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Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/21/2008 10:55 AM (GMT -7)   
I had the displeasure of learning that soon 37 Years ago (1 Year before I was born) my Aunt (my late Father's Sister) was named Beneficiary of a Life Insurance my Father had.Why am I furious?!?!Because my Biological Mother was still living!SHE should have been Beneficiary,and after her death my now late Step-Mother should have been.This is how greedy,shady,sneaky and conniving my Aunt is!She more than likely thought that she was gonna eventually get her Hands on a BIG Life Insurance Policy.Well,she didn't coz Dad didn't keep the Premium paid!Still that isn't the point..Greedy People make me ILL!My Anxiety is through the Roof and my Chest feels tight..I could curl up and cry at the Nerve of this greedy Sow! mad shakehead mad shakehead
 
 


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   Posted 8/21/2008 12:02 PM (GMT -7)   
Could there be another reason? Did she co-sign a loan? For example, I need a co-signor for law school loans. Those will survive my death so to protect my co-signor I have a life insurance policy in his name.
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   Posted 8/21/2008 12:11 PM (GMT -7)   
Whatever the reason, it's the past. Living in the past makes no room for a bright/ happy future.

The world is FILLED with shady, greedy people. Just know you're good, kind and real and that's all that should matter
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   Posted 8/21/2008 1:28 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sydnee,

These guys are right, there could be many reasons that she was benificiary. Whoever takes out the policy, makes that decision.

What I am concerned about at this time, is your reactions to things. I have read a few of your threads and I see you going through the roof with things. This is not healthy for you. Your stress level goes up, which in turn makes your anxiety level go up. That can raise your blood pressure and cause all kinds of problems. Plus at this time of frustration, you aren't happy. You deserve to be happy Sydnee. So would you allow yourself to be? I think that you are entitled to that much.

You see, it is our reaction to things that is what is important. Like Peacesoul said, leave it in the past. Living in the past makes no room for a bright/happy future. That is so true. Life is short enough as it is, why spend it unhappy?

I know that you are ashamed to go to counseling in your town, but is there a town nearby that you could go to and get some help? I drive fifty miles to see my psychiatrist and psychologist. That was the closest at the time I started. And that has been five years now. I don't know where I would be without them.

Sydnee, I feel a lot of anger in your posts and i just want you to know that you don't have to feel that way. You can be happy and contented with your life.

Also like was said above, there will always be greedy people in this world, just be glad that you aren't one of them. You are a wonderful person and you deserve to feel good. I really think that counseling would help. Besides what is wrong with trying to sort things out and improve ourselves? I wish that you would make an appointment and see that counselor.

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peacesoul
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   Posted 8/21/2008 2:12 PM (GMT -7)   
GREAT post Karen, you're such a gem :-)

Sydnee, I found a woman in my city who gives therapy over the phone. There HAS To be therapists in the US that do this as well.
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   Posted 8/21/2008 5:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Sydnee,

Feeling taken advantage of, or that someone you love has been taken advantage of, is certainly a trigger for anxiety. I know that when I get really burned up about something, I can't get the obsessive thoughts out of my head about it. Then I get anxious about how I ought to respond. Should I let the culprit have it? Would that do me any good? Would it make them stop? Which is best for me?

Sometimes I decide that yes, they did something inexcusable and need to be called on it. Other times I recognize that they don't care and will not stop behaving in this way, so I'm not going to upset myself by acting as their missing conscience. Either way, once I've decided how I want to respond and done so, I'm able to push the anger-anxiety out. With your aunt, you may want to ask what's the healthiest way for *you* to deal with her. It seems that that part of your family really gets a rise out of you, so I hope you can find the response that is best for you. The same type of thinking might help with your sister-friend who's not always such a good friend.

Hugs,
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   Posted 8/21/2008 6:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Its never good to hold onto anger. Besides if she's all that Greedy she'll get what she deserves in due time. The old saying, What comes around goes around is quite true. Be patient, you'll see, soon enough. God works in mysterious ways. He'll make sure she gets whats coming to her.
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   Posted 8/21/2008 6:52 PM (GMT -7)   

Sydnee,

Anger causes wrinkles!! I can understand your frustration with this, but holding on to anger only makes US sick and bitter. Let it go (and save a fortune on wrinkle cream!) lol

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   Posted 8/22/2008 1:45 PM (GMT -7)   
I want to add that this issue is moot and in the past. I agree with some of the other posters that if your Dad wanted your Aunt as beneficiary that is his choice and he probably had some reason he wanted it that way.

I wanted to share a saying someone once told me "You can't move forward when your always looking in the rearview mirror".

