
Meditation (sitting quietly with your thoughts)
Listening to gentle music
Taking a warm bath
Going for walks
Regular exercise that you are used to doing
Take care and keep talking to us, we will help you through the tough days ahead.
Welcome to HealingWell. We do have a thread for "newbies" to post an intro about themselves. I believe it is called new peeps. It is not mandatory but if you would like to share, we would love to get to know you better.