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Carenpolar
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   Posted 8/14/2008 1:34 PM (GMT -7)   
 I really have high anxiety today... I went out on a date with a nice man... and then he really wanted a relationship with me. so I decided to tell him I have bipolar 1... IN case he couldnt handle that later it would be settled right away...
 
Then he canceled our date for this friday.. and said good bye..
 
thanks for letting me vent. I am still glad that I told him..
 
hugs, Caren

percycat
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   Posted 8/14/2008 2:17 PM (GMT -7)   
Aw, Caren, that's so disappointing. I'm glad you found out so early on that he's not able to handle that issue, but I'm sure it stings a little. Your value is not at all diminished by his attitude; you're a worthwhile and interesting person. Recognize your anxiety and disappointment as you are doing, but also applaud yourself for taking such a wise move, regardless of how it has turned out.

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nervymeg
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   Posted 8/14/2008 6:00 PM (GMT -7)   

Caren,

That was a brave and intelligent thing to do. You've figured out this guy isn't worth it early on. It may not feel like a good thing right now...but if he can't handle life's realities than he probably isn't as nice as he seems. Kudos to you..but hugs too. I hate it when people run from "us" people with "mood" disorders. I think you are wonderful :-)

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Howlyncat
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   Posted 8/14/2008 6:17 PM (GMT -7)   
I totally agree it is better to find out now than later
Some cannot handle what we have and others can
I know you will find love sweetie
Good post Megs ..S.I.S.
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   Posted 8/15/2008 9:32 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Caren,

As was stated above, I am happy that you found out how he was before you had acquired feelings for him. To me this is shallow on his part, but you are most likely better off without him. There will be others. And I think you did the right thing by being up front. This wont scare all men off. So please know that you are a wonderful, kind and caring person.

Best wishes for a wonderful day,

Luv and hugs, Karen...
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   Posted 8/16/2008 5:47 AM (GMT -7)   
How you doing hun
Are you alright with this or how are you feeling about it all
We are hear to listen

I am sure you are a bit hurt
We know what you are going thru

KNOW you are not alone

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blueanteater
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   Posted 8/20/2008 3:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Carenpolar,

That was extreamly brave of you. I have panic attack and anxiety. But as for you sharing that information with someone that you really didnt know I dont think that you did the right thing for yourself. Ok and just so I dont get hate mail I will tell you why. I think it is good for you to tell your significant other about your problem but not so soon into a relationship. Because really people who dont know anything about mental disorders really have nothing but the tv to go off of. So when they think about anything being mentally wrong it is something that is a huge big deal... like insane crazy person. Not the person who takes meds and works on getting better, that you would never even guess that they had a problem by looking at them.
All I am saying is dont make this your cruch or a way to chase off great guys.

Good luck.
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