I hope you have a peaceful day.
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   Posted 8/22/2008 3:35 PM (GMT -7)   

Sydnee,

IMHO, I agree with the members that have adviced you to let go of the anger and leave it in the past.

For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness.  ~Author Unknown


 

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Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/30/2008 2:37 AM (GMT -7)   

Fitzy,

I can't be 100% certain,but after a bit of thought,it's a possibility my Biological Mother may have been Beneficiary until her death.If she was Beneficiary I can understand Dad naming another,however when he married my Step-Mother she should have been named Beneficiary.

Saying the above,I have this feeling that my Aunt has been Beneficiary all along because she is "slick" and a Money hungry Cow!She probably thought that one Day she was going to pocket a BIG Life Insurance.Well,Dad didn't keep the Premium paid,so she didn't get it! tongue


 


Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/30/2008 2:41 AM (GMT -7)   

Peacesoul,

You are correct when you said it's the past,however I got screwed!I don't like being screwed especially when I didn't enjoy it!If Dad would have kept the Premium paid and the Beneficiary had been changed into my Step-Mother's name and she being deceased,I would have received the LI.


 


Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/30/2008 2:55 AM (GMT -7)   

Karen,

You don't know my Aunt.She can almost always talk weak,sick,grieved and disabled People into doing anything.This is how "smooth" she is.My Father's final Wife told me Dad did most everything she (Aunt) told him to do.Yes,I'm carrying lots of anger around,however have very good reasons.The Legal System says I have to contend with these witches until Dad's affairs are settled.I'm NOT ashamed to go to Therapy,I'm upset about something a previous Therapist jotted in her notes.Doctor's and Therapists write whatever they want even if it's untrue.I'm sure some (or all) will disagree (and that's OK coz we're entitled to our opinions),but I deem anger a normal and natural Human emotion just like happiness or sadness.I wouldn't want to be stuck in the same emotion mode all the time.In my line of thought,it isn't "normal".I would rather be angry,cry and get it over with than pretending everything is OK (when it's not) and it eating me up inside.


 


Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/30/2008 2:56 AM (GMT -7)   

Peacesoul,

Does this Therapist only operate from your City and does Insurance cover?


 


Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/30/2008 3:01 AM (GMT -7)   

Percycat,

When my loved ones and I are used or taken advantage of,it doesn't set well.I told my Attorney in March that when Dad's Final business is settled,I completely wash my Hands of my Aunt and the Sister in-law.These Women would wear out the Saints of the most high God!The Healthiest way to deal with my Aunt is to stop every line of communication with her.She is Toxic to the MAXX!My Sister Friend creates a lot of her problems.When I move we won't have much contact if any at all.


 


Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/30/2008 3:05 AM (GMT -7)   
Lovethefuzz,
Aunt is already getting what she deserves.In fact she and the Sister in-law both are and it's suffering ill Health.Karma is a gritch!Instead of continuing to Legally fight them of there wrongdoings which is only taking more of my Inheritance away,I decided to let go and let God.
 


 


Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/30/2008 3:06 AM (GMT -7)   

Meg,

If I get Wrinkles like a Sister of my Biological Mother and they're witch of a late Mother,I'll get Botox! tongue



 


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   Posted 8/30/2008 9:16 AM (GMT -7)   

Sydnee,

You are correct about Anger.

Remember that anger is not wrong as it is a normal human emotion. We are born with the ability to feel anger.

There are times when we should get angry and stand up for our rights or the rights of others who cannot do it for themselves.

It is when this anger is not controlled that we get into trouble so please don’t let your anger consume you.

I am so happy that you are setting goals and planning for a positive outcome once your Father's estate is settled.

Bles you
Kitt


 

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Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/30/2008 12:27 PM (GMT -7)   

Kitt,

I'm angry at what was done to my late Biological Mother,Dad,Step-Mother and Grandmother.I've witnessed numerous times how these Women treated them and know the wrongs committed against them.

I am also angry at what they've done to me.Two of the many reasons I came out of this House was to stand up for myself and to protect my best interests.If I hadn't of they would have taken what I had left. 

I'm going to move,finish School,obtain a Professional Career,Travel (America and abroad) and do things Sydnee wants to do with her life!



 


stkitt
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   Posted 8/30/2008 4:56 PM (GMT -7)   

Sydnee,

Good for you, stick to it and don't let anything stand in your way of making your goals a reality.

Take care
Kitt


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   Posted 8/30/2008 6:13 PM (GMT -7)   

Bless botox!

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Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/30/2008 8:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Indeed bless Botox! tongue

 


Sydnee10
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   Posted 8/30/2008 8:58 PM (GMT -7)   

Kitt,

All I have left is my 2 Legs to stand on and that's exactly what I'm going to do.



 

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