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Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/10/2008 9:32 PM (GMT -7)   
This problem doesn't create Anxiety,however irritates because it's rude.I'll be talking with a Friend on Telephone and our conversations (every conversation when they are around) are intruded by a 12 Year old and 2 Adults aged 19 and 23.They are in want of every second of attention.If this happens to any of ya'll..how does it make you feel and what would you do?
 


badfish
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   Posted 8/11/2008 5:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Lol from my experience girls wana spend every second of their attention on the phone to their friends n aint no1 gettin in the wait of tht. Tell them u need half hour to yourself there old enough to undastand
 


thirstyforchrist
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   Posted 8/11/2008 6:04 AM (GMT -7)   
Are they your kids or your friends? If they are yours then by all means tell them to go away while your on the phone. But if they are your friends kids then there's not much you can do. A mother will always take up for her kids no matter how old they are. Is there somewhere you can meet her without her kids being around? Or, if you really need to talk to her on the phone, ask her if she's busy first and then ask her if she can go somewhere quiet and private so yall can have a deep heart to heart. She may not be able to do this. But understand that if they are her kids, they will come first. It is hard being interupted, especially when you really need to talk about something serious. Just try and be paitent with them. They should be able to understand where you are coming from and be nice about it. If you seem to get nowhere with this friend then try calling her at a time when you know the kids will not be there. Or ask her to tell you a better time to call when she can be alone. No matter how old children get, they still are kids to their parents. So they probly feel entitled to say what they want when they want to. Which sometimes can get rude. Try not to sweat it. Do you have kids?
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   Posted 8/11/2008 8:40 AM (GMT -7)   

Reminder to all:

17. No irrelevant or off-topic posts. Posts which are not relevant to the forum topic may be deleted at the moderator's discretion.
 
I am leaving this post but in the future please avoid Off topic posts.
 
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Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/11/2008 6:59 PM (GMT -7)   

Kitt,

I posted because it upsets me so much that I COULD have Anxiety.I never know if my Friend is talking to me,her 12 Year old Granddaughter,23 year old Daughter or her Daughter's 19 Year old Partner!



 


stkitt
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   Posted 8/11/2008 9:20 PM (GMT -7)   

Hey Sydnee,

I left the post in place, and I understand your reason for posting it. No problems. Just a gentle reminder smilewinkgrin

Kitt


 

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Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/11/2008 11:30 PM (GMT -7)   
No Problems..thanks
 


Howlyncat
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   Posted 8/12/2008 9:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Blatantly ask who is on the phone and IF nono
it is not who you are supposed to be talking to
IN PRIVATE then ask them very NICELY N FIRMLY
to get off while you talk is what I would be doing


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Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/15/2008 4:15 AM (GMT -7)   

Lyn,

This goes on at my Friends House.If her 12 Year old Granddaughter,Adult Daughter or her Daughter's Partner are there they intrude by talking with or asking my Friend questions whilst we are conversing on Telephone.It bothers me,because it's rude and disrespectful!


 


getting by
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   Posted 8/15/2008 6:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Maybe that is just the way that it is there. You might have to go along with it, or if it bothers you that much, stop calling her. Not everybody is the same, it could be that she is on the phone a lot and lets her everyday life intermingle with that. Some people are like that. Though it bothers you, it might not be a problem for her. Then you have to decide if you are going to deal with it or not. Have you told her that you would like to have more private conversation? She might not even realize that it bothers you. Talk to her about it.

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Howlyncat
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   Posted 8/16/2008 6:05 AM (GMT -7)   
HI again
I am really funny about this
It seems some ppl think as soon as you get on the phone its okay to butt in
Especially toddlers and young ones....teens .lol
NO it is NOT
Regardless of whose house this is
I would really ask your friend
To talk to them and ask them to kindly NOT
Interrupt your calls
That is very rude IMHO

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Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/17/2008 10:43 PM (GMT -7)   

Karen,

My Friend let her 23 Year old Daughter and her Partner move (rent free) into her other House.Well,her Daughter lost her Job and her Partner quit her Job (they won't keep a Job),so they had no Money to pay the bills.Friends Daughter told her Mothe she lost her Job because her Boss discriminated against her because she is a ***.I'm really not buying.The Daughter is a drama Queen and can out do any Daytime Soap!She and her Partner are also lazy.After losing and quitting their Jobs they wound back up at my Friends House.It obviously bothers my Friend that they intrude as I've heard her tell them many times,"I'm on the Phone."


 


Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/17/2008 10:46 PM (GMT -7)   

Lyn,

I can come more understanding a Toddler butting in,but a 12,19 and 23 Year old should know better.The 12 Year old Granddaughter has some form of behavioral problem and doesn't listen or pay attention.With my Friend,I can't always express my thoughts or how I feel about particular things,because she is a "get on the defensive real quick" type Person.


 


getting by
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   Posted 8/18/2008 7:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Sydnee,

I hope that your friend talks to these other people so that you can have conversations without interuption.

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Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/19/2008 3:36 AM (GMT -7)   

Karen,

Last Night my Friend and I were talking and her loud Mouthed Daughter was laughing up a storm.You can hear her laugh from here to California!THEN she started playing the Piano,so interupted by asking her Mother questions about the Notes/Key's..it was like a full fledged Piano lesson for 10-20 minutes.I was getting "bent out of shape" and should have said,"Well,since you are giving your rude attention seeking drama Queen Daughter a Piano lesson I'll hang up and maybe we can talk later like when they go back to the House you let them move into."BUT instead of being rude,I held the line..


 


stkitt
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   Posted 8/19/2008 6:32 AM (GMT -7)   

My best advice on this topic is to tell your friend to call you back when she is not busy. Do this in an assertive manner and not in an aggresive mode.

We've all been in situations where someone's behavior is rude or inconsiderate, and telephone use seems to be an area where many people forget their otherwise good manners.

Good luck and take care
Kitt

 


 

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getting by
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   Posted 8/19/2008 9:03 AM (GMT -7)   
I agree with Kitt on this, tell her that she should call you back when she isn't so busy. This is just frustrating you when you have to hold the line. I agree this is very rude and you should not have to go through this ordeal everytime you have a conversation.

Hopefully she will get the hint.

Good luck with this,

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