You mentioned a while ago that you were considering moving away from the town you live in to get away from the toxic people in your life. Is this still your plan?
IMHO you would be better off channeling your emotional energy into getting your anxiety under control than being angry with your family. It doesn't sound like they deserve your time or energy.
Take care of yourself, this difficult time will pass and you will be stronger for it.
Good Morning Sydnee,
I am sorry you are continuing to feel so much anxiety and anger over the finanacial situation. You are dealing with some toxic people and this is where you have to cut the strings and take care of you. Let go of the anger and start to work on you and getting better.
I am going to post the online CBT site for you again. Please use it to help you. Only you are responsible for how you respond to others. Love yourself and take care of you. You can do this.
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
Upon finalizing my Father's affairs and tending a few other personal matters I am moving out of State to finish my Bachelors before attending a College of Naturopathic Medicine,so yes it is still my plan.
Actually my Anxiety is much much much better and screw my Family!On Dad's side..a Relationship with Family with the exception of an Uncle and a Cousin is irreparable.
Anxiety is actually better..just feeling anger toward my Aunt and a Sister in-law to she and Dad.They are control freaks,evil,greedy,selfish and self-centered and love NOTHING more than to create problem.I have no other choice but to contend with them until Dad's final business is finalized because of the Legal System.Thank you for the link..
I am starting anew.Pressing forward without People who've caused me pain and grief.
I'm upset because my Aunt called my Attorney creating problems for me.
She has been problematic 10 + Years (unless she began earlier behind my Back and I'm unaware).
When my Grandparent's were living..my Family shared and helped each other.
I started taking Anti-Anxiety again July 6 and it is tremendously helping,however it's the having to stay in my current situation.
Post Edited (Sydnee10) : 8/30/2008 6:03:23 AM (GMT-6)
I am glad to hear you have plans and goals, kudos for making them. The estate auction is a good idea as when my Mom died that is what I did. Did not make much but at least someone else cleaned out the apartment and she lived 100 miles from me. Sometimes you do what is best for your anxiety and at the time I was working full time. No one to help me out so the auction was great.
As far as the toxic relatives, I would suggest telling them to have their lawyer contact yours. They should not even be talking to yours. Your lawyer works for you not for these people who have caused you problems for over 10 years. I say kick those relatives to the curb as soon as you get things settled.
Remember to stay in the moment sweetie.
I questioned the ethics of she calling my Attorney.I inquired him and he told me it would be unethical if he called her.Her call made for big problems for me.My Attorney became extremely critical,harsh and interrogated me.To prevent myself from asking him just who are you working for and who's paying you,I had to bite my Tongue off.Dad's Sister is an old Sow from way back.
Really it depends on how much is made from the Sale if I get a Car or not.I'm also considering selling my Grandparent's Home that was Legally given me.The House is over 105 Years old,dates back to Indian Territory and will take at least $20,000 to renovate.It sits next Door to the Sister in-law,so why would I want to torture myself with her as a Neighbor?YES I'm going to move out of State!
Aunt is trying to make me to appear someone who can't manage Money.The problem is:I do NOT have enough Money to streeetch!It takes Money and a good amount of it to live as high as everything is.
She doesn't know what it's like to survive on what I do.She intrudes in my private and personal affairs when she's waaay behind on Taxes to her Business.
A former Employee told me when she worked for Aunt..she was $500 in the hole and she owes a Cousin $8,000 and hasn't paid her.
She goes and calls my Attorney,yet 2 Weeks ago Today calls (blocks her number out so I wouldn't know who was calling) and told me she had a proposal.She told me she would take me to Wal-Mart Supercenter the next Day so I could buy Groceries..suggested a place we go and eat and asked if I had been to a couple of Stores.I called her Sunday Morning and told her,"I'm sorry,but I've been up all Night cleaning House and just can't make it Today."I could hear her seething underneath her breath.
I honestly believe the Stress is what has driven my Blood Sugar up,but hard to believe my Blood Pressure was 118/78 at my Doctor's Appointment July 2.I've never had high BP though.
Great advice from Karen..............I think I mentioned the lawyer issue too.
I will let you work with Karen and I hope you get your estate squared away. Keep hoping for the good stuff in life.
But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently. ~Romans 8:25~
Post Edited (stkitt) : 8/30/2008 11:16:16 AM (GMT-6)
I figure we need goals..a direction for our lives..we have to have and make a life,so setting and obtaining goals are a must..life isn't gonna come to us..we got to go get it.
Before I mentioned holding an Estate Auction to my Attorney,I called and talked with my Dad's Eldest Brother who is a self taught Auctioneer since Childhood and asked if he would Auction off the personal Property to the highest bidder..he told me he would..
I want my Attorney present to supervise Monies and want to make sure it isn't squandered..
I live a 10-15 minute drive away and don't think it a good idea I be present to watch my loved one's belongings and memories sold..
After my Aunt called my Attorney she and SIL went to converse (gripe and complain about me) with the Estates Attorney.My Attorney told me the EA practically laughed at my Aunt and that she could barely get a word in coz my Aunt was flapping her Jowls non-stop.She is making an Arse of herself!
I feel blessed that my Blood Pressure is good and my Heart goes out to those who aren't as lucky.You must have what is called "White Coat Syndrome".There are People who don't normally have high BP who has high BP when they go to Doctor.
Yes I can scan my calls.I usually know who is calling if/when it shows up private name..private number,but when it says unknown name..unknown number,I don't always know.The latter is what shows up most times when she calls.I will stop answering UN/UN calls.
Couple Weeks ago was talking with a Man who personally knows my Aunt and her first ex-Husband.He told me,"Your Aunt is slick."She IS!I do NOT trust her!
She is a fine work of Art.She gets her crap from her first ex-Husband who is an arsehole to begin with,but was Military.No disrespect to the Military or those who have loved ones in the Military.
My Attorney knows what she and the SIL are.He told my Sister Friend and me too that they hate me because my Dad left me with everything.
Law is a very new experience.He is the second Attorney I've consulted with and hired.One Day he may be sweet as Pie and the next as mean as a Bull.He's young,cocky and "wet behind the Ears".
They (Aunt and SIL) are already getting that what comes around goes around..they both having Health problems.
I think by closing Dad's Estate and knowing like my Attorney and everyone else that know they are guilty of many wrongdoings will help by giving me more Money to live.
Was talking with a Friend on Telephone earlier..got sleepy,so took a nap..
These 2 Family members should never have been left to finalize Dad's affairs.They coerced him a sick and grieved Man into believing he could trust them.
I'm very sorry you were put through a similiar nightmare.I have learned first Hand that Family will turn on us faster than anyone.
Oh my Sydnee, if your Aunt shows up at my house to check my carpet I will let my dog meet her and greet her.............lol. I have a Doberman with a big bark.
I will keep praying that all your goals will be met.