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Pamela Neckpain
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   Posted 8/12/2008 8:22 PM (GMT -7)   
I hope I'm on topic here. I do have Anxiety Disorder and with that comes Depression. This problem fits
"kinda" in this area.
Here's the problem: My daughter is 30. She has two cute little kids. She is overpleased with herself
with her yacht and seaside cabin, etc. Do you have the picture?
She has a friend who is a world traveler and they both were raised in the same town. Same age.
Mr daughter's friend, I'll call her Crystal has a new face page. She writes to my daughter and says,
"I love you. I miss you sooo much." This sentiment comes all the way from Australia.
I guess this got to be a little too much for Crystal's Mom and Mom said, "I don't think you should express
so much love in your posts. Your other friends might get jealous."
Crystal was insensed with her mother and felt that she had no business making such a statement. Crystal
apparently doesn't like her mother anymore for getting involved in this.

Now my problem: My daughter said, "I'm not going to send you my Face Page but I know you wouldn't say
something like that. Thing is: I feel the sentiment of "I love you" should be private -- between the two
lovers. I'm just like Crystal's mother!
I don't think the two are ***s. I wouldn't be upset if they were. But there are a lot of kids involved
both girls have two and established marriages.
Are they ***s and I've just been clueless since they were sixteen?
Why doesn't my daughter send me her face page?
I feel terrible. Left out. Not trusted.
Pamela Neckpain

nervymeg
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   Posted 8/12/2008 10:28 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Pamela,

I'm sorry that you feel left out/not trusted, most likely your daughter just doesn't want mom seeing all her posts. Sometimes people "fudge" the truth a little bit on face page, and she may be worried you would spot it!!

I wouldn't be too concerned about the "I love you", I'm in my thirties and honestly I write it all the time too (I have many close friends I love - but that's just me).

Maybe let your daughter know you feel left out, talk about it. Daughters will always stress out mothers. It's there job. Take care.
 
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stkitt
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   Posted 8/13/2008 6:50 AM (GMT -7)   

Good morning Pamela Neckpain,

Your daughter is 30 and this sounds more like the behavior of  teens on behalf of her friend's Mother telling her what to do with her blog.

As they are on 2 different continents I would doubt that this is more then a close friendship.  Lots of people express their love of their friends by saying "Hey, Love you"

If your daughter prefers to keep her face page private I would not worry about it.  I do not feel, IMHO, that it is worth getting into with her.

You are her Mom and my own daughter does not share everything in her life with me..................

So, Mom, know she loves you or she would not have mentioned it to you at all.

Take care
Kitt


 

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Pamela Neckpain
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   Posted 8/13/2008 10:40 AM (GMT -7)   
Meg & Kit ...
Bless your hearts. I think your words helped me.
My daughter and I are very close and I should
have understood by myself. Sometimes we just
need a little help. You know?
Pamela
Why of why did my "L" words get bleeped. Those aren't dirty words are they??
I sure hope not.

stkitt
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   Posted 8/13/2008 10:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey Pam,
I am not sure how the system is set up to censor the words.  I had one censored the other day and had to laugh as it was not even being used in a bad context....................
 
Glad we could help you
Kitt


 

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Pamela Neckpain
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   Posted 8/13/2008 12:26 PM (GMT -7)   
I am going to be wild and crazy here. I am not being a smart aleck. I'm not
a teenager. I don't think this would be harmful for a 14 year old to read.
OK...Here goes:

The merry, happy, gay, ***s walked along the river toward the concert which
would be all acoustic and played on the beach. The day was 72 degrees, the sky
a soft blue with puffy clouds. They met up with other groups. All were joyous and
hungry. They sat down opened up their back packs and gobbled up their sandwiches
and cold drinks.

Pamela Neckpain
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   Posted 8/13/2008 12:32 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm apologize if someone has to edit for me. I just had to do this.
The only thing you can say is The L Word.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 8/14/2008 6:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Pamela
I took out last 2 posts lol
I have no idea why they are allowing some words and not others either
I tried it and got thru but this is really not the crux of the situation

I am here to say that even the closest of moms and daughter Cait and I are tied to one another
may not want what they have posted or messaged on facebook page
I know I do not go to caits place as I feel it would be an intrusion on my part but thats just me
IF I thought something funny was going on then I would be there in a flash ya know?

Take care
Talk in the morning
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Pamela Neckpain
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   Posted 8/15/2008 10:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Lyn,
You are sooo right. I would not want my daughter to read my "Anxiety Forum" or
my "Chronic Pain Forum." These are secrets that I want to keep from her. If she
knew the degree of pain I'm in, she'd be upset. If she knew my Anxiety, she'd pass
out. : -D
I don't want my daughter to get hurt in any way. There's a possibility that she
could be in a position of getting hurt.(Face Page) If that is so, that's the way it is. I'll always
I'll support her and want her to be happy in her heart. If there's something I need to
know, I'll learn in time.
You are a wise woman with a wild sense of humor.
Pamela Neckpain
Now what I'm thinking is this: If a young girl should find that she is "The L Word"
and she started to have Anxiety and Panic over the situation, she might come here.
And what happens here??? She's censored! Her panic would not be soothed.
She would not feel that she's ok. It's funny to me but it could be not funny if I
were 14 and had "L word" leanings.
I had to wait till I was 28! ha.Mine passed by rather swiftly. I wasn't a lifer. : )

FitzyK23
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   Posted 8/15/2008 10:56 AM (GMT -7)   
Pamela you made me laugh with your " i was a lifer statement." Many believe we are all a % homosexual its just a matter of what percent dominates our life. I also brought up my concern a while back about the L word being censored. Someone mentioned asking admin but I don't know what became of it. On the Crohns board my post got censored for typing Smart Water but without the space. That is because the last letter of smart and the first three letters of water put together make a swear word. It is a computer doing the editing and it can't tell the difference from a legit swear and an accidental one. But I think the L word most definitely should be taken off the list.
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Pamela Neckpain
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   Posted 8/16/2008 2:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Yup, Fitzy,
It's kinda like "Are we the whole pie or just a small slice." : )
It's late here in California and I just feel like sitting here and writing words
that I suspect would be edited by the computer.
With my luck, I wouldn't be able to delete them and they'd ALL go through
and I'd be removed from Forum.
I'll try just a little. Hang on!

**** **** **** **** **** **** $&!& ****
Pamela is hittin' the hay ...

Howlyncat
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   Posted 8/16/2008 5:03 AM (GMT -7)   
I really dont think she would be censored we have had many gays on here just has to watch what she is posting and know the rules hun
K
Luvs
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